Do guys like overly affectionate girls or find them annoying?

[Anonymous]

Would you like a girlfriend that’s constantly affectionate with you - always wants to cuddle, make out, hold hands, kiss, hug etc. Or would you rather have a girl that keeps her distance more and find that behaviour clingy and annoying?

I love super affectionate girls

I find it annoying

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Also: explain WHY it may be a problem for you if a girl is super affectionate.

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Guys: how is YOUR girlfriend like in terms of physical affection?

[MDE427]

Honestly neither option is great but you only gave 2 choices.

A girl who is affectionate and wants to be close/touching at appropriate times is great (for me anyway). Probably not so great with major PDA though. Holding hands walking down the street is good - I actually love how my wife has always held my arm whenever we're walking somewhere like into a store. Once inside she may continue to hold on for a bit but then let go so we can shop.

When you are at home and alone, laying together, holding each other, cuddling... all great things! For me though, when its time to go to sleep, I need my space. I cannot do the whole spooning thing to fall asleep to.

I guess if a girl was 'super affectionate' all the time, public and private at home, it might be a little annoying if it's an all the time thing. You both need a little time for personal space, even if you are together in the same room. It's really a timing thing and also a frequency thing. Too much of anything is usually not a good thing. You need balance in your relationship.

[SuperManiac]

I like it although there might be some threshold (but I think mine is quite wide since I like holding hands and cuddling and so forth). The bigger question to me is not how affectionate she is when we're free together but how she's like if I'm busy or focused on something else. At some point, it can start to become distracting and annoying if I'm trying to focus on something and she's jumping on top of me and constantly trying to pull my attention away from or, much worse, gets upset when I can't cuddle with her 24/7.

[SuperManiac]

[...] she's jumping on top of me and constantly trying to pull my attention away from [something or someone] [...]

[SuperManiac]

But I'm talking about a pretty extreme scenario if it starts becoming irritating, and I usually some degree of possessiveness or jealousy in those cases. Say I'm talking to my friends at a social event and a girl keeps trying to take my attention away from them by hugging me and kissing me and so forth in front of them. The first few times might not bother me but if she keeps doing it, it starts to seem "needy" to me like she's not happy unless I devote *all* my attention to her and no one else.

[SuperManiac]

[...] and I usually [suspect] some degree of possessiveness or jealousy in those cases [...]

[Anonymous]

I’m a super affectionate girl. But sometimes I think it annoys people. From the way I was raised My parents hardly hug me too, so whenever I barely make a friend. Guy or girl, I get emotionally excited (cause I don’t have friends) I instantly hug them and wrap my arms around them and kiss them on the cheek. Some people question it and get annoyed by it. So now, I’m limiting myself from doing that.

[Rosebb]

You just described me!!! Even with friends I just love to take their hands or have my head in the shoulders, physical affection is a big part of me but I also feel like If I got i to a relationship I would be annoying

[cavmanier]

It's cute. I just wouldn't want my girlfriend to do that with her friends.

[Unit1]

I love that

[CarpetDenim]

I’m an overly affectionate and needy girl and I don’t think my partner has much of a problem with it. He’s never told me he finds it annoying, but I know it can be distressing if I get upset when I’m not getting as much of his attention as I’d like. He deals with it pretty well though all things considered, and he does satisfy my needs most of the time.

[Anonymous]

My partner is very affectionate when we are alone. Maybe I fell for her because she loves body contact with me, even if she sleeps.
I had a partner who loved me before. As the love died all the mutual tenderness, affection and desire for cuddling disappeared.

[Asker]

Yes I get that. Girls only get affectionate with someone they really like and are really happy to be with them.

[Opinion Owner]

I wouldn't describe it as general rule
Some girls like to cuddle with a man even on hookups where love isn't involved. But I think it's a big part of intimacy so important like sex.

[ShadowofRegret]

I definitely would prefer a very affectionate one, one who loves hugging and kissing me all the time and whose arms always find themselves wrapped around me in a very tight embrace.

I want a woman who can't keep from loving on me and showering me with affection, the more, the better.😌

[ShadowofRegret]

Bring on the cuddles!😄

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

I'm more low-energy and "grounded", so it's a good balance to date a high energy girl who's more flighty and expressive and will initiate physical affection without me asking. I wanna date a girl who will jump on my back and randomly kiss me like in that photo lol

[Reaperbot666]

I dunno about super affectionate. But a semi-normal amount would be nice. I do enjoy quality time with my spouse. And affectionate can also lead to other things.

[Asker]

When do you draw boundaries?

[Reaperbot666]

I dunno if I want her hanging onto me all the time. but I do like to be close to a spouse. and do things together also.

[Nivinxus]

I can see why it is annoying, but I wouldn't find it annoying to be honest. I'm the kind of person who expresses love a lot by touch (as in not just sex). Hugs, kisses and all that kind of stuff just soothes me.

