How important is physical attraction to a relationship?

[LazarusTheRisen]

There is this girl I like.. I really like her personality, she pushes me, she supports me, we click and have chemistry. She has a great body but her face just isn't super appealing. She isn't ugly, just doesn't have that face that makes me attracted to her personally.. can we be in a successful relationship or can anybody, or is it going to fail because of a face?

[Anonymous]

Physical attraction matters on some level like you want a partner who is neat and looks well even when you're older but especially at the initial stage. It's what attracts us first to people since we see them first before we get to know them.

But you seem to know her already and you like her personality and she seems like a good person so it is up to you now if you can see past her physical features. It's really up to you if you will like her less just because you dont find her as pretty or if you will accept her as a whole. The fact that you're even asking this suggests that you are still bothered by physical looks and perhaps, on some level, you don't really love her yet, so ask yourself whether it is worth losing her for something as simple as her appearance.

I'm not judging you though. We're visual beings and even I consider appearances. Just don't hurt her by leading her on or telling her you don't like her face or something. It would also be great if you learn to see past all that shit. Goodluck

[LazarusTheRisen]

You get the best female answer once it let's me choose

[LazarusTheRisen]

To bad you are anonymous. Not sure if it will give you the credit

[btbc92]

If you already think of her that way than just no point in you even trying to pursue or say that you left somebody that you know you're not attracted to. And he answered just going to get hurt, feel insecure, and they may not be able to trust a man again because I how you're treating her. The real question is how much is it important to you because not everybody is the same. Would you want to be treated that way? Then don't treat somebody that way that you don't want to be treated.

[LazarusTheRisen]

I don't understand what you are telling me. I'm sorry

[btbc92]

What do you want? That's the overall question. What is your intent for wanting to get into a relationship and why would you want a relationship with her? Do you want to love her or if she did to physically please you? You're the one that has to decide to make that decision because you as a man of physically visual sexually more than a woman is. You can't say you love her for certain things but then you're attracted to other things. If you're not physically attracted to her for anything then don't pursue her. Because in the end she's going to get hurt either way. A woman who's already feel insecure enough, is going to God forbid cheat or run away from you. Some women especially left myself do not want to be seen or chosen for our physical. But that's that's what's really important to you and you can't help certain things, walk away now. We rather not be hurt for irrational reasons.

[btbc92]

A woman's entire self-image is going to be based on whether or not you want to have sex with her or not. Because if you don't even want to be with her then she's going to feel like she doesn't have any self worth. Don't get anyone's hopes up. Because in the end you going to have to sacrifice something. Sexual attraction or her heart. Because apparently in this situation since you already said you're not attracted to her face, you're not going to be able to have both.

[Anonymous]

Physical attraction is the most important thing in a relationship. When you look at a profile you look at her face/ physical, the writing/ information bull shit comes second. When a woman is on the Dr. Phil show talking about when her husband beat the shit out of her and Dr. Phil will ask " Why did you go back to him?" . The woman always will say " Because he is nice looking" and " I don;t want some other girl to have him" . I have seen this numerous times. Physical attraction carries relationships through in the baddest of times. Money/ assets and or kiss ass, nice personality can compensate for the lack of physical attraction, but when they are gone there is nothing left to stand on. I have first hand knowledge of this, my ex- wife had no physical attraction to me and I lost my assets.

[btbc92]

Are you sure it isn't because you don't love yourself so you picked a woman that didn't even love you to begin with? Because I'm pretty sure what you mean you don't really believe that. A woman who love you would not treat you like garbage plain and simple. That may be the standard so the world but you the one that had chosen to pick a worldly woman. If you believe physical attraction is the most important thing in a relationship than that's why your wife left you. Not because she had no attraction to you. Because you're showing me where she can't be attracted to you because in the end you don't even feel that you have self worth.

[btbc92]

Because I can tell you my personal experience. You can be the most perfect person in the world and people will still not want you. They may use you. But that doesn't mean they love you.

[btbc92]

I think with the main problem is not just what I spoke about. But you more likely pick the woman that just settle for less to begin with because you were the only person that ever paid attention to her. So when she found someone better than she left you for that person. That was more likely horrible the entire time. I'm sorry to say but you was used from the get go.

[slatyb]

Facial flaws are the easiest to see past. I still kick myself for refusing to date a lovely young women who sadly had extensive acne scarring. Otherwise she was just beautiful physically and extremely bright.

[ItsTheNephilim]

It's as important as you make it.