How bad is it for your dating prospects to have no friends?

[Anonymous]

I’m 27 and like the title implies, I unfortunately have no friends. Its not like I’ve never had any friends, I used to a majority of it was caused by bad circumstances. Its also caused by me not making any new friends while I continued to lose my current ones. I feel like this has a pretty negative impact on your dating prospects (especially if you’re a guy) because it seems like having no friends is a red flag to a lot of potential romantic partners. And to girls, status matters (maybe not as much as back in high school, but it still matters) and having no friends means your social status is as low as it can be.

I think a lot of girls wouldn’t want to date a guy with no friends because she’ll be worried that he’s gonna become too clingy since she would be his entire social life and that it just wouldn’t work if she has an active social life and he doesn’t have one at all.

Its not bad, people will understand

Its bad, focus on making new friends before trying to date

[CurlyGirl42]

If he is trying to get new friends then it is not a real problem. I know it can be difficult to gain friends. But honestly I do think it would be best for someone to focus on getting a good friend instead of a girlfriend, so if he is very active on dating but not active in getting a social life in general, I do think I will clash on values with this person.
I would also not fit well with a person who has me as the main social life. I will instinctually feel more responsible for him in a bad way. I also really like that a guy for example can talk to his friends if we are having problem in the relationship. I think it is super healthy for humans to have good social connections and I wish it for all, and would certainly also wish that for a partner :)

[Asker]

I unfortunately don’t see my social life situation changing anytime soon, I just recently got a new job and I thought that would help since I think most people in the workforce build or expand their social life through becoming friends with their coworkers, but I don’t see that happening with this job since everyone in my department works alone all day. So while I do have coworkers, we never get to socialize since we’re all working on our own and don’t spend much time around each other. If I can’t get a girlfriend either because I can’t make friends, I guess being alone in total isolation is all I have to look forward to 😔

[CurlyGirl42]

I know with COVID-19 and the lack of social events makes it more difficult to get friends right now. But I do not see why it should be more difficult to get friends than getting a girlfriend?
And sorry, but to me it is a very bad excuse that you cannot make friends from work because of how the work environment is. You can try to become friends outside of work with your colleagues. Friends are more for free time anyway. Go for a coffee/drink in a break or afterwork hours. Someone has to initiate it and it might as well be you :).. if you wait for things to change on its own you might wait for veeeery long.

[Asker]

Its not an excuse, its a fact. We all work alone for our entire shifts and don’t really get any time to socialize with each other. And we don’t even work in close proximity to each other so its not even like we have any ability to talk to each other while we’re working. Because with getting a girlfriend, there’s more opportunities thanks to dating apps that give you the chance to go out with girls who are looking for a partner. With making new friends, there isn’t anything like that so there’s not as many easy opportunities to meet friends. But if you meet a girl from a dating app and things are going well, things will probably go south quickly once she finds out you have no friends. And you can’t hide that forever.

[CurlyGirl42]

It is an excuse. As soon as you can go to a person and talk to them you can potentially get to be friends. That is a fact. And being co-workers you at least have some things in common. Like a boss to praise or bitch about xD
Sure there are also online sites to get friends and many cool online communities in general. But I get that it is much more difficult with this situation and I personally focus on my alone time during lockdown.
And no, not necessarily, as you see some girls on this site says it is all fine with no friends, I am just not one of them :P..

[Asker]

It is a fact, I don’t know how I can make that any more clear. There’s no one to even go to and talk to throughout the entire workday. Socializing really doesn’t happen where I work and you have to take my word for that, I promise that’s how it is there. There really isn’t too many online sites to make friends for the most part, and online communities don’t count because those aren’t real life friends. Those girls that say its fine with no friends are the minority and they’re few and far between, you and the others who are not one of them are unfortunately the majority. Hence more girls voting that they would not date a guy with no friends. So again, I can’t get friends and I can’t get a girlfriend because I have no friends and that equals to being alone in total isolation for the foreseeable future.

[ct1243]

If you’re trying to date now during a crisis it’s risky and challenging. It seems online dating apps are social media apps to just talk with no expectations of meeting due to COVID

[Asker]

I was implying post COVID when I asked this

[ct1243]

Yes it’s pointless and harder to date

[Asker]

Are you referring to pointless and harder to date meaning during the pandemic or doing so while having no friends after COVID is gone?

[proNutro]

It’s not a problem. As long as you’re a nice person then that’s all that matters

[Anonymous]

This is new to me. Don’t know.