Made my girlfriend cry by accident what can I do?

[Anonymous]

[nightdrot]

As you did not provide details, it is hard to answer. However, going through the other comments I was able to gain some context.

Two things:

1) At the most basic level, apologizing is always a good idea. It is a starting point for anything that follows.

2) More fundamentally, stop the pranking, "playfully messing" and all the rest. Life is not always about you and being sensitive to those we claim to love is sort of a diminimus requirement.

You never know when you might say that one thing that you can never take back. The hurt you will inflict on someone else and what you will lose.

This is not even to fully blame you. Maybe she is too sensitive and should get some perspective. There is no way to know because you offer no details and, in any case, readers would have no context and are only seeing your side of the story. In any case, her sensitivity, if such it may be, is something to work on in your relationship.

The way to do that, however, is to be sensitive and reassuring. Remember that it is not what you want to say, it is what you want the other person to hear.

So apologize. Hold her in your arms and tell her that you were wrong. Bring her a little gift to make her smile and tell her that you care for her.

You don't make someone cry by accident. You make them cry through harsh words and emotional indifference. Fixing that is the first step.

[NearlyNapping]

Multiple choice.

A) Think like a guy
B) Think like a girl

B is the correct choice. If you think like a guy, you'd probably just shrug your shoulders and think it's no big deal. But that's not going to help. You need to think like her, not the other way around. She wants reassurance. Lots of it.

Half the problems in relationships are because guys try to deal with girls by thinking like guys. And girls try to deal with guys by thinking like girls. It doesn't work, or at least not very well. You have to get into the other's head, and not expect them to think like you.

[VIVANT]

You can’t think like a guy or girl there is no such thing. Communicate bc everyone is different.

It is not helpful to assume you Know how a person functions bc you read something in a magazine.

We all get bothered by something and there’s no way to know what that is without knowing a person.

If something really bothered you you wouldn’t just shrug. If you just shrug then it didn’t matter so it was easy to shrug.

This thing in particular might make you shrug and bother someone else... whereas something else will really get to you and someone else won’t see it. Not bc you’re a guy or they are a girl hit bc you have different life experiences and tendencies,

For anyone in a relationship to just shrug when someone is upset- woman or men- is not thinking like a “Guys” they are not thinking.

I do not see why anyone needs to come up with cheat sheets for dealing with their S O.. just talk and figure it out from there 🤷‍♀️

[VIVANT]

I have no idea what happened?

Crying doesn’t mean anything on its own. It isn’t something that needs to be fixed. She cleaned her eyes Out. that’s good.

If she is upset then likely something happened?

Are you upset or just her?

Why is she the only one upset?
what happened?

The important aspects of the situation are minimally :

What was the problem?

How can it be resolved?

Not the crying - who cares about crying.

you didn’t MAKE her cry. Something is bothering her..

Deal with the issue at hand.
see it as a learning experience.

You both joe know about a problem you may not have been aware of. Now you can fix it.

[Bee-Hatch]

Say sorry, (and it might mean saying sorry if you didn't do anything) and listen to what she has to say, I mean really listen. Your actions that led to the tears may just be the tip of an iceberg of other stuff that she's been holding on to, but isn't sure how to let go of.

Its also possible that it could be her time of the month so she's just feeling naturally more emotional. Hormones will mess with your head😆

If you want to support her long term, learn about listening techniques, like active listening. You'll be glad you did.

[Asker]

Lol yeah I thought it could her special buy dont want to jump to that conclusion but I'm always joking and messing around with her I don't get why she reacted like that this time 😕

[Daniela1982]

What did you do, cut onions under her nose? Tell us, how did you make her cry and then we can figure out if there is anything you can do to rectify it,

[UnidentifiedHuman]

Rectify... lol
Naughty girl

[SALIM28]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣👍👍👍

[Daniela1982]

@UnidentifiedHuman Ohhh, a wise guy, eh?

[UnidentifiedHuman]

Ohhhh a Italian girl ey

[Asker]

😂😂 omg she's got jokes. Watch out Kevin heart we got the big time comedian in the house 😁

[UnidentifiedHuman]

Lolhaha

[Chippu]

Crying is a gift where tears comes from eyes is always best for eyes. It clears the dust particle of your eyes by which it gives comfort to youe eyes
The next moment you get clear vision to decide if its best for you. So you can take a decision from heart.

[djmzes]

Simple

[Asker]

Ok and how's this supposed to help

[Ashesh123]

If you are feeling sorry then you can take her on a romantic date, or give her flower🌷🌷🌷...

If not, then you should be giving her Atlest her favorite chocolate, as you have made her cry, and that's not a gentleman quality...

[Andrewm72]

Dude first of all that was a dick move on your part. Secondly you better start packing your bags because if she gets to the point where she stops caring. You are fucked. I would probably start cuddling as of right now. You might be looking at a lot of long lonely nights. Just my opinion.

