How about not being a shit person and not cheat? Or self control to not cheat when given opportunity is something extreamly rare in modern world? At the end if you cannot trust yourself to not jump on first opportunity to cheat, why you are even in relationships in first place?Sexuality or sex does not makes someone more or less likely to cheat, its fucked up priorities and shit personality. You can put hundreds of most attractive willing woman/man to make someone to cheat, and that person will not cheat, if he/she does not want it. Cheating is a choice not an fucking impulse.
@__inkRat Again, it has nothing to do with cheating or even the prospect of cheating. I simply do not want my partner to be in sexually charged situations with a person who is the sex she's attracted to, at all. Saying "I don't care if my partner shares a hotel room with someone who is the sex she's attracted to, as long as she doesn't cheat." sounds the same to me as saying "I don't care if she goes to kiss a man and gets within an inch of his lips, as long as she decides against it at the last millisecond." Even if she doesn't follow through, even being in the situation to begin with is a betrayal in its own right.
Great well thought out response
@jgibsonian1986 are you sexually attracted to all woman when in relationships? Because thats what you imply. Its easy to turn almost every situation into sexualy charged situation if both parties want to. Its virtually impossible to do so, if one party does not want it. In normal monogamous relationships people stop looking at other people in sexual way. Bessides one can be attracted to other person in non sexual way, for example a good friend is a form of attraction. I do get what your saying, you want to mitigate risk of her cheating or leaving, but there is nothing you can do to stop it from happening, if she does chose to do so. If she will want to cheat with man or girl, she will cheat, and the same is for man. There is nothing what you me or anyone else can do about it. The same thing of course also works in reverse.
@__inkRat It's not my statement, you just seem to be deflecting to another target or mistyped. Also you miss the point, @ShortCircuit wouldn't want to be with a woman who is willing to sleep with her friend in a hotel room for the fun of it whatsoever, and it so happens that the idea of sex being just a physical activity is the general consensus of the LGBTQ community.To use a food anology:If you trust a glutton to plan your diet you had better account for more than you can chew.From the logic of how gender theory is made, bisexuals don't value sex in relationships as much as a theoretically normative heterosexual. And if they did, they would be strait despite their own desire. Love bindes itself, after all.
To say it another way, if a bisexual got into a relationship with the opposite sex and was as serious as the ideal strait person, they wouldn't be bi, they would be strait. But if a woman in a relationship with a man says she is still a bisexual, she is saying that she still wants to have sex with women in her future.
@__inkRat No, of course I'm not attracted to all women, and I didn't claim that bisexual women were attracted to all women. However, I have no way of knowing which she's attracted to and which she isn't, so I have no choice but to treat all women as though she is attracted to them, just like I would with men for a straight partner. But this is all besides the point, because if I had a straight partner, I wouldn't feel any better about her sharing a hotel room with another man if she just told me she wasn't attracted to him. It makes no difference. Her sharing a hotel room with a man is unacceptable in and of itself. And if I had a bisexual partner, I would have to extend that to other women as well.
@ShortCircuit Very well thought out response. I agree 100%
This is NOT “well said”. It is not reasonable among lesbians or gays that their partner never goes to the gym and gets changed among people of the same sex. I am bisexual and know many lesbian girls. They are all friends with their ex girlfriends and many are active in same sex sports etc. Lesbians and bisexuals do not get turned on by any naked female in sight, that is specifically men. I am bisexual and I am not attracted to more people than what an average straight girl is. On the contrary, there are very few girls and guys I am attracted to. Even though I am bi I don’t feel “aroused” if a girl sits next to me on the bus. And same for guys.
That is unreasonably jealous. I don’t get attracted to more than a minority of both men and women. Just because you apperently find any woman sexually attractive it does not mean that bi people function this way.
@jgibsonian1986 This is AWFUL!!! And you are so sexist and stupid about this, you have no idea. Your logic is totally irrational, with your logic you would cease to be straight when you are in a relationship because otherwise you are planning to cheat with other women. I am bisexual and I’ll always be. If I end up marrying a woman I’ll still be bisexual, it is normal to be able to find other people attractive even if you are married, everyone do this. You don’t act upon it though if you are not a cheater and it does not mean that you want to cheat or change who your partner is.
