Are Bisexual Partners More Likely To Cheat?

[anon1903]

Yea because

Nah because

[ShortCircuit]

It's not that bisexual partners are more likely to cheat, it's that being attracted to the same sex makes it impossible to enforce the same reasonable boundaries that would be enforced in a relationship between two strictly heterosexual partners.

For instance, it's reasonable to expect your partner not to share a hotel room with or change in front of an opposite sex friend. Well, what happens when your partner is attracted to the same sex too? If your partner goes on a trip with a group of friends, do they have to be the only one in the group to get their own hotel room, alone? Are they just not allowed to use any public changing rooms? These boundaries would be considered perfectly reasonable in a "normal" relationship, but when one partner is bi, all of a sudden they become unreasonable.

So ultimately, the other partner is forced to tolerate things that they wouldn't normally have to tolerate. I don't think it's fair to blame someone for not wanting to sign up for that.

[jgibsonian1986]

Well said.

[__inkRat]

How about not being a shit person and not cheat? Or self control to not cheat when given opportunity is something extreamly rare in modern world? At the end if you cannot trust yourself to not jump on first opportunity to cheat, why you are even in relationships in first place?

Sexuality or sex does not makes someone more or less likely to cheat, its fucked up priorities and shit personality. You can put hundreds of most attractive willing woman/man to make someone to cheat, and that person will not cheat, if he/she does not want it. Cheating is a choice not an fucking impulse.

[ShortCircuit]

@__inkRat Again, it has nothing to do with cheating or even the prospect of cheating. I simply do not want my partner to be in sexually charged situations with a person who is the sex she's attracted to, at all.

Saying "I don't care if my partner shares a hotel room with someone who is the sex she's attracted to, as long as she doesn't cheat." sounds the same to me as saying "I don't care if she goes to kiss a man and gets within an inch of his lips, as long as she decides against it at the last millisecond." Even if she doesn't follow through, even being in the situation to begin with is a betrayal in its own right.

[S8nBam]

Great well thought out response

[__inkRat]

@jgibsonian1986 are you sexually attracted to all woman when in relationships? Because thats what you imply. Its easy to turn almost every situation into sexualy charged situation if both parties want to. Its virtually impossible to do so, if one party does not want it. In normal monogamous relationships people stop looking at other people in sexual way. Bessides one can be attracted to other person in non sexual way, for example a good friend is a form of attraction.

I do get what your saying, you want to mitigate risk of her cheating or leaving, but there is nothing you can do to stop it from happening, if she does chose to do so. If she will want to cheat with man or girl, she will cheat, and the same is for man. There is nothing what you me or anyone else can do about it. The same thing of course also works in reverse.

[jgibsonian1986]

@__inkRat It's not my statement, you just seem to be deflecting to another target or mistyped. Also you miss the point, @ShortCircuit wouldn't want to be with a woman who is willing to sleep with her friend in a hotel room for the fun of it whatsoever, and it so happens that the idea of sex being just a physical activity is the general consensus of the LGBTQ community.

To use a food anology:
If you trust a glutton to plan your diet you had better account for more than you can chew.

From the logic of how gender theory is made, bisexuals don't value sex in relationships as much as a theoretically normative heterosexual. And if they did, they would be strait despite their own desire. Love bindes itself, after all.

[jgibsonian1986]

To say it another way, if a bisexual got into a relationship with the opposite sex and was as serious as the ideal strait person, they wouldn't be bi, they would be strait. But if a woman in a relationship with a man says she is still a bisexual, she is saying that she still wants to have sex with women in her future.

[ShortCircuit]

@__inkRat No, of course I'm not attracted to all women, and I didn't claim that bisexual women were attracted to all women. However, I have no way of knowing which she's attracted to and which she isn't, so I have no choice but to treat all women as though she is attracted to them, just like I would with men for a straight partner. But this is all besides the point, because if I had a straight partner, I wouldn't feel any better about her sharing a hotel room with another man if she just told me she wasn't attracted to him. It makes no difference. Her sharing a hotel room with a man is unacceptable in and of itself. And if I had a bisexual partner, I would have to extend that to other women as well.

[TruthBringer]

@ShortCircuit Very well thought out response. I agree 100%

[Vewrie]

This is NOT “well said”. It is not reasonable among lesbians or gays that their partner never goes to the gym and gets changed among people of the same sex. I am bisexual and know many lesbian girls. They are all friends with their ex girlfriends and many are active in same sex sports etc. Lesbians and bisexuals do not get turned on by any naked female in sight, that is specifically men. I am bisexual and I am not attracted to more people than what an average straight girl is. On the contrary, there are very few girls and guys I am attracted to. Even though I am bi I don’t feel “aroused” if a girl sits next to me on the bus. And same for guys.