[Avicenna]

I like it. I am very affectionate myself. So it's a good match if we are both very affectionate.

[markscott]

I like a girl who is affectionate, and frequently shows it. But if a girl is overly affectionate, that is a problem.

[Asker]

Why so?

[markscott]

Asker: Just as a person who shows too little affection, a person who shows too much is also problematic, in a smothering sort of way. I'm not talking about a girl who shows a lot of affection, I'm talking about a girl who just smothers with it. That is what overly affectionate means to me.

[Asker]

So you wouldn’t like it if say a girl wanted to cuddle and kiss multiple times a day?

[markscott]

Asker: A girl who wanted to cuddle and kiss a few times a day, is not being over affectionate. That would be good for me.

[ImagineSketchy]

I would probably be fine with it. Just wouldn't be into the PDA part. Hand holding, sure. Hugging, sure. But kissing? Nah.

[Asker]

Why not?

[ImagineSketchy]

I don't like PDA of that degree. It would be strange for me to dislike seeing it, but be okay with it being done to me.

[Kurodo]

There's a certain balance to be had here but... personally i appreciate affection a lot, it just make me happy and warm. My relationship i get a little less than i would like but enough.

[Frankenstein99]

I can't imagine a woman being too affectionate. I mean c'mon, unless she's just manipulative affection is a disolay of love. Why would that ever be a bad thing?

[honorboundHeart884]

I wouldn't know, no girls ever made an effort too ever want try to feel or know the deep self within my heart, mind.

[Bandit74]

I would definitely prefer that over a girl who isn't affectionate at all, but I would like it if she didn't make a huge scene in public and knew to give me some space every now and then.

[jgokgotit]

There has to be a certain balance. If she is too affectionate it makes me think she is insecure about something.

[GuidoThePizzaMaker]

I would be weirded out if she wasn't
I am very affectionate too
It makes me feel appreciated.

10/10 for affectionate girls

[AynonOMouse]

In public I'd prefer only holding hands, or maybe a hug. I don't want to kiss and stuff when others are around watching.
At home if she was stuck to me like glue that would be fine with me.

[BCA6010]

The key word is "overly," which is too much by definition.

[AkkiAnj]

I would like to be ruled by my girlfriend where she can fuck me anytime, anywhere be it public or private

Would love to get nude the moment she orders, be it anywhere

[Quidthonian]

I would find it annoying. I'm an introvert and I like my private space. I would like her to only be affectione behind closed doors. I would comprimise and hold hands with her.

[Sub-Precision]

If i had a girl love me that much to always want to be around / have physical contact with me i think id float a little.

[Asker]

So you’re saying it’s a bad thing or good?

[Sub-Precision]

I meant float like it would be amazing haha sorry i guess i should have worded that differently

[Asker]

That’s so cute lol

[Sub-Precision]

^_^ it's true

[Sevenpointfive]

if i really like a girl i love being affectionate and having that reciprocated by her.

[Texaskid1]

In another life I was all into touching Over the years I have grown more distant with people in general and now with this whole metoo thing I want women to stay the fuck away.

[JSmuve]

Why one or the other? Neither end of the spectrum seems all that enticing.

[Asker]

What do you prefer then?

[JSmuve]

How about one who is all affectionate at appropriate times but knows me well enough to give me my space. If she's all over me all the time then I feel smothered and annoyed but if she's distant all the time then I feel unwanted. Life's all about balance.

[VaibhavSharma1991]

I won't mind having an overly affectionate partner. As long as she does not want to make out in public.

[crazy8000]

As long she can take it when I say I need some space when I need it and let me get it without any funny thing's.

[Dolemite510]

I like girls that are very affectionate, she could get annoying with it if it was too much tho or at bad times 😂

[Daniel3035]

I'm an overly affectionate guy ask my mother lol hugs 7 times a day so yh.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Listen, anything overdone is annoying. Balance is important.

[YHL6965]

I don't have a problem with affection, more love and positive things for me.

[thomaseh03]

I would rather them be more affectionate so that you can easily tell they care and actually like being around you

[ForteExe]

My girlfriend is like that and I usually love it. My only issue is if I'm eating or hot then I don't want to have her cling to me. I make sure to tell her when it's relevant and she gives me space though so no problems in the end.

[Asker]

How do you bring it up with her that you need your space without offending her?

[ForteExe]

I say "I'm too hot right now let me cool off a bit before you glomp me" or "I don't like being clingly while eating, let me finish my food first" and not worry if I'll offend her. If I offended her with that then our relationship is probably doomed anyway.

[ForteExe]

She asked me to add to this that "I also give her lots of snuggles and cuddle later".

[Asker]

Lmao she’s on girlsaskguys with you?

[ForteExe]

Well we met on gag so we usually show each other our profiles

[Asker]

Omg whattt that’s so crazy. Gag isn’t a dating site though. How does that happen?

