How important is physical attraction to you in a relationship?

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valentina4eva · Accepted Answer

physical attraction is important for me!!💯 esp when first talking to a guy, if i wasn’t attracted to him at all then i prolly wouldn’t be super interested romantically😅 but who he is, his personality, how he treats me etc are all super important too!!😊😊

WhitneySnow · Accepted Answer

It’s important, without it we’d be just friends, but it’s definitely not the most important thing. Personality is.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

As a relationship coach, I'm all about helping people connect! Physical attraction is spicy and fun, but it's not the whole meal. It's more like the appetizer – tasty, but not enough to fill you up. A relationship thrives on communication, trust, and understanding. Falling in love with someone’s inner beauty can turn them into the most attractive person in your eyes. So, don't just focus on the surface; dive into the deep end and discover the magic beneath! 💫🔥

HawkPerception · Answer

I wouldn't date someone I don't find attractive. I want to be able to call my partner beautiful, sexy, gorgeous, stunning, and genuinely mean it. However, it doesn't matter how physically attractive a girl is if she has a shitty personality. Physical attraction and personality go hand in hand.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I would say physical attraction matters at the beginning but not in the middle or end. I dated a guy I was physically attracted to like crazy and after one week, I no longer cared what he looked like.

AviatorTom · Answer

Physical attraction is very important... but not necessarily all the time.

Anonymous · Answer

Physical attraction is important how what most answers on here fail to state, and this goes to the women and girls who said attraction is important. What happens when we get older, lose those muscles, lose the hair, develop elderly symptoms or ailments, get wrinkles, aren’t as funny as we used to be, as youthful as we used to be. Then what? Are we just stuck being miserable forever?

Looks matter but it’s the heart of that person. It’s hearing their voice on the phone when they call and it makes you smile. I’ve known a ton of “attractive” girls but there’s a reason why I’m not with them. Sure, many of those attractive girls were immature and used me just for attention til they found something “better”, but knock on wood ✊ wt my age I still play sports and exercise. I remember back in jr high my so called guy friends who I no longer speak to never asked me to play basketball with them during lunch break and recess even though they knew I could play. But at that time they just didn’t think I was cool enough and that’s why eventually by high school we all broke off and went our separate ways in life. Decades later, these guys are lazy and overweight, I stayed in shape and still can play basketball with guys in their teens, 20s and 30s (no joke).

I’m saying this because it’s interesting how life goes sometimes where people don’t value what you offer and they assume they can do better. I’m not trying to be an asshole but I think women and girls don’t think about how they treat guys they may string along and hurt by choosing another guy as the “better” option but who’s to say that guy gets a disease or physical condition in life where you have to take care of him. I don’t wish bad upon people and we are free to make our own choices. I know if a girl reads this she’ll be like oh so what are you gonna marry a fat girl? No I wouldn’t and that’s why I understand about choices. I just look back at my life and I think I’m a decent looking dude, not the tallest, not the strongest.

But I offer more to the people table. Because if I merely went by attraction, Pamela Anderson would be my end all be all Woman from the 90s, but I’m not delusional. A girl can be cute and have a bubbly, awesome personality, and that’s good enough for me. I just feel like women have a larger check list for “attraction”. Like me personally, if a girl or woman doesn’t care about God, I don’t care if she looks like prime Angelina Jolie, I’m not dropping values for a pretty face.

EzraIsShy76028 · Answer

I mean it's not THE most important thing or anything, but it'd be hard to make it work in the long run if I find the person repulsive looking.

Been there done that with one of my exes actually. She was really nice (or seemed so at first) but I wasn't attracted to her in the slightest. For reference she was something like 4'9 and 350 pounds. So you could probably guess why I wasn't attracted.

In the end though she turned out to be a horrible person anyway. She only pretended to be nice to lure me in. So she didn't have looks OR personality.

