How important is physical attraction in a serious relationship?

[BrightBubblyKat]

[caring__1]

Haven't you ever found someone attractive one minute and unattractive the next? Attractiveness is more than just physical features. A lot of it has to do with how we feel about ourself. If you feel smart, you'll look smart. If you feel sexy, you'll look sexy. If you feel loved, you'll look gorgeous. The deeper we know a person, the more their inner beauty comes out. It is the blend of inner and outer beauty that determines a person attractiveness. What is gorgeous to one may be bland to another. It's about the connection you have with the person.

Though attraction is important to fuel our desire for intimacy, which is a key component of nurturing the special connection in a healthy relationship, no two people will experience the same energy from any person. Understand that intimacy has little to do with sexual performance. The deeper the connection, the more we tend to actually feel what the other is feeling, adding special meaning to any experience. Even doing chores together can become meaningful.

I actually tend to shy away from the image of beauty society seems to promote, as it tends to be high maintenance and fake. Fancy makeup, hair, nails, clothing and other enhancements are seen by me the same as putting lipstick on a pig. You can't change what is by merely covering it up. I understand how correcting a perceived flaw can improve how a person views him/herself, and that improved self-esteem can improve attractiveness, but I rarely see the flaws others view as so atrocious. Making the most of what's already there is more attractive in my eyes than any enhancement. Just like the beauty of nature, natural beauty of a human will always hold more value than any coverup. When you visit the forest, do you savor the natural beauty surrounding you, or do you cringe from all the dirt on the ground? Actually, what increases people's attractiveness is totally within their control... SMILE.

[Chazmatazz269]

It is THE primary demand for all sexual relationships. This is a fact of evolutionary biology. So anyone who suggests otherwise is grossly ignorant or lying.

[Jessica405]

Not very important, once you get to know a guy. My guy of 6+ years is not the best looker. He is just a plain nice guy. Like my dad was. Never ever let me down. My partner for life.

[SnowedIn]

Bravo and well said.

[Passing_by]

Pretty important I'd say. I will have to find someone attractive enough to kiss and have sex with while getting along with them mentally too.

[Anonymous]

Its super important in my opinion, because looks are what attract two people in the first place.

[TacosRAwesome]

Quite important.