[Vewrie]

That is unreasonably jealous. I don’t get attracted to more than a minority of both men and women. Just because you apperently find any woman sexually attractive it does not mean that bi people function this way.

[Vewrie]

@jgibsonian1986 This is AWFUL!!! And you are so sexist and stupid about this, you have no idea. Your logic is totally irrational, with your logic you would cease to be straight when you are in a relationship because otherwise you are planning to cheat with other women. I am bisexual and I’ll always be. If I end up marrying a woman I’ll still be bisexual, it is normal to be able to find other people attractive even if you are married, everyone do this. You don’t act upon it though if you are not a cheater and it does not mean that you want to cheat or change who your partner is.

[jgibsonian1986]

@Vewrie If I was strait there is no further catagorization or genre to further put me in. I'd be strait in or out of a relationship with a woman, or even if I never had a relationship with one at all. But a woman in a relationship with a man who says she is still bisexual is literally saying "Even though you are supposed to be the only person for me, I still identify my sexuality with people who are exclusivly not you."

It's also within "gender theory" that sexual identity may change at will, so it's entirely reasonable for a Bi woman to go hetero for her one man. My irrational logic is the same that the LGBTQ uses.

I don't fornicate, so no, I literally wouldn't be planning to cheat with another woman whatsoever, as there is no planning, other woman, or woman to cheat on in the first place. That's your projected stereotype, not my reality.

I have realized something though, bisexual people are way less likely to cheat. Any Bi person I know would simply just leave the relationship if they wanted to sleep with someone else/try to turn the relationship into a friend's with benefits situation.
I guess the point that I was trying to make earlier is that bisexual people are more likely to put their priorities into sex rather than a relationship.

[rjroy3]

@Vewrie to be fair, cheating is rampant in the gay community even more so than among heterosexual people. Have many many many gay friends and been around that world for some time.

His comments are directly applicable to a bisexual partner avoiding situations that could lead to cheating. It's not at all unreasonable or controlling. Personally I would not care, but that's just because I'm okay with a girl hooking up with other girls.

I just want to take part as well. Or at the least she needs to be on board with me hooking up with other girls so it's fair. But if I weren't okay with that I'd spend more time on making sure my relationship is rock solid. That her needs are fulfilled to the best of my abilities and support her freedom wherever I can while asserting my personal boundaries.

To me a partner should be on board with avoiding situations that could look bad for the sake of their relationship. Doesn't mean you're not free to do what you want. It means do what you want, but if a situation looks bad you should probably avoid it so as to avoid temptation.

You're not going to have 100% willpower all the time

[LukeMerchant]

I've got it where did that come from, you indeed have more "rivals" , but I think it's not dependable to sexuality.

[Apple1996]

Definitely not. I'm bi and have been in a committed realtionship for the last 7 years.
I absolutely hate this stereotype about bisexuals. We have fucking standards we ain't gonna fuck any person that's around just cause we like all genders doesn't mean that we like all people. Having a certain sexual orientation doesn't show how loyal someone is so it really makes no sense why this is such a big stereotype.

[FriendlyEnigma]

Fucking love this 💖💙💛

[Apple1996]

@FriendlyEnigma thank you!

[matchrestore]

Yup. Bi guy here. Just because I'm attracted to more than one gender doesn't mean I'm more promiscuous or am attracted to just anyone. I've been with my wife for 11 years now (7 married) and I haven't cheated on her once.

[matchrestore]

@KamalasOnherKnees depended on the day. More fluid.

[Puppystarfish23]

NO... im so sick of this stereotype of bisexuals being cheats. As a closet bisexual myself i can tell you we are just the same as everyone else and the reason im so scared of coming out is because i love my boyfriend and family and i don't want them to see me any differently to who i am.

I've kinda hinted to my boyfriend but im bisexual and im pretty sure everyone knows we just don't talk about and if we do it's in a joking manner.

I love my boyfriend in the same way any straight person would love there partner. You don't have to like both genders to cheat plenty of straight people cheat too. Everyone is a individual and can't be characterised as a cheat just based on their sexual preferences

[WalterBlack]

Hypothetically, a bisexual person would probably have more OPPORTUNITIES to cheat. But that doesn't mean that they will necessarily act on those opportunities.

If a person is very attractive they will theoretically have an easier time approaching a random person and initiating a hookup than someone who is average looking. Does that mean highly attractive people are more likely to cheat? I don't know if there is a solid answer to this question, but I do not think that attractive people are significantly more likely to cheat, just because they can.

[Ellie-V]

No, because being a cheater is a person who lies or goes are their partners backs. Being bisexual has nothing to do with being a deceiver. Attraction has very little to do with how garbage a person can be. Are you going to say that a person in America that likes white people only are going to be more likely to cheat because all other ethnicities are in smaller numbers? No. Because that’s a genuinely stupid assumption that isn’t based in reality.

