Guys, why don’t you show off your girlfriend to public?

[Anonymous]

Why my boyfriend won't show me on his socmed at all. We hv been together more than a year. Is he ashamed with me or what?

Ashame with girlfriend

not love his girlfriend

Other options

[simonqq]

I rarely use social media and probably wouldn't post anything either.

I don't think the world needs to know that we are together and I don't think they care. If I'm with you then I will only care about you and that I'm with you.

Those that are close to me will know that I am with you, the rest I don't give a fuck about.

I also don't like the idea of showing my girlfriend off, for what reason? So other girls or guys will be jealous? Nah that's very silly and I don't think it's the type of girl I would be interested in. I'm however very much down to take pictures together etc and she is free to post them if she wants to but it's not something I'm interested in doing myself.

[Asker]

Owhh thank you simon. But untill when? People always think that i am single. In fact that i was has someone. Whoever he also won't allow me to show too

[simonqq]

Ask him why. Does your close friends and family know about your relationship?

[Asker]

My fam already know but not his fam. Only one of his friend know just accidentally.

[simonqq]

Well talk with him about it, say you want to meet his friends and his family as his girlfriend. If he doesn't want that then again ask why. Give him room to explain.

If he doesn't give you a good reason then you really need to decide if you want to give him more time to before he commits to you or if you feel like you can't wait then tell him he has to commit or it's over.

I'm not going to tell you what is right or wrong for you to do but if you are unhappy you need to communicate with him first and then make your decisions.

[Asker]

Owhh, thank you. You really help.
But deep inside scared to loose act 😫

[Account2]

I don't like Jolene to post pictures of herself on social media because she is beautiful and gets unwanted and unwelcome attention, even though she doesn't try to post anything sexy. It's not that I don't want other people to see her it's that I don't want other men to sexualize her.

[roland77]

Jerks, both genders likewise are everywhere, especially on such "social media". That is also why I keep it private who I am with together. And yes, you might find here on GAG some hints about her.

[Anonymous]

My ex hated and didn't use social media. He agreed to update relationship status on Facebook though, and didn't mind I posted pictures with him publically. My boyfriend before him used Facebook actively but never posted anything about us, he didn't care if I did though. I don't think most guys really do this, anyway why would you even need him to? Social media ain't real life.

[CubsterShura]

Uh because he's a decent human being who is aware that his girlfriend is not some kinda expensive possession to display in public?

[Asker]

Owhh thank you

[ElissaDido]

I find the whole concept of showing off your wife a bit odd. I'm not a trophy 🏆.
This whole "you can look at my girl but you can't touch" thingy is a turn off to me.

[roland77]

And possibly a #privacy violation. :-)

[JackSmy]

'She' (any one of a few in my life, and the same thing happens, with the same type of lady, and my friends!) is not 'MINE' to show off!! What fool thinks that a lady he likes is his 'property' to show off?
She ALWAYS has better fashion sense than I, and I trust her, when I am with any, and she wears what she likes, and is comfortable wearing.
She knows my friends, and she doesn't need me protecting her, as she knows how to talk to them, when they say inappropriate things to her.
She never 'tells' on them, but I know when one has been 'Schooled'.
I like a certain kind of lady, and I know I don't need to protect her, and when she shows off, herself, she takes the responsibility with any pervs that hit on her!

[roland77]

I can't understand why there is a need in showing off your new boyfriend or girlfriend. I keep that private for some good reasons, like being bullied/harashed because I took her and [they think] that she doesn't deserve me or I don't deserve her. And so on and so on...

[soleil2666]

First of all, ALL of social media is a scam in any decent guys' eyes.
Second, Facebook especially, is the place where the opposite of real is shown - people who love each other on facebook are usually frenemies in real life.
Third, why would you ever 'show-off' your gf?
And fourth - you want something from him, don't you, after a divorce - so you first want to be shown off so that you have the leverage afterwards.

[Phoenix98]

Why would I when I have one? She's not a piece of meat she's a person -_- so why would I treat her like a fancy object?

[worldscolide]

I don't show off my wife because I'm an incredibly private person. That's the end of it. I don't seek attention like some others do.

[Impalitteri]

This was my exact thinking! I don't need to air my business to the world, the people that matter know you

[roland77]

@Impalitteri @worldscolide Yes, #privacy matters!

[JustADude5253]

Strict Christian parents and school, young relationships is "bad"

[boggboss]

Why is it required women say they don't want to be objectified but then you get upset that he don't show you off to the world like a trophie lol

[Asker]

Its ok if u dont show me off to the word man. But at least dont u did like im single n hv no one in public.

[LordJesus5Ever]

I'm together with my girlfriend for almost 4 years now, and none of us bothered to update our relationship status on social media. We also don't post pictures of ourselves (or anything else, just for the record).

[roland77]

We updated it on #okcupid and guess what? A guy contacted her how she is able to see me while we are so distant... Well, that is what #Linphone is for. ;-) And besides, she blocked him.

[MDollarBill]

It may have nothing at all to do with you. He may just be a private person. A lot of guys are this way, and too many women are quick to spill their guts to the world. Posts like you mention often do nothing but invite unwanted questions and prying from friends and family. I'm totally this way. I hate being grilled, even by (especially by) well-meaning family. My business is NO ONE else's business. I intend to keep it that way.

[roland77]

Say that to my parents and they keep saying to you to not interfere with their "big family" wishes. #ConfluenceSucks And I fight them off!

[TLeeder]

It's most likely that he simply doesn't want "show you off" as there's no reason too. If he wants people to know he has a girlfriend, he'll tell them. Otherwise, people will find out by just running into the two of you. He probably thinks that by "showing you off", he's treating you like an object.

