Does how many friends a person has matter when it comes to dating?

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NamerOfStars · Accepted Answer

Not directly, but a person's friends DO reveal quite a bit about them, some of which is relationship-relevant. If you have NO friends, it suggest one or more of a menu of pretty serious problems. If you have a LOT, it suggests you're very outgoing, and good at keeping track of lots of people, but may be busy and not have much time for a partner. If you have lots of friends of the opposite sex, it suggests a better understanding of their psychology- if all your friends are of the same sex, the opposite. If you treat your friends poorly, it doesn't look good. If you treat them with respect and loyalty, it does- I'm not sure how high a value women place on that kind of (non-romantic) loyalty, relationship-wise, but it's not going to hurt; for men, it's huge. If your friends are loyal to you, it says you pick them well. This can manifest in some ways you might not expect: male friends are more prone to teasing one another and making use of multi-year or multi-decade inside jokes; this is actually a sign of affection.

zeitgeist057 · Accepted Answer

Yes, absolutely. People with no friends or a poor choice of friends usually don't have very good social skills and are more difficult to date. They also will tend to be less happy because humans are social animals and socializing is a big part of our mental health and happiness.

As a guy, I know having friends is important to my status when a girl is thinking about dating me. If I have no friends, again she is going to wonder and think about the factors above. I might be fun to hang out with, but it's also nice to have a variety of people to stimulate conversation and add to the experiences. Our society of pushing monogamy is sort of counter-productive, especially when you start dealing with the more controlling, jealous and abusive types that isolate you from other people and want to monogamize, whoops I mean monopolize your time and energy.

Xoxocutekitty · Accepted Answer

I think it can indirectly show a level of compatibility.

If one person firmly believes that they only need 1-2 friends, they probably wouldn't understand why someone is 'dragging them out' to meet people from all walks of life 5 days a week.

On the flip side, if someone has no friends, is it because they outgrew their friends or because their friends outgrew them? People that outgrow friendships are more likely those who were 'too cool' to put the work in, just saying.

Having no friends is usually a red flag. Having no friends and no interest in friend is definitely a red flag. As you get older, people do flake off and sometimes during the ages of 18-25 it's normal to leave for education or jobs and then from 25-30 it's like getting married or having kids.

Having no friends happens. But the desire to have and participate in a support network is important regardless of the number

lol20075 · Accepted Answer

My boyfriend has a small circle of close friends, I unfortunately am no longer friends with my own small circle anymore due to personality differences and them not remembering me (I swear this is actually true, a few friends blocked me on their social media and contacts and made a new account under a different name). I had a shitton of fake friends growing up as I was deemed the most "popular kid" in school, a lot of them never returned my texts when I moved away, and they're still hanging out together 8 years later.

Anonymous · Answer

My husband barely has any friends. At our wedding, he only had family come.
I had a few church friends that did attend my wedding. They were more of family friends that I grew up with than anything. 2 of my childhood friends were there. I try to keep in touch with them along with some college friends (3).

I think it does play a role in determining who they are. It showed a lot later (I realized later) that my husband is not a social person and does not like to have friends over or hang out with friends. He just likes to work (make money) and play video games with others who like video games.

bobalife · Answer

quality friendships over quantity.
I would be more worry about the person I am investing in dating romantically over the number of his friends. But it would be appreciative and great if he has great friends who would also wanna get along with me as I would too.

loveslongnails · Answer

I find that too many friends means they're not all friends, but rather acquaintances. When you start dating and spending time away from these supposed friends, they drop off rather quickly.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

I would like to say know, however I know just how friends at time like to either interfere, or they feel left out.

when you go from not dating and hanging with mates, then dating they suddenly feel a void, and then they get needy.

trust me, needy guy mates are a bloody nightmare.

so no they should not, but the more friends you have, the greater risk of interference or them becoming needy.

Katebfun · Answer

Yes and no. Having a good support system with friends is very important. You can't have your partner be the be end and end all. you have to fulfill your needs with friends and spread it out then relying on one partner to fulfill a need. It's also important to have separate interests and individuality and Friends help balance that

Riddler1412 · Answer

The amount of friends doesn't matter, it's the quality of friends.
A girl I know didn't have a lot of friends, maybe 7-8. Everyone thought she was a bit weird. Some of her friends are also mu friends. So we started hanging out. She's one of the best people I know. Funny, likes to help others. Overall a great person.

pigoat · Answer

I been seeing this question a lot lately What gives?

exitseven · Answer

No but you can tell a lot about someone by their friends. If they are into working out or plying Minecraft or if they are druggies it gives you an idea of what their interests are.

jcami5 · Answer

NO, it does not matter, In fact having too many called or supposed close friend can ruin your dating partner by intrigue and taking her/him away from you. There are movies about how a close friend the supposed best friend took away the partner and did horrible things. So no, there should not be dependency or importance on the quantity of friends one's partner has.

zoobs94 · Answer

No it doesn't matter to be honest if someone isn't going to feel comfortable with you than he won't even if you have less friends. Or you want to find date from your friend zone that's another thing.

CoolKatie · Answer

It depends. there is more than one way to make friends. some people might had bad experience with some friends turn out to be fake friends. I was that women who did found out most of my girls friend were fake.

Kabluie · Answer

it doesn't, but it can make things more vibrant. Such as double dates if they are dating too, or party games, and stuff. It's good interaction.

pleasestopthis · Answer

As long as the number of friends is different from ZERO, it's fine. Someone with no friends at all is more likely to be clingy and too dependant on their SO.

menina · Answer

Not to me. What matters is if they're real friends and if the friendships are long-lasting.

kingofthellamas · Answer

It is very important. The ideal partner must 2 very close BFF's, a crew of at leat 12 and over 27 acquaintances. WTF? This does not matter at all.

scott04sa22 · Answer

Need friends to date. No friends or not so many friends means no date. I been rejected because my friends count on Facebook was under 100 and she said see ya! 🖕

hellohruu · Answer

Depends on what kind of like I have for that person, what feelings

SirJohn42 · Answer

No it doesn't matter as long as they dont get themselves involved in relationship.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

That depends on what type of friends you have you have to be more specific there's many different types of friends

egykimo · Answer

It may increase the chances to have a boyfriend either among them or their other friends

Cicero79 · Answer

The more friends a person has increases the pool of datable people.

Meldrum · Answer

Quality will always outweigh quantity.

Xavaric · Answer

its more about closeness with individual people

OddBeMe · Answer

No but the quality of those people matters.

BButterfly · Answer

No, I prefer a guy with 0-4 friends maximum

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Why would that matter

Hoper-101 · Answer

No, it does not

Eldoradο · Answer

No it doesn't

dreamstar72 · Answer

Not really

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Not remotely.

hellacray · Answer

Why would it matter?

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

Not at all

GAGSucksBalls1 · Answer

Yes, it does

COMMODOREII · Answer

HEll no!!

vald9inches · Answer

I don't think so

EaterPeter · Answer

Yes for me.

eagle1951 · Answer

nope

Anonymous · Answer

no..

Anonymous · Answer

Nope.

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