Boyfriend doesn’t care about my birthday? (Page 3)
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1. He sounds like a loser. A. he's that broke for that long b. Instead of telling you he doesn't want you to go to the club he is passive aggressive.
2. No decent man is going to want you to go to a club without him. Thats just retarded. Wake up. You shouldn't need clarification about this.
I asked him to hang out on my birthday and he said “i can try to be available I’m not making any promises
Yea he's a loser. Dump him
Maybe he thought you'd want to have a quiet thing at home with him and/or a small group of friends that didn't cost much (since he's tight on cash) and is now annoyed you've decided to leave him out since he can't afford to go with you...
But when i asked him to hang out he said “i can try to be available I’m not making any promises “
I would go, If he acts like that I'd be stubborn and be like 'just watch me, I'm going'. And he didn't sound like he's got anything special proposed, so I would just go for it and have fun! It's my birthday. My day! Mine! <3
He didn’t even offer to come see me
Well he's not in the right to be pissed :p
Why would you go with s colleague? He probably thinks they are more special than him. And he could have a surprise for you.
I understand that he has no money. But you guys can do cheap things. Like go on a walk. Or go on a picnic.
Because when i asked him could we hang out he said “I’ll try to be available but I’m not making any promises”
Explain to him it means a lot to you and you don't like it. My husband was like that too.. but I kept asking him. Now he realises I like spending time with him on my birthday it also happens to be our anniversary.
Why should i have to do that when he wants someone to spend time with him and come see him on his birthday
You have to talk and speak up because he may not really understand how you feel. People are selfish and it's normal. So you have to show him your pain. Men don't like to upset their women. You just have to tell him you are upset and why and how he can improve.
No matter what there should be a gift.. for u.. I don't buy my mom nothing n she stopped buying shit since high school.. even if he pics flowers from the streets n dollar store card... can't buy gifts for every special. day if u got spoiled a Christmas or Valentine's day... then be happy.. but if he can't
Be there for u n celebrate u.. why shouldn't you accept from your friends.. his loss..
Its abit vague, but it sounds like he's either controlling or he's trying to dissuade you from going out that night. Maybe he has a surprise planned?
But yeah, no present for 2 years. Not even an arcade machine toy bear. WTF. When i was in school i gave a girl a hand drawn card for her b'day.
Sounds like a deadbeat.
My boyfriend works 12 hours a day, doesn’t have money and still put effort into making it a good day for me.
Chinese food and netflix is better than nothing. 🤷♂️
He didn’t even offer to hang out
Sounds like he doesn’t care. :/
😂he’s just mad because someone else is going out of their way to treat you.
Nothing but jealousy and insecurity pouring out 😆 he would rather you do absolutely nothing with him than for you to enjoy yourself without him
So, he makes decisions for you and tells you how you "really" feel? And you think YOU have to do something to fix this? Really? Slavery is illegal...
He didn’t make decisions for me
Oh?
"Him: no you don’t"
Explain please...
I thought he was trying to be funny
Right. Good luck.
Is your manager a guy?
Sounds like he is jealous that your going out, in a new dress and he’s stuck not going because he doesn’t manage his money correctly
She’s a female it’s ladies night out
Still could be jealous. Just thought there was a dude thing as well. I wouldn’t stress about it. It’s his issue and he needs to get through it. It isn’t your job to make him feel better about something that he shouldn’t feel anything about
He jealous and hurt your going clubbing.. He doesn't want you to go because he is afraid guys will flirt and hit on you.
That'd be my guess. You're out socializing without him. What would you expect when you leave someone at home like a pet.
@Spiritwander yes that is true.
He is upset because you are goin to do somethin for yo birthday without him basically.. He probably feels bad he can't do anything special for yo birthday, and thought to just go out with yo co-workers..
Not having money doesn’t mean you can’t do something nice. I made my ex his favorite dinner and gave him a massage with a happy ending afterwards for his birthday and he was ecstatic. Didn’t cost me anything.
That’s not the point he didn’t even offer to hang out
It’s literally the point. Hang out? You don’t ‘offer’ to hang out on your SO’s birthday. You just do it. If he doesn’t care about doing anything for your birthday then I would say he doesn’t care about putting much of any effort into the relationship. Sounds like quite honestly he doesn’t if it continues or if it just dies.
Oh wow, i wish i had a girlfriend like you. ☺
It sounds like he is insecure that he can't bring you out anywhere, or possibly about your former boss? is it a girl or a guy?
Female and he knows it’s a female
I don't know, this guy sounds possessive to think that he knows what you think. Don't date broke guys.
I think he is jealous of your manager, for taking you out to the club or whatever, and can't forgive himself that he can't.
My manager is a female
Doesn't matter. He most likely feels offended or guilty. Even if your manager is female, in his eyes, you will be having a great time with your manager, and dull time with him. It sucks. I grew up poor, and since I went to school and didn't work back when I had my first girlfriend, I was always broke. I'd try to save money the whole year, very small amounts, to buy her what it seemed to me very insignificant things. I don't know what she thought of it, because I never asked her, and didn't want to know actually, and we didn't even break up over my financial status. But, I remember, she'd go out with her friends, and most of the time, I had no money to go out with them, and I'd just lay in my bed all night thinking that she might meet someone financially better than me, and give up on me. It's like a grind in the stomach, a nasty feeling of guilt, that won't let you take your thought somewhere else.
I suggest you confront him and ask why is this happening. If it's because of what I think it is, assure him that it is no problem.
Maybe he was planning on just spending the day with you! If you really love someone that’s the best present of all!
I asked him to hang out and he said “I’ll try to be available I’m not making any promises though”
OMG! 🙄 I have no time for this kind of BS in relationships! I would get straight with him! Tell him to stop sulking like a child, and tell you what he wants, because you are not a mind reader!
Tell him if he doesn't have any plans to do anything for your birthday then you're gonna go
The issue is he's mad that you're going but he's not doing anything special for you do I say go
You're going to a night club without him? that's kinda a problem because it's extremely easy for girls to get laid at clubs 😅
Maybe he wants to spend time with you? ask him that
He didn’t offer to go out or hang out
so what will he do on that day? hanging out with his new gf?
:) :) :)
Probably
He’s jealous. He doesn’t like that you’re going out without him and he thinks other guys like you or are going to hit on you.
🤦🏼♀️
What do those emojis mean other than facepalm? Lol
Maybe he was planning something for your bday and he felt betrayed that you didn't ask him if he was going to get you anything and are going off with someone else for your bday