Can a relationship between an older man and a much younger woman work?

[Anonymous]

[MicEve]

My father is 20 years older than my mother and they’ve been together for 38 years. My father was very attractive and funny, but had no money and had full custody of 3 children from a previous relationship 🤦🏻‍♀️. That was true love. I think it all depends on the woman’s culture and generation... My mother is very traditional and would never give up on him. He was her very first boyfriend and is the only man she’s been with.
My father is my best friend, we talk about everything openly... He’s 75 now and he is frustrated because my mother doesn’t want sex anymore. I feel for him, but much more for her... She loves him, we can see it, but she no longer sees that attractive man he used to be, I think.
I’m also into older men, but always ran away when they started talking about moving together/ marriage. Now, I’m with someone my age for the first time (he’s got same grey hair and will be a charming 40+ eventually. Looking forward) 😄 Most of my friends that are with an older man were attracted by financial stability or lacked a father figure in their life... I don’t think men really care about how genuine it is 🤷🏻‍♀️ They just to enjoy the moment with a loving young woman.

[Espresso-Grande]

A relationship is more likely to work if the man is older than the woman. But rarely if she's older than him

I prefer older guys. I find I'm we the usually in same wavelength. I can build a better rapport with older men. I love their mental and emotional maturity. That comes with age

[Espresso-Grande]

thanks for the MHO 🌹

[Espresso-Grande]

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[jkm1864]

Yes it can under certain circumstances and to understand this You need to just understand simple human nature. A woman's sole purpose is to produce children and to nurture them and Her whole instinctual desire is to do just this purpose. You can easily prove this by watching children play and a girl will always play with the baby dolls and they play at being a mother and guess what it isn't taught it's instinctual. A woman when She looks for a mate looks for either the strongest male around or finds the one whom can acquire the most resources needed to support a family without any stress on Her or the children. It has nothing to do with age and if anything age is a factor because older men tend to have acquired more resources that the woman can use to raise their children. Now She will more than likely stay loyal for a set determined amount of time but when She feels that they children are old enough then She will seek another mate to produce children. She can be on birth control or even have Her tubes tied She will continue to act out Her evolutionary programming unless the Man She is with can make Her feel that He is the ALPHA of ALPHA'S in Her general area.

[_SOARER]

My dad was 55 when he met my 30 year old mom 😂
Their relationship was really good, it was their families who sabotaged everything.
I was born when my dad was 58 and he passed away when he was 65. It really devastated my mom when he passed

I think it could work. But the couple has to be understanding of each others differences and age. They need to desire the same things. The younger person needs to understand the older person will probably die sooner

[modelUN242]

Most old guys want a young woman, but there are problems, like different sex drives, mindsets, one is way more experienced at life than the other so you’re not growing with each other, the old guy having health problems and the woman being his nurse, children seeing their father die at an early age 😢, insecurities and regrets. I saw this Dr. Phil episode and he basically said the risk for divorce is high the larger the age gap.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/8PI6Yr_qtPMhttps://www.youtube.com/embed/mpjBMHvMnvg

[MannMitAntworten]

His statistics were shown to be false and purely for showmanship. Especially where he list divorce rates. Actual marriage statistics reflected that age difference had zero impact on whether a marriage was going to be successful or not. In fact, it pretty much married couples of the same age. What was discovered in the findings was that couples who were within ten IQ points of one another did reflect a significantly reduced incident of divorce across all spectrums.

Which, by the way, it isn’t just men dating younger. Plenty of women do too and know several and have myself been the, “younger guy” a few times (ranging from 10 to 20 year difference) . The trend is not entirely men.

[modelUN242]

@MannMitAntworten Doesn’t matter, age-gap relationships are creepy, it’s like mom and son or dad and daughter.

[MannMitAntworten]

Then just say that. It is far more genuine than the response you provided.

[modelUN242]

@MannMitAntworten Both of my responses were but you just focused on the Dr Phil part. I wrote a better response above.

