Is it okay to have opposite sex penpals?

[fall4you]

Opposite sex penpals, with that being said calling/txt/picture sending ok? and not telling your GF? My boyfriend has had a penpal for awhile... I never new about her. He left his email up and I saw penpal as the subject (I KNOW BAD but HE LEFT IT UP) I clicked on it and there were pictures (clothed) of her and he had sent pictures of himself. no text. I saw his phone he had her number. I also saw he made a twitter account... It was between him and her and she posted "I ve been thinking about you all dayyyy" "hey cutie add me" well I confronted him and asked if he had a twitter. he blantly lied to my face and said no. then I told him I looked him up. he deleted it immediately. I also was like that's a pretty close penpal huh? Then I asked him would it be OK if I had a male penpal that talked to me like that and I called him once a week to talk about my relationship problems? he said IDK... I don't know what his deal is but he he goes to parties and gets girls numbers... I don't do that sh*t... and he clearly has to be flirting to get their numbers. I used to be the cool laid back girlfriend until he started getting sneaky... He makes me look like the bad guy now. :( then he tells me revenge is not the answer... I'm like how else would you feel the way I feel unless I did the same thing. you think its ok...until I want to do it too.

[heatherlu]

Until it got to the lying part I would have said it was all fine.

I mean, I have a friend who I've only met once, we added each other on fb, and whilst we've never seen each other again, we talk all the time. He's a guy. It's all very innocent.

But at the same time, I don't think I'd ever lie about it - I mean, he wasn't doing that to start with, hiding the truth and blatantly lying are two different things - but the twitter thing, that's where it get's a bit iffy for me.

I don't understand why he'd do that if he had nothing to hide, or why he didn't seem overjoyed with the idea of you in the same situation with a guy - I mean, if his situation is completely innocent, why would he be against you doing the same with a guy that he is with this girl?

And getting other girl's numbers at parties - I mean, you can't say for sure, but yeah, that doesn't sound very innocent at all. I know when I'm in a relationship I'm not getting numbers from guys I've met at clubs or parties.

To me it doesn't sound like you're happy in the relationship - whether these concerns of yours are based on truth or not -they're clearly playing on your mind, and that's not a great basis for a relationship. You can't trust him, you want revenge. It's never a good idea. I'd cut my losses now and end it; before it all starts eating you up and you become more paranoid and further away from the laid back girl you were early on in the relationship.

[maturegent13]

If a guy is "with you" and continually flirting with other women... then he's not the guy you want to be with. While some guys can be in a committed relationship and still be flirty, this isn't what you're asking about... your guy wants to chase after something else, and he's lying to you about it. Get out now, before you get hurt. Let him chase others... he will do so until he grows up, which may be a long time. No reason for you to stand by and watch.

[NerdInDenial]

Normally, pen pals don't call each other cuties and pet names. You do have the right to be angry. Unless he's in a job that collects tips, he shouldn't be getting a lot of girl's numbers. If he wasn't doing anything wrong, he should have nothing to hide.

[KarKingJack]

I was gonna say 'thats okay' up until the part where he lied about it, and after that, that's just UGHHH man. His intentions were foul =[ That's lame. I don't wanna be the guy who just says 'leave him', but man, he sounds no good for you

[508Ricky]

Dump him, why do you want someone like that as your bf.

He's cheating on u.

[garanhao]

still has people penpalling by email? I am using penpal services like penpaland and hipenpal