[Asker]

That sounds a bit dramatic but I already fixed everything

[Andrewm72]

That's good to hear. It was supposed to put some fear in you so you would do the right thing. Sorry for being a bit dramatic.

[Asker]

You are not forgiven jk 😁 but apparently that joke hit her harder cause she was on her time of the month and she gets more sensitive

[Andrewm72]

Yeah I know how that is. Girls are always more sensitive.

[Anonymous]

Hold her tight and give her lots of cuddles. Don’t ask for anything “more” unless she wants more... just hold her and let her know you’re sorry and that you love her

[Opinion Owner]

Geez, dude, why would you do that? That would wreck anyone with any sense of emotion.

[Asker]

It didn't mean to make her cry I'm always messing with her

[Opinion Owner]

That’s one of those things you don’t joke about, ok? Keep that in mind for future reference

[Asker]

I know but I thought she knew I was joking. I never thought she'll actually cry

[Opinion Owner]

Now, get her all the chocolates, fluffy socks, extra soft blankets and rose petals you can afford and cuddle her as long as she wants.

[Asker]

Sounds like a lot unnecessary expenses so I think I'll just buy her chocolates

[Opinion Owner]

After joking about breaking up? Make sure to go big or go home

[UnidentifiedHuman]

He must not really care about her if he don’t wanna spend that much and

I think there’s some truth to this joke lol

Poor girl

[Asker]

there's other ways to do it instead of buying her in chocolates and spend a fortune in those you dumb mf.

[Opinion Owner]

Still, tons of cuddles!!!

[IAMNathanael]

Build her a cake or something

https://youtu.be/7LFAaxI4uJY

[locoloco68]

Well first off what did you do did you sleep with somebody or did you say you didn't like your tuna casserole

[Zealashton]

I don't know. My dad just give my mom a hug and a kisses when she's pissy and bitchy. Lols

[Asker]

😂😂 does that work?

[Zealashton]

Sometimes, there still together for super long time I'm 30.

[archiz]

Nthng is by accident... your subconscious wanted to :p

[Asker]

Some things are by accident believe it or not 😜 you meant to do one thing and it went the other direction who knew 🤨

[archiz]

I am just messing with you

[Asker]

Hope there's needles in one your tampons 😑

[archiz]

I don't use one🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Asker]

In one your period diapers then 🤔

[archiz]

hahahahhaa which I will throw at your face if you comment one more time!

[Asker]

So your pussy stinks?

[archiz]

No you stink you little puss

[Asker]

I can smell it all the way here !!! Who knows what kind of stuff you've put in there

[archiz]

Lmao

[Asker]

Just messing with you biatch , that's how you troll someone 🤪

[archiz]

Your mum is a bitch!

[archiz]

And you should have given me MHO you son if a bitch!

[Asker]

You're still talking 😂 I might give cause I like your mix of bitchy and cute

[macchiatomommy]

Don't say you're sorry use actions by doing something that she would appreciate.

[NickiB]

Apologize. This is what people do when they hurt someone.

[Asker]

I did

[Anonymous]

Slap her around. Let her really know what it's like to cry so she can be thankful of what little she got.

[Asker]

How's slapping her going to help

[locoloco68]

Don't listen too that fool some girls do like to be slapped but not for that

[joethemoe912]

As soon as you realise its happening you should comfort her and say and do what you need to. I've said things before that have upset one of my exs and we resolved the issue the same night.

[soleil2666]

In my experience, it's the most excruciating thing ever. I never ended up feeling better over the few times something like that happened.
But then all guys are assholes, right?

[Iron_Man]

Buy her a card and 12 high quality red roses today along with a good vase

[AntiHunger]

Tell her you didn’t mean what you said. Damn I wouldn’t even joke about that if I were with someone.

[soleil2666]

Yeah, a woman can joke about it with all social permission.
I guy can just rip himself apart and there's nothing that anyone can or will help with.

[Gamillions]

Wrap up some red roses for your blue lady... send them to the sweetest gal in town.

[Abhimanyu4774]

Apologize if it's Ur fault if not what we can do so apologize if it's not ur fault

[StarGayle]

say your sorry. that wasn't funny

[Asker]

But I'm away messing around she knows that, didn't mean to hurt her

[StarGayle]

It's a hurtful jome though

[Asker]

I thought she knew I was joking, didn't expect her to react like that

[StarGayle]

I know. but still the fact is that was her reaction. try and make it right

[Asker]

Lol well that's I'm asking what I possibly do to make it right. I genuinely didn't mean to hurt her

[StarGayle]

Apologize. show her how much you care about her

[Asker]

I did apologize but I feel like need to so something to make up for my mistake

[StarGayle]

cuddle with her and treat her

[Nina12346]

Omg what did you tell her?

