HELP ME PLEASE, should I let him touch me?

[Anonymous]

my boyfriend n i has been dating for 3 months, i'm 15 n he's about to turn 16, i think in the last month he started kissing n touching me and it felt good n i wanted more tbh but every time after he touches me i feel like it's not right n i feel like if people find out they'll say sth about me. my bff told me not to let him touch cuz it'll keep going to sth more. one time, we went on only one date but we went to watch 2 movies but we didn't actually watch the movie we just made out n touch each other n he told me he felt the heat which means he have the feeling of wanna have sex i guess but then i felt guilty. i've been away for 2 weeks n just came back a few days ago n we just got back tgt, today we made out n he grabbed my ass n starting to go near my boobs then he grabbed it (it wasn't the first time) then i laid on the floor n he sat on me starting to suck my lips like he usually do n kept touching it felt good at the moment n i wanted more he even likes to grab my hands to touch his private part (d***) after every time he touches i feel guilty n disgusting r sth (idk how to explain) i'm scared people will find out I don't know what to do i just kept panicking. I don't know if i should let him keep doing it, should i?

[Splintercell]

First I would set boundaries. If you are feeling uncomfortable, set those boundaries. If he cares for you he will respect those boundaries. Second what is the goal of the relationship? Just to date or does it lead to marriage? By the sound of it, it’s moving quickly towards sex. If he can’t respect the boundaries, end the relationship.

I highly recommend reading “the sacred search”, it’s an excellent book.

[Asker]

i told him and he said he'll stop and he did for awhile but then he said he can't control it then he start doing it agn

[Splintercell]

I suggest taking the relationship slower. He needs to understand, this relationship is going somewhere that you two have or are discussing. Dating to just date, your going to drift. Yes there’s a lot of hormones raging, But if he cannot control himself and respect the boundaries then there’s no touching.

I set the boundaries with my ex-girlfriend, and when I struggled I told her. We took a break one night from kissing each other to simply cuddling. She appreciated that I was keeping to our set boundaries.

[Asker]

i told him and he said it's fine at least he got to spend time with me

[Splintercell]

Good I am glad to hear that. Now find out his goal for the relationship. The purpose of dating is to see if you two are compatible, that leads to marriage. Yes a lot to think about, but dating isn’t a casual fling but purposeful.

[Asker]

thanks so much but we're still young maybe we haven't reach the stage where we need to think about marriage yet

[Casey10101]

any reasonable guy will understand if you feel unconfortable, if you feel like thats moving too fast for you, then tell him, seriously, and if he doesn't respect that, then you know where he stands.

[Asker]

i told him and he said he'll stop and he did for awhile but then he said he can't control it then he start doing it agn

[J3nny]

if you’re not comfortable tell him to stop. if he doesn’t or makes fun of you dump him. also spell out words when you type. please

[Asker]

i told him and he said he'll stop and he did for awhile but then he said he can't control it then he start doing it agn

[J3nny]

yeah guys are like that sometimes. but you need to keep telling him or make him stop

[Asker]

got it, thanks so much

[kawaiiguineapig]

if you feel uncomfortable then don’t do it! tell him that afterwards you feel guilty.

[Asker]

i told him and he said he'll stop and he did for awhile but then he said he can't control it then he start doing it agn

[kawaiiguineapig]

girl that is the stupidest excuse. every man can control themselves. every single one. i suggest you get out of that situation ASAP before he says he “can’t control himself” and forces you into something worse.

[blkgold33]

Set some rules and don't let him touch you until you are comfortable with him

[Asker]

i told him and he said he'll stop and he did for awhile but then he said he can't control it then he start doing it agn

[blkgold33]

Then if you still don't like it and he keeps doing just slap him everytime he does it

[Asker]

wow haha

[Asker]

i told him and he said it's fine at least he got to spend time with me

[TeacherJay]

You should only do what your comfortable with. But literally every adult you know has grabbed boobs or gotten boobs grabbed. Ask yourself why though you think sexuality in that way is disgusting. We were literally programmed for it!

[Iron_Man]

Are you kidding me no way your underage kid. What if you get pregent? Its a disaster

[Asker]

i told him and he said he'll stop and he did for awhile but then he said he can't control it then he start doing it agn

[Iron_Man]

He's a user and is very selfish of your wishes. Why involve yourself with a guy that wants to brain wash you into that? Just say no and be done with him today

[Asker]

i'll communicate

[Asker]

i told him and he said it's fine at least he got to spend time with me

[Anonymous]

You are a guy who made this story up I know because I do this shit all the time to cause I think it’s funny how worked up people get even though it’s fake

[Asker]

i'm not a guy