Have you ever cheated? If so what made you do it?

[EmoKate97]

Honestly appreciated. I'll say for the sake of it, iv never cheated on my partner but iv come close once because the guy i was with was an asshole. And admittedly iv been with men who were cheating with me, reason iv went through with it was to get a confidence boost and because i didn't know the girl personally.

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Just a typo, by "iv never cheated on my partner" i mean that iv NEVER cheated on any of my ex's, i'm single atm tho.

As for the time iv came close to cheating, boyfriend i was with changed from the guy i was first attracted to, he turned out to be a man child, was selfish and was a fake ass intellectual / not as smart as he presented himself. There was a loner type guy at work i really liked and i would've cheated with him, but i didn't want him to think i was a cheater or slut (ironic enough)

[JustinTheGreat]

I’ve cheated in 2 relationships before.

One was long distance, I met him while he was on vacation with his family. He was from England while I was in America. We dated long distance for a month but I couldn’t handle the distance and ended up sleeping with someone. And someone I knew messaged him and told him about it. I was really heartbroken losing him because at the time I thought I was “in love” with him, but it was silly puppy dog love and I barely knew him. I was 15 at the time.

And the other one, I ended up falling for one of my close friends while I was dating someone. We would fuck behind his back and I confessed to him and he broke up with me obviously. I didn’t really argue with the break up. I was just like “okay I understand, you deserve better anyways”
and afterwards he told me he wasn’t so upset about me cheating but he was upset that I didn’t fight for his forgiveness. But I didn’t fight for him because I had more feelings for the other dude anyways. And he didn’t even feel the same and said no when I asked him out, so I played myself.

this was when I was a dumb teenager, I would never cheat on anyone again. I think it’s one of the worst things you can do to someone and I hated myself for it

[msc545]

I have, yes, out of both boredom and anger. It was many years ago and I will never do it again.

[EmoKate97]

Ok, I don't know if you're down but i'd want to know just for future reference in case my guy cheats, what happened both times to make you cheat? Could your girlfriend do anything to stop it or you would've done it regardless? And were there any "signs" or "hints" that you were cheating that your girlfriend didn't catch?

[msc545]

I was lonely, bored with life, and living in a place with a ton of really attractive girls. My girlfriend was in the UK for a month, and I was at home in Spain working. I was angry that she didn't wait until I finished a project I HAD to finish. So one night I went out, met some very hot Dutch girl, and we fucked all weekend. I felt like shit later, and never did tell my girlfriend. I don't react well to being neglected. It was just the one time.

[msc545]

Don't neglect your guy.

[Anonymous]

Okay so im bisexual and i was cheated on by my ex girlfriend in high school and i was loyal to her until i found out she was cheating with her friend and hid it from me. My heart was shattered and broken into pieces and i ended up cheating back on her because i couldn't take the pain and i was so angry i and felt betrayed i wanted to get back so i did. I know two wrongs dont make a right but i wanted her to feel the pain i did so i cheated with this guy, first it was emotionally since i had a crush then we got together and i didn't get bad luck or anything. He treated me like an absolute queen and he was loyal to me and felt awful for what happened. Eventually, we broke up but it wasn't due to cheating and I've been loyal in all my relationships that was the only time i cheated and i wouldn't ever do that to someone that is truly in love with me and respects me.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Once a few years ago. It was meant to be for me to meet my current boyfriend.

[EmoKate97]

I hear that happen every once in awhile, where someone cheats but it turns out to be the "perfect" match which i can't shit on, tho it must suck for the person its happening to lol. I gotta ask tho, what was the thing that actually made you cheat? Was the man you were with at the time doing anything wrong or were your feelings for this other guy just stronger?

[Opinion Owner]

Well I strongly believe in faith. My cheating must have been part of the divine plan. I was meant to be forced out of the partnership I was in at the time. He was a dental surgeon starting his own clinic and had less time for me, which made me resentful, so I slept with someone else to get back at him not caring that it might end things. Funnily, the guy I cheated with isn’t my boyfriend, but the path lead me to my current boyfriend and we are so happy.

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you for MHO 💖

[jennifer_bloom]

I’ve never cheated but I once considered leaving a guy for another guy - thank goodness I didn’t cause the new guy abused the girl he dated after I turned him down in favour of my boyfriend

[BeenThereLovedIt]

I've have, but I'm not certain anymore that it constitutes cheating.

