What can I do to improve my self-love?

[hopegirly]

Hey people, i want you to advise me :) What do you do to love yourself more?
thankyou everyone

[TonyV]

spectrum. Tou tell me in what way you dont love yourself?

I dont like my looks and I dont see why any woman would either.
Buuuut talking to girls has proofed myself wrong. More girls than I've ever dreamed of have called me cute.
There is really no bad blows to my self esteem trying to date so far. When I like a girl and she turns out to suck or is flat out rude to me it's still raises my self esteem. I think wow i was worried what she thinks?

I thought wy to highly of all women so experiencing the mean ones make me realize they aren't so great, they aren't as high up as I thought and I'm not as low I thought.

Of course the nice girls who after a decent conversation let me down nice and easy cause I'm just not what they want help too.

[hopegirly]

i feel fault very easily and maybe i have difficulty to forgive myself

[TonyV]

You feel fault and have a hard time getting over it?
Do you feel fault cause you make mistakes?
Or is it more like you're getting frustrated cause you try to do thinks as well as you can but it dosent turn out quite perfect?

[hopegirly]

i have ocd so my intrusive thought says i did wrong things even if i did not

[TonyV]

So you'll do something then after when its said and done you'll think to yourself "I should have done this" or "it would have been better if I did that instead"?
If it's like that all i can say is hine sight is 20/20.

[hopegirly]

haha good, thankyou for support :) i will try

[TonyV]

I know it's hard to not get worried about doing something perfect, I know I do, I get so worried about doing something "just right" so I end up not even doing it.
At least you did it, it's not exactly how you wanted it to be but you did it!

[hopegirly]

i want you to be strong too, you can as i can *-*

[TonyV]

Thank you, I appreciate that.

[hopegirly]

me too :) :)

[es20490446e]

Just realize that everything you do starts with you.

[hopegirly]

awwwnn that's beautiful!!! it really makes me feel better, thankyou so much :)

[es20490446e]

Have a nice day 🌈

[scarlett774]

When you wake up every morning look in the mirror and say 3 things you like about yourself.

[hopegirly]

wooow i liked it!! Thankyouuu *-*

[lanadelrey25]

When you find out, tell me

[hopegirly]

hahaha alright

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

What I say to love yourself more is do things to improve your self-image, maybe get a new hairstyle, buy a new body spray that smells good, buy yourself some little thing to make you feel better, even new pair of pants, new skirt, new shirt?

[hopegirly]

or doing makeup hahaha thankyouu *-*

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@hopegirly You're Welcome :)

[Don-_-Don]

Live a heathly lifestyle.
By that I mean develop healthy daily habits.
Read a book
Do research on important things in the world
Take cold showers
Exercise
Eat healthy
Go to bed on time
Etc and just stay away from all bad habits.
It's not easy to change your bad habits into good ones, but if you truly love yourself or want to love yourself more you WILL do it.

[hopegirly]

ohh yeaah you are right!! I will try to do it, thankyouuu :)

[Berethor]

Acknowledge both your pluses and minuses, and don't expect yourself to be the best.

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/AlwaysSomeoneBetter

[hopegirly]

why i cannot expect best of myself?

[Berethor]

You can but don't hate yourself only because you are not the best, pride comes before a fall.

[hopegirly]

ahhh i get it now :)

i think we have to forgive ourselves and understand we cannot be perfect but we are good how we are

[Berethor]

Something like that, humans are flawed, some humans are just more flawed than others. :P

tvtropes.org/.../HumansAreFlawed

tvtropes.org/.../AnimalFarm

[hopegirly]

lmaoo

[Twenty2]

What do you think you are missing? Find it, get it.

[hopegirly]

ohh that's good advice
thankyouu :)

[Brendan824]

Make it a habit to take care of yourself it could be baby steps that's fine. Self care is self love

[hopegirly]

what type of self care?

[Brendan824]

It could be anything from a simple bath or go to a spa or even a vacation is self care

[Gedaria]

Look at good things in your life, you body. There are always things that look good. Try joining a gym , it's amasing how you can get people to help or give mutual advice...

[Wise4myage]

Focus on improving your self esteem and believing in yourself more. Do nice things for others.

[Bhavin2184]

Accept your self.
Listen to music.

[hopegirly]

i think i don't accept me how i accept me in 2019, sadly, i really need to do it, thankss

[honeybunSs]

Accomplish your goals and challenge yourself.

[JosyJosy]

Reach goals, live healthy

[Anonymous]

Why don't you love yourself more?

[hopegirly]

i love myself but i want to improve it. I have some
psychological problems that make my self-love harder *-*

[Opinion Owner]

Have you considered seeing a therapist? I have been seeing one myself and it has improved my outlook on life. As I am no stranger to psychological problems.

[hopegirly]

yeah i have one therapist but i am not seeing her now beause corona :(

[Opinion Owner]

Is she not seeing patients during the pandemic? Mine is still doing in person meetings as well as Skype/Zoom visits.

[hopegirly]

she is but it is not everyone who can talk to therapist now sadly :(

[Opinion Owner]

Would you like to talk to me about it? I am no therapist, but I have to ears to listen; or rather in this instance two eyes to read.

[Opinion Owner]

*two ears

[hopegirly]

awwww it is amazing, yeah i want to talk to you, message me please *---*

[Opinion Owner]

I just followed you; but you need to follow me in order for me to message you.

[Iron_Man]

Go to church and exercise in the gym

[haremhan]

be strong