How to not project an ideal on people you like?

[Anonymous]

I do it every time when i crush on a girl, i don't put them on pedestals but i exadurate parts of the person i like whail downplaying characteristics i don't like. Just when I've thought I've grown out of it i do it again. What helps to prevent this weird illusion or is it ok to do and the couple just gets over it after?

[Avicenna]

Be realistic and see things for what they are

[Asker]

The problem is you don't see the whole picture right away so you may think someone is kind because they're always kind around you but when they get upset they take it out on other but you don't see that at first.. its really hard for me at least.