[WhiteSteve]

Maybe, just in a truly statistical sense, in that there are just more potential romantic/sexual targets if you can select from two different pools, thus increasing the odds of an indiscretion. But I don’t think it changes anything from a character standpoint and makes an individual more likely to do that to their partner.

[cth96190]

I have had relationships with two women who were openly bisexual.
In the case of one, I was invited to watch, because she and her special friends were turned on by an audience.
After they had exhausted each other, more often than not I was invited to join them to give some D.
From a male point of view, what was not to like? - lol

[Mystery11137girl]

No becz men like to have multiple sexual partners so they r more likely to cheat nd honestly I think if a couple is on a break then the guy will go nd fuck, if a beautiful woman comes his way nd think of it as an achievement that he fucked a beautiful one nd boast about it nd only if he truly nd absolutely loves his long term partner he won’t fuck any beautiful woman who comes his way.

[sluttykristi]

Nope liking the same sex has nothing to do with cheating omg really? My boyfriends and girlfriends im with sexually know its sexually so cheating dont even come into play here for me. But being with someone exclusively is just that being bi sexually has nothing to do if you are more prone to cheating

[Yuuibtony]

How many girls u had sex with?

[harmon]

wtf, that's not your business

[Yuuibtony]

Girls doing it is a turn on

[Tom_Steve]

Hey can you follow me then I could text you... of course if you want...

[AdorableLilo]

@Yuuibtony And this is why i don't tell guys i'm dating a girl. They most of the time fetishise my relationship and say it's not a 'real relationship'

[Yuuibtony]

@AdorableLile
Graduation you just indirectly told me u date girls just to get attention form me, wow.

[AdorableLilo]

@Yuuibtony Nope, it was more of a statement to say that there are so many guys like you online and real life that i got harrassed in the past because my relationship is apparently like walking porn. We don't show affection to each other in puplic because there's alway that guy (or sometimes guys) who think we're putting up a show for them

[Yuuibtony]

Well, you are just like you want attention from me by coming at me telling me you a lesbian I already see you and your girlfriend kissing in my head, when all u have to do just keep it to yourself, so don't come and victimized yourself when you the one at fault.

[sluttykristi]

Omg yuuibtony <-- what ever that means. Go away this is the problem she likes girls as do i. What it the big deal see its guys like you that cause the problems we would love to talk about the love we feel for other women and how much they turn us on but men like you keep us from enjoying those conversations. Go the hell away

[Yuuibtony]

She started it by coming at me, wtf? I was just minding my own business

[sluttykristi]

Go away leave her alone

[Yuuibtony]

Dude read the fucking comments, wtf?

[sluttykristi]

Dude? Again go away she obviously dont want you to talk to her and you are being very rude be a man if that is possible and go away

[Yuuibtony]

You makes no sense at all she reply to me first if you read the comments then I reply back then she reply again then I reply back so how I in the wrong when she started it?

[sluttykristi]

Shut up oh my God go away grow the hell up good bye leave

[Yuuibtony]

You a feminist

[Yuuibtony]

She literally reply to me first telling me she a lesbian, wtf?

[sluttykristi]

Omg idiot shut up lol oh my God

[Yuuibtony]

You don't see how she started this? didn't you read all the comments?

[AdorableLilo]

@Yuuibtony Your proving my point even further. First of all if i, in your head, was a lesbian why the fuck would i want sexual attention from you? The gender i am not romantically, emotionally or sexually attracted to. It makes no sense which is why it only happends in porn or in the imagination of a straight guy. Because of this illogical way of thinking i don't show my girlfriend any affection in public.
Second of all, i'm bisexual you close-minded egoist. Even tho i'm also attracted to guys i don't flirt with any of you when i'm in a relationship. And definitely not when i get spoken to the way you do

[Yuuibtony]

Ok good for you doesn't mean you have to continue going back and fourth with me on this.

[sluttykristi]

Omg what a rude egotistical ass go away

[Yuuibtony]

Not my fault women like my face more then my personality

[sluttykristi]

also thinks a lot of his looks im wondering what kind of mirror he has.

[Yuuibtony]

I know i look good, a lot of women call me hot, also you sexy yourself

[MCheetah]

Yes, but mainly because they're vapid, narcissistic attention whores who can't just call themselves lesbians like they really are (or straight, because they want to pretend to be LGBT for the soc-jus cred). I hate them and find them to be disgusting. They give authentic gay people a bad name and I feel sorry for the genuine gay people out there who have to be lumped in with those attention whores.

[giasadie]

This is dead set accurate. I don’t believe in bi sexuality, it’s for those that truly love the opposite sex but just want to want to have fun.

[Ellie-V]

Hey, bisexual here. You’re wrong.