@Vewrie If I was strait there is no further catagorization or genre to further put me in. I'd be strait in or out of a relationship with a woman, or even if I never had a relationship with one at all. But a woman in a relationship with a man who says she is still bisexual is literally saying "Even though you are supposed to be the only person for me, I still identify my sexuality with people who are exclusivly not you."It's also within "gender theory" that sexual identity may change at will, so it's entirely reasonable for a Bi woman to go hetero for her one man. My irrational logic is the same that the LGBTQ uses. I don't fornicate, so no, I literally wouldn't be planning to cheat with another woman whatsoever, as there is no planning, other woman, or woman to cheat on in the first place. That's your projected stereotype, not my reality.I have realized something though, bisexual people are way less likely to cheat. Any Bi person I know would simply just leave the relationship if they wanted to sleep with someone else/try to turn the relationship into a friend's with benefits situation. I guess the point that I was trying to make earlier is that bisexual people are more likely to put their priorities into sex rather than a relationship.
@Vewrie to be fair, cheating is rampant in the gay community even more so than among heterosexual people. Have many many many gay friends and been around that world for some time.His comments are directly applicable to a bisexual partner avoiding situations that could lead to cheating. It's not at all unreasonable or controlling. Personally I would not care, but that's just because I'm okay with a girl hooking up with other girls.I just want to take part as well. Or at the least she needs to be on board with me hooking up with other girls so it's fair. But if I weren't okay with that I'd spend more time on making sure my relationship is rock solid. That her needs are fulfilled to the best of my abilities and support her freedom wherever I can while asserting my personal boundaries.To me a partner should be on board with avoiding situations that could look bad for the sake of their relationship. Doesn't mean you're not free to do what you want. It means do what you want, but if a situation looks bad you should probably avoid it so as to avoid temptation.You're not going to have 100% willpower all the time
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Fucking love this 💖💙💛
@FriendlyEnigma thank you!
Yup. Bi guy here. Just because I'm attracted to more than one gender doesn't mean I'm more promiscuous or am attracted to just anyone. I've been with my wife for 11 years now (7 married) and I haven't cheated on her once.
@KamalasOnherKnees depended on the day. More fluid.
But capable of not acting upon the double danger
I'd be insecure all the time though
This is dead set accurate. I don’t believe in bi sexuality, it’s for those that truly love the opposite sex but just want to want to have fun.
Hey, bisexual here. You’re wrong.
@giasadie YES! I hate them! They're just as bad as the "non-binary, 47 genders" people! They're all attention whores! Either lesbians who think homosexuality is "too bland and vanilla" nowadays and think calling yourself this crap makes them cool with the cucks. Or the other types out there; the straight girls who are equally pathetic and just seeking attention; again, so loser guys will find them cool/desirable. And as much as I don't like these phony attention whores, the sinps willing to emasculate themselves to hook up with a lesbian (who are just using them; mainly as an ATM) are just as pathetic.
Dude, bisexuality is a thing. It's not being gay in desguise, it's not half straight half gay or anything. Also, you do know men can be bisexual too, right It seems like you had women in mind when typing this and just went all mad
Also, trust me. A lesbian wouldn't want to hook up with a guy. It's like a hyper straight dude wouldn't want to hook up with another dude. Lesbians find it yucky. A bisexual woman would be willing to hook up with a dude and with a woman. But also, bi people have standaards. They don't hook up/have relationships with a man or woman purely because that's the gender they are attracted to
How many girls u had sex with?
wtf, that's not your business
Girls doing it is a turn on
Hey can you follow me then I could text you... of course if you want...
@Yuuibtony And this is why i don't tell guys i'm dating a girl. They most of the time fetishise my relationship and say it's not a 'real relationship'
@AdorableLile Graduation you just indirectly told me u date girls just to get attention form me, wow.
@Yuuibtony Nope, it was more of a statement to say that there are so many guys like you online and real life that i got harrassed in the past because my relationship is apparently like walking porn. We don't show affection to each other in puplic because there's alway that guy (or sometimes guys) who think we're putting up a show for them
Well, you are just like you want attention from me by coming at me telling me you a lesbian I already see you and your girlfriend kissing in my head, when all u have to do just keep it to yourself, so don't come and victimized yourself when you the one at fault.
Omg yuuibtony <-- what ever that means. Go away this is the problem she likes girls as do i. What it the big deal see its guys like you that cause the problems we would love to talk about the love we feel for other women and how much they turn us on but men like you keep us from enjoying those conversations. Go the hell away
She started it by coming at me, wtf? I was just minding my own business
Go away leave her alone
Dude read the fucking comments, wtf?
Dude? Again go away she obviously dont want you to talk to her and you are being very rude be a man if that is possible and go away
You makes no sense at all she reply to me first if you read the comments then I reply back then she reply again then I reply back so how I in the wrong when she started it?
Shut up oh my God go away grow the hell up good bye leave
You a feminist
She literally reply to me first telling me she a lesbian, wtf?
