My ldr man and I have been in love with each other for a long time. He calls me the love of his life and he recently told me I'm also his best friend, which surprised me and it made me so happy to hear he views me like that!
Closing the gap has been very difficult due to the immigration changes from the new administration and now due to Covid. Our plans were ruined once this virus hit but we hope his country will open up to Americans soon. We plan to get married and have been planning it a long time.
There's something that troubles me... he has ALWAYS been very jealous. However, for the last couple of months, he's told me on several occasions that if for some reason, we can't get past these obstacles and close the gap soon, he'd understand if I met and married someone else, I'm a divorced and struggling mom of 3. He said he'd hate it but would still love me regardless and would still want to talk to me all the time. He said his love for me is for life, no matter what choice I made. It almost sounds like he's giving up or someone over there has his ear... on the other hand, I get where he's coming from. He wants to be here and be able to provide, it really bugs him that he can't. He makes so little in his country but would do very well here.
If it seems like we will never be able to be together, I too would understand if he moved on and will love him till the day I die and beyond. I want him to be happy, not lonely and miserable. But I'd also be deeply hurt to know he's got someone else and I'd want to respect his new relationship... I wouldn't be calling him at all.
I don't know why I'm writing this, I don't even have any questions really. It's very mature of him to be realistic and to admit true feelings. I guess just the shift from being his typical "jealous" self to this is something I wasn't expecting from him.
Should I be prepared this is coming to an end sooner rather than later?
Closing the gap has been very difficult due to the immigration changes from the new administration and now due to Covid. Our plans were ruined once this virus hit but we hope his country will open up to Americans soon. We plan to get married and have been planning it a long time.
There's something that troubles me... he has ALWAYS been very jealous. However, for the last couple of months, he's told me on several occasions that if for some reason, we can't get past these obstacles and close the gap soon, he'd understand if I met and married someone else, I'm a divorced and struggling mom of 3. He said he'd hate it but would still love me regardless and would still want to talk to me all the time. He said his love for me is for life, no matter what choice I made. It almost sounds like he's giving up or someone over there has his ear... on the other hand, I get where he's coming from. He wants to be here and be able to provide, it really bugs him that he can't. He makes so little in his country but would do very well here.
If it seems like we will never be able to be together, I too would understand if he moved on and will love him till the day I die and beyond. I want him to be happy, not lonely and miserable. But I'd also be deeply hurt to know he's got someone else and I'd want to respect his new relationship... I wouldn't be calling him at all.
I don't know why I'm writing this, I don't even have any questions really. It's very mature of him to be realistic and to admit true feelings. I guess just the shift from being his typical "jealous" self to this is something I wasn't expecting from him.
Should I be prepared this is coming to an end sooner rather than later?
