I haven't seen my girlfriend for 1 month, and I don't really miss her. Does this mean I have fallen out of love?

[Anonymous]

We've been together for 4 and a half years and we are both 26. Recently she left on a family trip for 2 weeks. I didn't really miss her, I enjoyed my personal time and was genuinely happy for her. She texted and called me every chance she could but I wasn't really checking my phone too often. She kept telling me how much she missed me and I told her I missed her too, even though I didn't.

The day before her return I left on a family trip of my own for 2 weeks. I figured that I would probably start to miss her but I didn't. I barely checked my phone the entire time. One day she called me crying that she was missing me so much. I felt guilty that I wasn't missing her.

She wanted to meet me at the airport when I returned but I still felt like I needed personal time, so I told her that I needed a few days to settle back into routine. It's been 5 days since I got back from my trip and therefore it has been a little over a month since I've seen her. I have not missed her once.

Is this normal for relationships or is this a sign that I have lost interest/ fallen out of love?

[btbc92]

It means your comfortable. It's not really a bad thing, but you not missing her sounds like you never loved her at all. There is no such thing as being above and falling out of love. That's on some fairytale nonsense.

As long as you developed trust your fine. Because obsessing over her isn't a good thing either. But if you felt nothing for her sounds like here there is a lot more you not admitting. However what your talking about doesn't sound normal at all. Because either you're not interested in dating seriously. Or there's something about her that you never liked in the first place but you settled for her.

[sparke328]

Not exactly. The thing is when you finally get to see her, you can decide if you have or have not fallen out of love. You don't need to necessarily miss someone to love them. You might have forgotten how you feel around her and seeing her again might trigger your feelings for her, forcing you to realize how much you have missed her and love her. If you don't feel it at first glance/hug/kiss, then you have fallen out of love with her. Also girls are more emotional so it makes sense why she was crying. She is very emotional thinking about you and all her feelings for you. Hope this helps!

[SirRexington]

It is sad to to see how she still has such passion for you and you do not have that same passion for her. That said, I'm not entirely convinced you don't love her. I'd suggest when you see her after all this time you get an idea about how you feel when you do. When she hugs you and stuff. If you still don't fe anything, it's time to leave. You're clearly not right for her because you can't give her the care and affection she obviously still needs and wants.

Sometimes alone tkme can be good. That might be all it is. But it is a bit telling if you don't miss her after all this time.

[coachTanthony]

------------------Absence makes the heart grow fonder but for you it's the opposite. So you need to stop spending so much time with her and allow that heart to ache for her... otherwise you get what you got now... happiness without her because you spent so much damn time with her.

So make a new game plan for the two of you or realize you don't love her anymore. You have to know the difference though.

[MzAsh]

She’s clingier than you and you’ve lost respect and attraction for her because of that.

[traimwreck]

honestly saying you don't love her from the very beginning
... you only had a attraction towards her... and it's a human nature if we don't love someone we can't do anything about it and you are not doing anything wrong but the one big thing you doing bad is that you saying her that you love her, so she thinks you love her so she loving you purely, so dude don't play with her feelings say her truly what u feel although it will hurt her but you have to say for future goodness please don't watch her just say what you feel because it can ruin her life or it can ruin your life❤

[Finchie40]

That isn’t good bro , you are probably better off ending the relationship with her , it sounds like that time apart from each other made you realize that she doesn’t really mean that much to you so instead of toying her along because you feel guilty you are better off letting her go so she can find someone that loves her the same , but ask yourself this question, would you be ok if she was in another man’s arms and not in yours anymore? If you can honestly say yes to that then that is your answer to let her go.

[Justacatlady]

I think it’s okay that you enjoyed your personal time but the fact that you now have the ability to see her and are putting it off is concerning. I suggest not shuffling your feet any longer and meet up with her. If when you see her, you don’t feel anything, that will be your answer.

[5_AM_Oracle]

Honestly, in my case it's normal. We rarely use those words, and each have and respect eachother's alone time. It's not because you don't miss them, that you don't love them. I mean, it was just two weeks, we're independent people, we should be fine. Here, one seems to crave more affection than the other, we all have our language of love, how we express it, how we want to receive it you know. Both of you need to understand what it is for eachother and find a balance

[LizzyHale]

Yeah, well your definitely out of the honeymoon daze EVERY relationship goes through, after 4 years I would expect it to be like that, you have to start working on it and realizing that ANY girl you pick you will get sick of them after 4 years, you more have to asses if you want to take a gamble at seeing if that would happen with a different girl (which it will).

[burger151]

One way to be sure about your feelings is meet her ASAP.
What you feel when you meet her, will give you the answer needed.
If you love her, you will likely feel guilty and sad but happier than ever.
If you don't feel anything, then conclude that you don't love her and only had attraction for her.

[Applers64]

I don't think there is anything wrong with it, i have told my boyfriend i have missed him but i try not to say it to often so its not annoying, but when i do i know he doesn't miss me or really care which is fine we both like space, very rare will i get a random "i miss you" text and i usually just think he's trying to be nice, its ok not to miss someone just because they miss you doesn't mean you need to feel the same way.

[SweetDisaster]

Yes you have fallen out of love but that's okay.
Just talk to her straight up and let her know be honest, is going to hurt her more then you because obviously she's crazy in love with you but that's not a good reason to stay with her.
You can also give each some time off to clear your mind and see what you really wanna do.

[DOGMA1954]

I think your relationship is over as a couple. To see if that is correct, get together a few times and see how you feel, but leave out the sex. If you have lost feelings for her, you need to sit down with her and express your feeling in person and not over the phone or a text. Best of luck to you.

[DiscomfortZone]

Dude, you "fell out of love" like two years ago. What you feel is absolutely normal. No, actual mature love isn't butterflies and not being able to breathe without her, that's a crush and it survives months, perhaps two years at best (there are actual studies about it). Actual mature love is more mental than sentimental. After four years ofc you'd enjoy some alone time, it's rejuvenating! Don't do anything stupid there.

[crazy8000]

Could be.
Could be many different reasons.
It have been to much intense.
You is in a low spot to charge.
You wasn't really in love.
You two have drifted apart in som important area.
You aren't that kind of person that misses even if you are in love.

[Raggdoll]

I haven't seen my parents in 2months I don't miss them but I doesn't mean I don't love them
Maybe if her behaving starts to put you off, then you can assume that you don't love her

[Laozi]

May be. But do you still feel same for her as you were feeling one month ago. If yes then everything is all right. If not then you need to end the relation and move on.

[boggboss]

You have more then lost intreast sounds like u have moved on mate you should break up with her and not put her through what will be heartbreak

[pleasestopthis]

Not necessarily that, maybe you're too comfortable and take her for granted. Or maybe you're suffocated and tired of this relationship? You probably know better.

[BeMuse]

It's nice not having to deal with your girlfriend right?

[filipswagson]

thats allright, its silly to dwell over your own emotions, they are yours. If you enjoy being with her then thats it. Love is not like in the movies, it can be there, and then not

[VIVANT]

Doesn’t sound like he enjoys it at all... sounds like he’s is relieved To be away.

[Lunatic1]

I would recommend seeing her once more, that will decide the situation. Either you enjoyed your alone time but want to be together, or you have fallen out of love.

[Anonymous]

Do you have girl "friends"

Do you find yourself missing them more, than her..

if you do, it likely is