My wife doesn't want sex anymore. Her libido, for various reasons, just crashed and burned back around 2013-2014. I have a super-high libido, and she's always known that. After she rejected me so many times back then, I eventually just stopped initiating. After a couple of years of zero sex, I finally just asked her if she would mind if I went elsewhere for it.. I was hoping to spark a discussion and get her to at least commit to some level of sexual contact, and instead she just told me to feel free to go play. At first I didn't believe her, so I asked again several times over the next year, in several different ways. Her answer never changed.

I still believed it was a test - Can't help it, I had an ex that would test me constantly and it left me with a form of relationship-ptsd. I went out with friends one night (as I often did), and the next day I lied and told her I had a ONS with a girl.

She didn't even care. I asked her if she minded if I did it regularly, and she said so long as I didn't get attached.. So over the next few years, I went out and experimented with fantasies and kinks, went to a couple of sex parties, etc.. Had a lot of fun. I still felt some level of guilt, but at the same time, I feel equal or stronger waves of bitterness that I'm even in this situation.

We don't really talk about anymore, like a 'don't ask don't tell' situation. Everything else in our marriage is fine, we still spend time together and she likes to cuddle, but it never ever goes past that, and I don't even try.

[Finchie40]

I am shocked to hear you stayed with her , God Bless ya man

[Finchie40]

When I was young and dumb and full of cum , I cheated on my girlfriend with her Mom , Her Mom came onto me and I always thought her
Mom was hot , we promised to never tell her daughter , I ended the relationship with the both of them cuz I felt like an asshole , From that day on I never cheated again , it was my learning experience , but I been cheated on by other girls and my ex wife , I also had sex with married women that I didn’t know were married until after the fact , So to me everyone is a cheat and for me to fully love hundred percent again and trust that girl is going to be climbing a lot of
Walls

[rienna888]

Yes I have, I know it was horrible and it was the worst thing I've ever done. I felt like he didn't love me, he always prefers his friends over me, and I see him being flirtatious with girls over social media and liking girls slutty pics. I know I should've dumped him instead, but I was a dumb obsessed girl.

[EmoKate97]

who was the guy you cheated with and why him? for me personally, when i almost cheated with a co-worker a big thing was that i was drawn to how mysterious he was and the few times iv talked to him he seemed to automatically know what i was going through, understood i was troubled and empathized with me and didn't judge me about my relationship in the slightest (although he was judgmental tbh). it fucking sucks to have feelings for a guy that gets me better then my boyfriend, but being insecure that he sees you as used goods and the very act of being with him will make him not want you anymore for being "easy" or a "cheater"

[Anonymous]

Just things got to to handle and I guess I just really wanted to fuckin the guy. I don't have any good excuses, I have cheated and I did it because to me it's just sex , doesn't have anything to do with feelings etc. There's a very clear difference between just satisfying an instinct and I don't even see it as cheating. Cheating would be to get emotionally involved with someone else while already being in a relationship.

[Makeushiver]

I think you're entitled to a free pass if the guy you were with was an asshole. I was seduced by a woman (beautiful) who undressed, climbed into my bed and ran her hand up my thigh while I was in a relationship that I tried to stay monogamous. (True story) Would you count that as cheating? I didn't throw her out but I didn't respond until she touched me and one can only resist so much.

[DIRKINOFF]

Yep I've cheated a lot. I can come up with a million reasons why but they all boil down to me being selfish. I'm a slave to immediate gratification and I serve it before all else. It took me a long time to realize I'm lousy at relationships and monogamy but I do really well with friends with benefits and casual relationships.

[DIRKINOFF]

What do you mean by ironic enough? Are you a slut?

[Mrsao]

I made a girl cheat on her husband though I didn't know she was taken I fucked her throat while he was in the next room playing video games, I think many people cheat because they lack communication and get bored and lose feeling for each other and some just find cheating fun and an a adrenaline rush

[mrArcher]

Yes.
I don't want to try and justify it. My motives at the time were irrelevant. It won't make it any less immoral.
The only way that I find admissable to put it was that I cared more about a momentary impulse than salvaging my relationship. And that is unacceptable.
I've hated myself for it and repented ever since. I cried like a little girl two days after the fact.

[fall_angel-86]

I have a long time ago. I was i. ature and not feeling validated in the relationship so I looked for it elsewhere

[TonyV]

I have never cheated.