Now I'm hypersensitive/paranoid about any woman I'm not attracted to being interested in me because I REALLY don't want a repeat situation. I try not to be rude but any time I notice an unattractive woman being excessively nice to me (nicer than she usually acts with other people) or whatever I won't lean into it. I'll just sort of be like "okay, thank you so much, have a nice day, bye" like not insulting them but also making it obvious I'm not interested in them in THAT sort of way.

Vevv123 · Answer

There is nothing more ugly than an ugly personality. If someone is ugly inside or we are simply not compatible there is nothing that can save them. I have to get to know someone to start thinking of them in a physically attractive way and that’s when I start noticing their features and they become attractive in every way. It’s hard to explain, but everything becomes perfect.

Purpleronnie · Answer

Physical attraction as I interpret it has a scale and generally is what draws me to any woman , the more I’m drawn to her , the more I find out “who” she is. This can make her more attractive or help me disregard her or completely dismiss her.

Conversely , being around a woman who I maybe wouldn’t consider to be immediately physically attractive can allow me that same chance of getting to know her and then aspects of her personality and character can stand out because of their appeal to me and so she can become “more” attractive

Also I think I tend to look harder for aspects of personality and character that I could love and find attractive because of the simple fact that physical attraction on its own , well that doesn’t mean much and will obviously fade as we age , who a woman is and more importantly who she is to me is vastly more important

On_cloud_wine · Answer

I met some shitty personalities when I first found them physically attractive.. Then there are the ones that I grew fond of over time after getting to know them because they have a beautiful soul.

So I DON’T judge a book by its cover.. let’s just say that

Lliam · Answer

Very important.
I wouldn't date someone unless I found them physically attractive. That isn't to say that I was necessarily attracted to glamorous or fashion model girls. I like a cute face and certain type of body. You know, real girls/women; girl-next-door types.

Personality, voice, mannerisms and things like that are equally important, but I do have to find her physically attractive.

beenherebefore · Answer

To me personally is a deal breaker if I’m not attracted to you the relationship is not going to work.

jazzy34 · Answer

I have to be attracted to him. If not, I don't think the relationship would work. It's not THE most important thing, but it's definitely up there.

SixFootSexy · Answer

It is a peak requirement to be and feel mutually desired in a relationship. I had an ex that told me I was handsome and talented nearly every day, that makes a person believe in yourself. When the other person feels like they're just "tolerating" you or think you're simply average, who wants that?

Whether that's physical or otherwise, it's important to any romantic companionship in my opinion. I don't want to just be good "friends" or essentially roommates.

tzdc21 · Answer

It's very important, but its only half the requirement. Beauty means absolutely nothing without character

Brandi555 · Answer

It’s definitely important but his personality is more important. Is he intelligent, caring, honest, funny, respectful, responsible, etc.

lorenzomichael · Answer

It probably is a 6 out of 10 on my chart. Looks will fade, but what she sees in me and what’s in her heart and inside of her will last forever physical attraction is temporary but shearing each other to one another that’s forever well at least it should be.

Beckybooboo · Answer

I feel it's what causes an attraction from the start.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

The cold, hard fact is that I simply don't wanna closely hang out and eventually fuck around with a mediocre or, worse, an ugly man.  So, yeah, "eye candy" is important to me.

Babygirl_S · Answer

As important as it is to anyone else but there are certain people who want a huge disparity between them and their woman. Maybe a black soldier who wants a young East Asian woman should not be racist.

Katebfun · Answer

Slightly. I prefer the medium ugly man who is intelligent, funny and kind. Vs the super hot guy that's into himself. Inner beauty, a good heart and sharp mind is so much more attractive then "Looks"

Caroline91 · Answer

It's definitely part of the mix, but there has to be a whole lot more.

katiesmuff · Answer

I can't figure out how anyone would be in a relationship if there was no physical attraction.

