Why do women hate cheaters but sleep with men in relationships?

[Anonymous]

Most women call men dogs, pigs etc... but women love men who are in relationships. I've witnessed it myself. Even amongst friends, who had zero interest in a guy until he got a girlfriend. If women would turn down men in relationships. Men would have noone to cheat with. So do all women just hate the thought of being cheated on but not the person a guy cheats with? If that is the case. Even as a women. I think they do deserve the heart break.

[thekissesofthesun]

Man, I've been in a situation like this before. There was this guy, and we talked about sleeping together when he comes to my hometown and some days later I found out he had a girlfriend. He told me but not at the beginning. And I felt sorry for that girl, and so I said to him "Why you do this to her? She doesn't deserve it and also you are doing it behind her back". And he said " Well she doesn't satisfy me in bed so that's why I'm looking for girls to sleep with". "So break up with her then"- I said. " What's the big deal? Do you have a problem sleeping with a guy who has a girlfriend?"-he said. "All I know is that I would never want to be in her place"-I said. " Relax! It's not like you are my girlfriend"-he said.

Duh.

[Kitz95]

I think most girls avoid men in relationships, I honestly don’t understand the girls that have sex with men in relationships. As to why cheaters are hated more is because they are the ones that are in a committed relationship. It goes for both men and women, if someone is in a relationship and they are cheating, they are way worse than the person they are cheating with. If I’m in a relationship and my partner cheats on me, it’s them I’ll be mad at because they are the ones that made a commitment to be loyal. If they couldn’t keep that promise, why get into a relationship?

[Yuup123456]

Whenever you generalize you are already making a silly statement. Not all women sleep with other in relationships not all women hate cheaters. There are rotten apples in every tree. It’s a human thing. Some people just don’t care about others some people do. It’s never black and white.

[Asker]

Fine. Majority. Many men admit that after getting involved with someone or being married theyve received more female attention

[Yuup123456]

Love how much is majority and where are you getting your info from? Bc some or many friends said? That doesn’t mean good statistics. Men cheat women cheat. There are loyal men and women. Some don’t care some do. Rather than focusing on gender ask why they do it. If there is a feeling or past behind the answer maybe look there. I’m not trying to be mean and hope I didn’t upset you. What is is that’s all. People can do good and bad regardless of gender. The real question isn’t who but why.

[Asker]

People cheat because they want to and because they can. If people learnt to say no to cheaters. Noone will be capable of cheating. You know it yourself. A women not all but some won't mind having a fling with a taken man. But God forbid she gets cheated on

[Asker]

Same with guys. But i feel like its more frequent amongst women

[Yuup123456]

What about when man/women don’t know the person they are with is in a relationship? Or they were told they had broken up. I can tell this is a sensitive topic for you. I am sorry. Humans in general are bad and good. Knowing something doesn’t change that. There are people who do know and understand it’s bad but don’t care. It’s a person thing. I’ve encountered women who flat out do anything regardless of the pain they cause. And me who admit to it the same. It’s a human thing. Humans are capable of great good and evil.

[Asker]

That is different. Im sure its blatant in my responses that im referring to people who are aware that someone is taken. If you shag my boyfriend and he lied about being single. I will not have anything against you. If i do however find out that you knew. Id leave him. But ruin your next relationship. You know what i mean.

[Asker]

You sound like a good person. Bless you

[Yuup123456]

Thank you. I say thins nicely I find that many times there is no other explanation other than “bc I wanted to and don’t care”. To try to find a logical reason to such behavior is meaningless. It will hurt you and you will never find it bc it doesn’t exist. I will say this. If you don’t want to be hurt but turn around and hurt someone else are you not lowering yourself to their standards? If you don’t like cheating but cheat are you not what you stand against? Hurting the female bc of what she did is degrading to you. Knowing you are better is walking away. In the end that person will ruin herself and you will maintain your self respect. Chin up, confident, know your worth and walk away. It’s not worth it.

[Anonymous]

They don't understand the simple fact that if someone is willing to with you they are more likely to cheat on you.

[Asker]

Oh yeah!

[Mystic_Nova]

Considering the few women you'd encountered don't make up the entire female population, or even come close to it, I'd say most hate cheaters and dont go after taken men, because they dont.

[MissDawn7961]

I am a woman but I do not cheat with any guy ! thanks

[asshole_]

Hypocrites lots of women are

[Iron_Man]

Hypocrites

[Yuup123456]

With all due respect I am confused? You had stood up for a young lady earlier. You don’t have to of course but would you elaborate please?

[Iron_Man]

At Yuup I stick up for people that need to be stuck up for. I don’t like women that complain about how he cheated on me then they go out and sleep with a married man

[Yuup123456]

I understand. So you are speaking of women who purposefully behave like this. May i ask if you see men the same way? Cheaters in general? Thank you for your response

[Iron_Man]

@Yuup123456 Yes and yes of course

[Yuup123456]

Thank you for clarifying. Have a nice day.

[Iron_Man]

You too and thank you for coming by again if you have any more questions you’re welcome to come by anytime 😋