[Reaperbot666]

typically speaking if there is a 3-10 year age gap. then there are good odds that an older guy might date a younger girl.

most guys are likely to date equal or lower. when it comes to things like their partners. age, looks, income, etc.

most girls are likely to date equal or higher. when it comes to things like their partners. age, looks, income, etc.

https://www.theclever.com/15-reasons-why-women-love-older-men/

https://www.youtube.com/embed/Ux-WKpjzs38

[Mountainr]

I guess the question is how big is the age difference? Could you date someone whose age is closer to your parents or grandparents than it is to you? Can it work? I guess but that is one hell of an obstacle to overcome and it is not recommended save yourself the heartache.

[MissDawn7961]

it all depends on the man and the woman involved ! a woman at my church named Valerie married a man by the name of Brian who is young enough to be her son ! he was involved in a car accident that left him needing to use a shunt and he has a speech problem as well ! they seem to care about each other and have been married for a long time too ! so it all depends on whether or not they really love each other or are just using each other ! only God knows ! thanks

[Daniela1982]

Sure, but be prepared to be a young widow- or a wealthy Gold Digger.

Watch them talk candidly how they poisoned their husbands for the insurance and his money.

[Hermes-Paris]

Having been there it works for a while but as you get older it becomes harder to keep the age gap from not being an issue. But there are many cases and for many women finding an older man who is stable and level headed is good. Same could be said for young guys looking for older women. Life brings us many surprises and good things. This can be one of them.

[DocT1977]

My wife is older than me, by two years. For me, I had a 5 year range on who I would date. (Older or younger, either way). In my opinion, I don't like the idea of a huge age difference. It's not fair to the younger one to be with one whose life is already half over. This is just my standpoint though.

[Angelo75]

oh sure.
It's all about how serious do they take each others opinion/point-of-view.
The fact that one of them consider the other's opinion too dull or childish (from his/her point of view), doesn't give him/her the right to 'not' respect the others opinion.
Just take each other seriously and it'll work out.

[talka20]

U put it very simply in a question... its not like that at all yk that huh😂 if i see just the question n keep everything aside then my answer is yes it is possible if they understand each others age phase n accept the odds n be supportive to each other having real connections without keeping advantages in mind

[winterfox10]

I've never seen it work, and I've known many couples who have tried. I'm sure it's out there though. I'm sure that if you have those very very very particular personalities; you'll be able to beat the odds. I wouldn't wager on it working out, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't try.

[OurManFlint]

Too vague a question but are we talking 25 year old woman 35 year old man, then yes of course. But if we are we talking 30 year old woman 60 year old man then we're getting into a bit of trouble. After a woman turns 25 dating a guy within 10-11 years your age can certainly work.

[Natashakir72]

Of course and it happens a lot. My boyfriend is a bit older than me and we are very good together. I know a couple who I think he is like 50 and she's like in her early 30s and I've never seen a happier couple than them

[ChaloBC]

If you believe in yourself and your other half (partner) you really don't have to look out for opinions.
You get just one life to live, do what you feel is right and go with the decision.
(Don't get offended by my direct comment)

[MM442]

Yes it can work, age doesn't matter, everyone is going to get older. Should someone younger than you avoid you just because your older? You could find yourself 75 years old and the only person that wants to love you is 30 years younger. Would you pass up the only possible love just because that person is younger?

[Furuok]

Not to gp all churchy or anything but may i ask? Would you know that half of forever is still? Forever? Love is committed to compromise are you a mindful person or you an empty vessel that needs to be filled? My standard i got from a radiohead DJ named Johnny Dare , he said once." I could only date a girl who is nine years older than my youngest sibling" and with that the bar was set.

[Richyrichrichy]

My Wife is 15 years younger than me. In the early stages of the relationship it really bothered me and it was a constant worry and nearly broke us up. However, we stuck with it and I've never been happier. She actually likes that I'm older as I'm more mature (apparently lol). It all depends on the individual people involved, but don't disregard it... It can work!

[jamesgoldman]

I know of 3 couples with serious age gaps... one divorced after 20 years of marriage (age gap 17 years), one is separated after over 20 years together (age gap 28 years) and the last are still good together after 12 years (age gap 20 years)

[ohshee]

I THINK anything can work if you want it to work ,,, think for me anyway there would come a time where I feel I might be holding her back and I would let her know what I think she should do

[AvaW359]

It's about how much you have in common. Absolutely it can work.

[girlinthemirror]

i was 24 when i met my 53 years old husband... he was better than any guy i ever knew and i thought he is 10 years younger