TalkWithoutSpeaking · Answer

For me physical attraction is very important. It's one of those non-negociables. It's a part of the whole, which means it's not everything (not even close) but it's an integral part of the whole

Ferngully2000 · Answer

Yes 💯 is important, relationships can occur with it or to a lesser degree based on comfort and compatibility, but then the relationship can feel like something is missing or a bit platonic.

Knightwatch27 · Answer

Very important. It isn't the most important thing, but physical attraction matters for compatibiltiy and sex life. The low quality of which can breed resentment or gradual disinterest.

Anonymous · Answer

It's not the most important thing but it matters. Her personality matters a lot more especially if...😆😆😆 I'm sorry, I can't say this b. s. without laughing.

Did I sound believable though? I was trying to post a composite response of all the pink accounts on this question.😆

Nikki1989 · Answer

It is a small bonus but hardly essential. I am interested in what is on the inside.

CorneliaUSA · Answer

Not that much. For me it's about chemistry! Beauty/handsome fades. If your don't have chemistry, then what do you have left?

Shiprex · Answer

The physical attraction comes secondary to spiritual and mental attraction for me.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Personality is first and foremost.  I have to like who I am with.

Damcky · Answer

Very. You have to see that person everyday. She should give the guy an erection, every time he thinks naughty about her.

DrPepper12 · Answer

For an intimate relationship is very important for my relationship with a lot of you here I've come to admire and respect you simply based on your words

MizzArtFreak89 · Answer

Well I have to be attracted to the person but he doesn’t have to be a 10/10. Plus a good personality is important. I do want him to take care of himself

Staximus · Answer

If there's no sexual attraction you might as well just be friends

Nonamez · Answer

Simply a lot , but mainly not a beauty itself, but person needs to be fit and healthy 🙏🥰

EmmaMary · Answer

It certainly helps! lol

Joshydavid25 · Answer

It's one of the very reasons people get into relationships with people theh otherwise either would be friends with, or not like much..

Billlewis · Answer

Less important to me than most of the women whom I'm attracted to, apparently.

Anonymous · Answer

Physical attraction isn't everything but it's very important to me. As bad as this sounds, I don't think I would be able to be in a relationship with someone I wasn't physically attracted to.

dragoblack · Answer

Its really important. Physical attraction is almost always the reason anyone takes the first step

LiamS95 · Answer

Initially it's important to have some physical attraction, I find thou that physical attraction usually increases with time the more you get to know and feel comfortable with the person.

George200025 · Answer

I think it is probably less important the older you get because other things start to matter more.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

1,000,000% important. The girls I'm not attracted to are friends.

Alex-Snow · Answer

Personality and intelligence are the most important. But I have been lucky enough to have had food looking girlfriends to have sex with

Anonymous · Answer

I'm single but I think physical attraction is actually quite important in a relationship.

Ben30 · Answer

Very high my partner’s physical attention comes first above all else

SotiCoto · Answer

Pretty fucking important, even if I don't much care for sex. I like to look.

Anonymous · Answer

Extremely important. I can’t fall for someone I’m not attracted to.

HelenaHandbasket · Answer

initially: very  Later on: less and less.

Likes2drive · Answer

Important enough to keep me interested or it never works out

dudeinohio · Answer

About 40%. The rest is personality.

MOUTHWASHING · Answer

EXTREMELY IMPORTANT. IT IS WHAT MAKES IT A RELATIONSHIP AND NOT JUST FRIENDSHIP

BigSwingingBalls · Answer

its essential and the first thing you notice

Chthou95 · Answer

Very important. I couldn't be with a woman im not physically attracted to

thegreenyogi · Answer

I would say that for me personally it's important.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

It’s obviously important to an extent, but one built solely on that will inevitably fail.

JailyneMariaH · Answer

yessss

Wise4myage · Answer

Its very important.

cindy5 · Answer

It's an important factor.

sinestro23 · Answer

might be one of the most important things..

Bunnybuny · Answer

Very

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