[Asker]

I jokingly told her we were done and I was breaking up with her but I was just messing around

[Nina12346]

Just apologize and explain you love her too much to break up with her 🤦‍♀️

[Asker]

I did and I didn't mean I was just messing around. Never meant to make her cry😭😭

[Nina12346]

Well that shows how much she loves you, and now you know, so just don't say that again ever! That is something you cannot say to a girl ma boy lol

[Asker]

Lol but I'm always messing didn't know she would break down in tears 😕

[Nik1hil]

Cuddles..
Overwhelming amount of cuddles..

[disgustingweebtrash]

Talk although women are pretty bad at talking

[letssee89]

It depends on what you did

[yeolsb]

Hug her and say you love her 😉

[aeon95]

Punch her in the face

[Asker]

Can I practice with your face tho

[aeon95]

If you can hit it

[aeon95]

Knock her out then take a dump in her mouth

[Asker]

Oh dude trust I can one hit and you'll see a white light

[GreatnessBack]

Say sorry and move on.

[oldoldold]

Apologize admit your error... be better

[sweetcocoa_]

What did you do

[Asker]

I told her we were done and I was breaking up with her but I was just messing around, but apparently she thought I was serious and she cried for like an hour. 😕

[Ephemera1]

LMAO always after the tea

[rvarela]

Awww make it up to her and let her know you love her. Make her favorite meal and set some candles to set the mood and get her roses!

[Asker]

Lol should I dont what to do. Didn't mean to make her cry !!

[sweetcocoa_]

Easy. Just write her a short letter and leave it by her bedside to wake up to along with a flower. It can be a fake flower from around the house or whatever. It'll put her in such a good mood to wake up to that.

[Asker]

@sweetcocoa_ you think so?

[sweetcocoa_]

I know so.

[sweetcocoa_]

@Ephemera1 don't lie you wanted to know too

[Asker]

Ok I'll try see what happens thanks for the input 👍

[Ephemera1]

@sweetcocoa_ u right

[Anonymous]

What did you do to make her cry?

[Asker]

I jokingly said I was breaking up with her and apparently she believed it

[Opinion Owner]

Shittt🤐. With girlfriend that the last thing you wanna do. Most of them are very sensitive about that.

[Asker]

Yeah but I thought she knew I was. I'm always jokingly messing her I don't might be jer time of the month

[alice55]

Give her food?

[fun2020]

Buy her something nice

[Jessi_Clem]

Give her food.

[Asker]

Lol she's gonna blame if she gains weight

[Jessi_Clem]

Not too much though.

[Asker]

Lol is that how your boyfriend makes you happy again

[Jessi_Clem]

Yes, actually.

[Asker]

Lol yeah so he makes you cry and with food he fixes everything

[Jessi_Clem]

Exactly.

[Asker]

Lol and what do you do when he cries

[Jessi_Clem]

He doesn't cry.

[Asker]

Kick him in his privates or tell him your pregnant and you'll see

[Jessi_Clem]

I won't be doing that.

[Asker]

Lol by the way love your profile pic I'm a big fan of hers

[Jessi_Clem]

Thank you and ikr. She's amazing.

[Asker]

Oh yeah she is , its wife goals lol have you met her?

[Jessi_Clem]

No, I haven't! You?

[Asker]

Oh yeah I was working in here in a modeling agency here in L. A and one time she came in to do a shoot for the company , sweetest girl I've ever met

[Jessi_Clem]

You actually talked with her?

[Asker]

Oh yeah for like an hour I was surprised how sweet and friendly she was. Most of the models dont even look at you twice, they think they're the 💩

[Jessi_Clem]

That's so cool. Maybe I'll meet her one day hopefully.

[Asker]

Hope you do she's so nice and and has great body dont tell my girlfriend I said that 😁

[Jessi_Clem]

No promises lol

[Asker]

Oh common please don't tell or I'll tell your boyfriend you got herpes jk

[jimmy2]

Talk to her , communicate to her heart

[Randinz]

Dump that bitch and find a stronger woman.

[Anonymous]

Asshole.

[Asker]

You're talking to mirror !!!

[Opinion Owner]

At least I don't make my partner cry on purpose. Jerk!

[Asker]

😂weakest come back I've ever seen

[Harmseygrace]

It's not weak because it's true. It's not nice to do that to someone.

[Asker]

Is not thanks for the enlightening me

[Harmseygrace]

You don't seem like a nice person. Poor girl.

[Asker]

You don't seem you like smart person so peace poor of all you future bfs

[Harmseygrace]

Neither do you. I have a boyfriend who loves me a lot.

[Asker]

😑ho you're still talking go suck his dick

[Harmseygrace]

You're rude.

[Asker]

Ho bye , adios

[Walrus_au]

Fix it.

[lofii]

Break up with her

[fuchit]

Rim job stat !!!

[Asker]

So is that what you do with your boyfriend

[Anonymous]

What'd you say?

[Asker]

I was playfully messing and said I was breaking up with her and she believed it and apparently she cried for like an hour

[Anonymous]

Depends on.