[Tomsta]

I dont need validation from random people or people i hardly talk to anymore. Only people that need to know i have a girlfriend are people i care about in my life and ill tell those people myself

Its called private life for a reason

[roland77]

There will be a tons of people out there, she is bad for him or he is bad for her. I don't need such fetish.

[LeoElias]

Maybe he's not treating you as a trophy but as a human being

[Asker]

But why he said love me? It is just said not mean it?

[LeoElias]

Actions speak louder than words

[Asker]

Owhh. I understood. But what should i do? I mean if i mesn nothing just lemme know. Easy to walk away 😌

[LeoElias]

If you aren't that into him then leave. If this guy isn't benefiting you in any way and you question why you are wasting your time. Then I would end it.

[Anonymous]

Because he does not care what others think. I definitely dont. I dont post anything on social media. (Except linked in , but thats for work).

[Asker]

Owhh, so do you think he love me? Why he won't show me off? It is because im Not pretty or what?

[Opinion Owner]

This is the 1 percent crap I dont understand.

What the hell? Like is he suppose to worship you? Post pictures with comment "my life would be empty without this angel"?

News flash girl. All the people who do this, their relationships are disasters. They need approval from outside, because they can't get approval from within.

[Asker]

I feel the same think. He worried if his friends talking about us. He worried if he can't accept that what people say

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah. First of all, why bother?

[Asker]

Act we r from same school. In same circle and Environment. People know both of us.

[roland77]

@Asker Why do you connect these two things? If your local friends know you already, then why do you still insist (against his will) posting pictures of you both?

[Ruskie]

Well based off your voting options seems you only think there are bad reasons. I personally don't post things very often, hate pictures, and probably wouldn't post my girlfriend very much either

[serious]

The question is why must a guy show off his girlfriend to public? why? is that something every girlfriend expects her boyfriend to do so?

[Neptunsheart]

Ask him. Maybe he simply respects your privacy. I'm publishing not a single picture showing someone else but me.

[Asker]

He not only won't share my pic, he also won’t allow me too

[Neptunsheart]

I don't want people to publish pictures of me, too. I like my private life. My question is: Why is it that important for you to publish these pictures?

[Asker]

But untill when? People always think that i am single. In fact that i was has someone. Whoever he also won't allow me to show too. If we got married, do u think people no need to know?

[Neptunsheart]

It didn't happen if it's not on Instagram? My real friends know when I am single and when I am not. I really don't care about social media. Maybe we are different regarding to this point. But the only thing I want to say is, that there might be different reasons for his conduct.

[Asker]

Owh thank you

[Creepazoid]

He doesn't want anyone to know you're his girlfriend. I can't think of any good reason someone would do that. Sorry

[Asker]

Hahahaha owh i see. Do you thik its good or bad for relationship? thank you

[Creepazoid]

so there is no picture of you or you two together at all or throughout the whole relationship? i haven't used social media since 2010 really does he have his status on single or relationship?

[Asker]

He has socmed but not post anything at all. He is introvert

[Creepazoid]

not sure. just ask him to put your photos of you and him up if it bothers you. tell him it bothers you

[Asker]

Was did. Whoever he also won't allow me to show too.

[Creepazoid]

did he give you a reason why?

[Asker]

He said he dont want people know about his life.

[roland77]

@Asker that is a valid reason, it is called private life. #PrivacyMatters

[SeanshterMonster]

It's a private life, not everyone needs to know about it. If she's my girl then I dont need to show her off, just make her happy and I'll be happy.

[Exorcist_Rampage]

The same reason you don't show off your boyfriend in public.

Women are not prizes needing to be showcased.

[roland77]

#PrivacyMatters, sadly not to all. :-(

[Thatsamazing]

He doesn't want to, obviously. Also, memes and emojis are fucking dumb.

[usernamesk]

Cuz he does not want to miss a opportunity to :
-replace you
-cheat on you
- get sex somewhere else
- you might not be his only girlfriend

[roland77]

That is #bullshit.

[Bman4907]

I showed mine off once, she got hit on, then had a kid with the guy.

[Anonymous]

We are not as narcissistic and eager for other peoples attention as women are.

[CT_CD]

Ashame with girlfriend. Need to upgrade to someone better looking before showing her off

[roland77]

Same #bullshit. No #respect to a woman like her and her #privacy rights.

[Gamillions]

You could spoil his other women he's seeing behind your back.

[Anonymous]

He isn't so vain that he needs constant validation on social media...

[roland77]

Sadly most young people do. :-( It is good that my girlfriend and I are not on FB/IG/WA (at least not me).

[Kiroi]

Because social media is useless

[Asker]

May i know the reason

[Kiroi]

It's useless to show things to other people that don't even care about it, it's the same as reading news paper and seeing that someone died but you clearly don't really care about it

[Asker]

But untill when? People always think that i am single. In fact that i was has someone. Whoever he also won't allow me to show too

[Kiroi]

It's mostly because these people have nothing else to do than guessing how your life is, judging a book by its cover which is wrong from them, not others' fault
Most of the time these people have literally nothing to do and their life is plain and boring

[Asker]

Hahaha i like ur style. Cool 😎. I was realized that men alway had simple minded. Dont want to wasted brain storming 😂

[Asker]

Thank you by the way

[Kiroi]

No problem

[roland77]

@Kiroi Thank you saying such thing. :-)

[Femalesinquiremales]

Probably just isn't that type of guy?

[Giggletr0n]

Because she isn't a trophy she's a person

[roland77]

ANd with #privacy rights attached!

[ZeussLightningBolt]

'Cuz I don't have one

[roland77]

And if so, would you #expose her, removing all her #privacy rights?

[haymitch1]

Talk to him

[roland77]

And tell him to keep it that way. #PrivacyMatters