But i also haven't been in many relationships so that isn't saying a whole lot.

[EmoKate97]

Without sounding lame, as an attractive girl with big boobs and knows when guys are want to sleep with me, there's a LOT of men in relationships that, given the opportunity, would sleep with me, regardless whether or not they have a girlfriend. If i had to guess, i'd say 60% of men would cheat if they were given the opportunity (girls don't fuck on the fly for the most part), that number gets higher whether or not they think they'll get caught.

[RemoErdosain]

Did you actually sleep with those guys?

[EmoKate97]

@RemoErdosain generally no, as in 95% of the time no, but every once in awhile i do if that particular guy catches my interest and stands out for whatever reason.

[SphynxUK]

No I haven’t.
I think I had the opportunity once, but couldn’t and wouldn’t. My relationship was going downhill and I felt unloved and ignored. No communication.

[RHK36]

I've never cheated. I don't see the point. If I feel enough attraction towards another girl to the point of acting on it then that's telling me something about the current relationship I'm in. I'd end it before cheating.

[Heather6018]

You seem like a good man!

[RHK36]

Maybe lol. Probably why I get shit on 😂.

[Daniela1982]

Here are the reasons people give for cheating.

[COMMODOREII]

I've never cheated before. I had two exes who cheated on me and i had plenty of opportunities to cheat but i refused. I would always tell them i respect myself too much and i want to be a man that doesn't do that. It just made them want more. 😕

[SirRexington]

I don't know why a person would cheat. I certainly wouldn't. I'd be lucky enough to get one girl I'm not going to jeopardize that for anything.

[007kingifrit]

sorta i banged my girlfriend's roommate while she was in the hospital freshman year of college. she didn't mind though as i had sex with one with the other in the room after that on more than one occasion anyways

[Anonymous]

Twice. And both times it was a one time thing with different women I already knew. Relationship was in a bad place and we never had sex, so when someone else said "hey, come over," I didn't say no.

[1828avaava1828]

I have not! Not that I haven’t been tempted in situations. I felt guilty for almost giving in, but such is life

[Bismarck_96]

Yes I did it as a payback cause my girl got drunk at a party then slept with a "guy friend" as she claimed to so I avenged with one of her female friends

[AlwaysBelieving]

No I haven't because I wouldn't want it to happen to me.

[Ripper_E]

Never.
I've never been the other guy. Tempting, but no.

[DRudiger]

Yeah, twice. But, she never found out because I was very subtle about it. She was slightly toxic anyway. And loved to play mind games. So I don't regret nothing. Just being honest. I am not going to act like I am some virtuous person. When I am not.

[Anonymous]

I myself have never cheated but I was cheated on. I will say it got to me pretty bad as I have always had a hard time trusting people but after she cheated i have been reluctant to date again anytime soon.

[Heather6018]

Good!

[asshole_]

I've never cheated, but have been cheated on

Girls cheat too, and do it more often than men

They're better at the cover ups

[RemoErdosain]

They're in high demand, and men are always looking to get laid, and don't care if it's someone else's partner

[LEADFOOTboi]

never... cuz that just means that you need to end it

[Pulseofsulfur]

I've never been in a relationship. But I'd never cheat on my partner because I don't think I'm a asshole or selfish

[Anonymous]

Men need variety because sex isn't all wrapped up in emotion. Simple as that.

[Kelly6]

Yes I did it just because of pleasure

[hawkeye92]

I have and I sincerely regret it

[Heather6018]

What made you do it?

[hawkeye92]

@Heather6018 that's a really good question. It's complicated

[Heather6018]

It's complicated? So is it a current partner or an ex? I hope an ex if you cheated.

[hawkeye92]

@Heather6018 it was a previous relationship but she had been cheating on me. I don't think what I did was justified though.

[Heather6018]

How long ago?

[Sylvanas_Windrunner]

I frequently cheat on my wife

[Heather6018]

I have not- but have been cheated on.

[CT_CD]

My penis made me do it

[Cryptic-Game]

I have never cheated and never will.

[INsomaniac88]

Lol I did cuz it went long distance for me.

[Chriswashere]

Naa I’d never do that

[Agape93]

Nope

[MannMitAntworten]

Nope.

[RyanK9b]

No never

[_DARKNESS_]

Nope never did

[JasonLee27th]

Weakness,, & drugs

[Anonymous]

Same as you.