[ForteExe]

I saw a comment on some post she wrote that stood out to me from the rest and sent her a pm asking if she lived near me. We got to talking in January and have been happily together since. Turns out we're perfect for each other. 😁

[Asker]

Damn that’s really cool. But very upfront asking her where she lives straight away lol.

[Asker]

So you fell in love with her online without seeing what she looked like?

[ForteExe]

Well the way I worded it was something like "... it'd be crazy if we lived nearby" and she replied "idk, where are you?" So I gave her the general area. Enough to know if she was close at least. I didn't ask her for her address right away lmao

[ForteExe]

I didn't fall in love with her at that point, but she caught my interest before I saw what she looked like, yes. Fortunately we're each other's type.

[Asker]

Well that’s nice it worked out well for you. It seems better than dating apps where people are actively looking for a date whereas this was probably more natural and meaningful. How long have you guys been together?

[ForteExe]

One of the things that was probably the most beneficial to us was we started long distance. Turns out she didn't live near me, but she asked if I would consider long distance. I agreed on the condition that it didn't stay that way long, meaning one of us would move to be with the other. I wanted to move away from where I lived anyway and was between jobs so it worked out for me to move to her. January will be a year.

[ForteExe]

I should add that the reason long distance was good was we weren't infected by the dopamine rush that most couples are plagued with at the beginning. We were able to focus on getting to know each other without being swayed by sexual desire. By the time we were in the same room able to touch one another we already knew the other was someone we'd want to be with. Most couples have to balance doing both at the same time, and do it badly. It was difficult for a time, but we're a far stronger couple after a few months than many married couples of 10+ years.

[Asker]

Yeah I know what you’re talking about with that dopamine rush - when I first begin liking someone’s it’s crazy and I’m literally willing to give myself up to them straight away just because of the intense emotions I’m feeling. But it’s good you were able to take it slow because that passion that starts in the beginning isn’t long lasting and commitment matters more in the long term.

[Samhanks]

Don't ask why, I love all the affection coming to me. It makes me feel good and maybe important !

[kinetic198336]

I love a super affectionate girlfriend. I myself am very affectionate in a relationship.

[Raheemudheen]

I would love a girl, who's completely affectionate.
That boost the relationship.

[Slim57]

I like it. Means they're interested. My ex was the opposite and it was horrible.

[Asker]

How was you ex?

[Asker]

Your^

[Slim57]

She wasn't affectionate at all, wanted to see me no more than an day a week, and she didn't like me being all on here when we saw each other again, she would kiss me but everything just felt forced

[Daniel012]

I think the key is in the question..."affectionate"... vs "overly affectionate"

[Asker]

What would you define as affectionate vs overly

[Daniel012]

when other people around you are making signals that they'd rather you both weren't there? :P

[Achyexpert1]

Girls are who they are to be with a guy that's the whole point of being themselves

[Rainmaker0089]

I would like any type of girl if I could get a girl friend hahha

[Adam_knight1127]

Men do its just they dont show it much men are very hard to understand

[curious143_0]

it's fine till it doesn't make to people watch in public

[Anonymous]

In the beginning it's cute, it wears off when we get to the bored phase.

[Anonymous]

Annoying, I hate a friendly ass bitch. Cold girls all day

[Anonymous]

I love super affectionate girls

But I would still say that anything done excessively can be irritating

[Ally247]

Overly? There has to be a balance with everything

[ThisGuyDucks]

Give me that clingy shit.

[OhmIsTyping]

Depends from guy to guy

[Asker]

Well how do YOU feel about It?

[OhmIsTyping]

If you check the POLL, you will know the answer

[Asker]

I was asking for your personal opinion.

[OhmIsTyping]

As for my personal opinion, yes, I do like girls who are affectionate or super affectionate towards their guys but there are times when I prefer then to give their partner the space they want.

[OhmIsTyping]

It's like if I am black and white piece of paper, they are the crayons that fill colour into it. Now I like colours but over colouring the paper or mixing colours might just turn the papers potential into shite

[SAVAGE222]

Which type of u from both?

[Asker]

I like being affectionate and all over my man when I’m with him if I really like him

[AlexanderBrunnrgaard]

I like those types! I'm very affectionate myself.

[Unit1]

Give me a girlfriend like that 😍😍😍

[8lovelife9]

Just be yourself, I don't have a preference.

[Snakeyes7]

As long as she is affectionate I don’t care.

[Asker]

Well, have you had super affectionate partners/ have you been one?

[sp33d]

What is with these false dilemmas?

[clampfan101]

How is that annoying? lol ;)

[IlyaTheImpaler]

iT's fiNe

[legalboxers]

makes me feel loved and wanted, and cared for

[fmycsmith]

If it is genuine and not jealousy based its good

[EstevanMadrid898]

I don't mind as long as it's not to extreme

[Stackattack]

If you find one send her my way I love that

[jeremy1307]

A mix of both is best

[Babygirl_S]

Hope they love.

[ZeussLightningBolt]

I love it!