Omg idiot shut up lol oh my God
You don't see how she started this? didn't you read all the comments?
@Yuuibtony Your proving my point even further. First of all if i, in your head, was a lesbian why the fuck would i want sexual attention from you? The gender i am not romantically, emotionally or sexually attracted to. It makes no sense which is why it only happends in porn or in the imagination of a straight guy. Because of this illogical way of thinking i don't show my girlfriend any affection in public.Second of all, i'm bisexual you close-minded egoist. Even tho i'm also attracted to guys i don't flirt with any of you when i'm in a relationship. And definitely not when i get spoken to the way you do
Ok good for you doesn't mean you have to continue going back and fourth with me on this.
Omg what a rude egotistical ass go away
Not my fault women like my face more then my personality
also thinks a lot of his looks im wondering what kind of mirror he has.
I know i look good, a lot of women call me hot, also you sexy yourself
Like a lot of things politically incorrect this is the ugly truth. From my observations bi and gay people tend to be much more promiscuous in general.
@guesswhoseback uhh fyi lesbian relationships are way better than straight ones. The dates are way cuter, we interact more, it’s not all about sex, and women are sweeter than men
@catsandbroadway I think that’s more about female vs male psychological dynamics. For example in most scenarios men and women can not be friends are breakups. They can be friendly but not friends. Men have a thing about having an objective in romantic situations. We are goal oriented. We have to know the time we spend interacting with the woman means she respects us and has sexual interest. It’s tied into sex but not just about sex. We have to know she looks at us differently than other people in her life. Women on the other hand enjoy socializing for the sake of socializing. So let me ask you, can you stay real friends with women you are no longer sexual with? I heard lesbians can do this more easily. I know I’m not friends with any of my female exes. I miss one of them immensely too (as a friend only) but I know her and I will never be on same talking basis we were many years ago. Anyway many guys would get pissed of their gfs cheated on them with another woman. Personally (maybe this is a mental quirk I have) I wouldn’t mind if my girlfriend messed around with another woman just as long she asked for permission beforehand. Yeah maybe that’s a moral hiccup I got. But it doesn’t bother me the same way it would of she did with another guy (which would be game over). But I would be more worried about her falling emotionally in love with the other woman. That’s were the real threat comes.
@catsandbroadway I am glad to hear that lesbian relationships are taken seriously.
Also a bit harder to tell when women have sex with each other.
Because bisexuality isn’t a weird mental disorder where you feel the need to fuck everything in sight. It’s like you’re claiming they have no capability of genuine love.
Polygamy and bisexuality aren't the same. You must be confused, man
But that doesn't mean they'll actually do it. They most likely turn down the twice amount of temptations
@AdorableLilo who knows. But the way I look at it is if you have 2 people, 1 has X number of people they could potentially cheat with and the other has a larger number, let's call it X¹ of people they can cheat with. I would estimate based on the numbers X and X¹ that the person with X¹ would be more likely to cheat given they have more opportunity. Of course there could be other factors which could flip the probability. However, those would be the exceptions which confirm the rule.
Let's put it this way. Ex: Leah is bisexual, her husband, Craig, is heterosexual. Although Leah is faithful, despite having the oportunity to have a wider range of sexual partners, she decided to stay with Craig. Unfortunately, Craig doesn't seem to care about been faithful. He have being cheating on Leah for years.Now tell me, what possible relation there is between faithfulness and sexual orientation?
Good point. Leah might be faithful while Craig is a scumbag. But cheating requires opportunities. It requires a 3rd person to be involved. Craig is going to have far fewer opportunities to cheat than Leah. First he’s a man and men generally don’t get approached for sex as often as women do. Two Leah has both attractive men and attractive women who can tempt her. If she was hetero and just going on girls night out he probably could care less. But since swings the other way there is now that added complication. I once dated a bi curious girl. I told her I actually wouldn’t mind if she fooled around with another girl just as long: 1) she asked for my permission ahead of time 2) she was absolutely sure the other girl didn’t have any STDs3) there was absolutely no risk of her falling in love with this other girl. Given she was mostly hetero that didn’t worry me. This is one of the very few places I differ from other guys. I totally get how they see cheating is cheating. Totally. But for me the thought of my partner messing around with another women just doesn’t make me jealous. The other women might be able to satisfy her in a way I can’t. However if it’s another guy that’s a completely different story. Game over if the bullshit happens.
@guesswhoseback Cheating is a decision and a decision can not be blamed on sexuality, circumstance, time, people or individual.
Yes I agree that there are loyal bi people and cheating hetero people. But bi people just have many more options. More temptations.