[MCheetah]

@giasadie
YES! I hate them! They're just as bad as the "non-binary, 47 genders" people! They're all attention whores! Either lesbians who think homosexuality is "too bland and vanilla" nowadays and think calling yourself this crap makes them cool with the cucks. Or the other types out there; the straight girls who are equally pathetic and just seeking attention; again, so loser guys will find them cool/desirable. And as much as I don't like these phony attention whores, the sinps willing to emasculate themselves to hook up with a lesbian (who are just using them; mainly as an ATM) are just as pathetic.

[AdorableLilo]

Dude, bisexuality is a thing. It's not being gay in desguise, it's not half straight half gay or anything. Also, you do know men can be bisexual too, right It seems like you had women in mind when typing this and just went all mad

[AdorableLilo]

Also, trust me. A lesbian wouldn't want to hook up with a guy. It's like a hyper straight dude wouldn't want to hook up with another dude. Lesbians find it yucky. A bisexual woman would be willing to hook up with a dude and with a woman. But also, bi people have standaards. They don't hook up/have relationships with a man or woman purely because that's the gender they are attracted to

[Newhead]

of course not, well not in my case. If I get married right now to a man, especially if we have kids I would not be cheating with a girl because I am bi, ain't nobody got time for that. I think most bisexual lean to one side mostly and when in a serious relationship with that person, they don't try to have anything with the other, at least in my case.

[chHaynes]

I would say yeah the likely it's like if a straight couple work to cheat it's the same concept if they find something better comes along and they're still with them they're going to try to find a way to see that person without getting caught it is in definitely no different than a straight couple

[guesswhoseback]

Just simple logic. There are now twice as many people out there who can tempt them.

That’s not to say a bi person will cheat. I bet plenty don’t. But still it’s now more complicated. I can see them finding someone else quickly if their bored or pissed off at me. Very quickly.

[Rexos]

No. Sexual orientation is not a personality trait, being untrustworthy and unfaithful is. If someone cheats it's not because of who else they find attractive, it's just because they're a shitty person.

[Gagname]

Nah - everyone’s different; and cheating is about faithfulness to a SO and the “relationship agreement/understanding” with that SO, and not about gender preferences/having “more options available” to someone.

[AliceTheNguyener]

No we are not :( its so sad people actually think that. Those saying yes, how does being bisexual make you less faithful to someone? Unfaithful heterosexual people cheat, unfaithful bisexual people cheat, and unfaithful homosexual people cheat.

[BCA6010]

The willingness to cheat is a personality trait/flaw. I've never seen any evidence that this is tied to sexual orientation, but I've heard this one enough to consider it a popular excuse, if nothing else.

[josephinelcajon]

Sadly gay and bisexual seem to not take relationships as serious as straight people. NO not all but a significant amount! I think this has been a stigma that has lasted decades sense the Aids era when the spread of aids was blamed on this!

[guesswhoseback]

Like a lot of things politically incorrect this is the ugly truth. From my observations bi and gay people tend to be much more promiscuous in general.

[catsandbroadway]

@guesswhoseback uhh fyi lesbian relationships are way better than straight ones. The dates are way cuter, we interact more, it’s not all about sex, and women are sweeter than men

[guesswhoseback]

@catsandbroadway I think that’s more about female vs male psychological dynamics. For example in most scenarios men and women can not be friends are breakups. They can be friendly but not friends.

Men have a thing about having an objective in romantic situations. We are goal oriented. We have to know the time we spend interacting with the woman means she respects us and has sexual interest. It’s tied into sex but not just about sex. We have to know she looks at us differently than other people in her life. Women on the other hand enjoy socializing for the sake of socializing.

So let me ask you, can you stay real friends with women you are no longer sexual with? I heard lesbians can do this more easily. I know I’m not friends with any of my female exes. I miss one of them immensely too (as a friend only) but I know her and I will never be on same talking basis we were many years ago.

Anyway many guys would get pissed of their gfs cheated on them with another woman. Personally (maybe this is a mental quirk I have) I wouldn’t mind if my girlfriend messed around with another woman just as long she asked for permission beforehand. Yeah maybe that’s a moral hiccup I got. But it doesn’t bother me the same way it would of she did with another guy (which would be game over). But I would be more worried about her falling emotionally in love with the other woman. That’s were the real threat comes.

[josephinelcajon]

@catsandbroadway I am glad to hear that lesbian relationships are taken seriously.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Yes and no. Some can be totally monogamous. Others need at least some sort of sexual stuff with both genders to be happy.

[Hurlyburly]

Why would they? If someone's unfaithful they'd cheat, if they aren't they won't. Sexuality doesn't have anything to do with that.

[Juxtapose]

I *AM* bisexual and have never cheated. It's not hard lol and if it was, I would go into a non-monogamous relationship.