Keep getting dumped for others?

[Rocknerd2]

I've been dumped a lot by girlfriends for other men and have been mostly ignored in general by women on a whole. I feel this has caused me to be very resistant to open up and be trusting right away in a new relationship. This in turn then makes my partners feel like I'm uninterested which then leads them to look elsewhere. Even though I explain that I move slow emotionally and have been hurt a lot in the past.

[mamasan]

My boyfriend told me when we first started dating that he moves slow. I took that to mean he's been burned a time or two (who hasn't?) and that it takes him a while to feel like he can trust someone.

I've been hurt a lot in the past too, so I understood where he was coming from, even though I dealt with my hurt in a different way. I needed validation and reassurance that he was going to stick around, and he needed to take things slow. I honestly don't fully know how we managed to balance both of those things, but we did. Even though he moved slow in the trust department, he never once made me feel like he might disappear on me. He was consistent with communicating with me, he was consistent with making plans, he was the first one to suggest introducing me to friends and family, he suggested taking trips together. We've now been together for a year and 2 months, and making plans for vacations in the year (s) to come. 😊

In your situation, I think you're right to tell the person that you move slowly and stay at a pace you feel comfortable with. But at the same time, try to balance her need for feeling secure in the relationship. Be consistent with your attention, make sure she knows you're interested and not planning to go anywhere. Will this work for ALL women? Probably not, but I truly believe it will work for the RIGHT woman.

[Anonymous]

"My karma tells me
You've been screwed again
If you let them do it to you
You've got yourself to blame
It's you who feels the pain
It's you that feels ashamed"

Time to fight back my friend, don't be sad, be angry, very angry

[Anonymous]

My guess is, your first girlfriend was in high school

[NathanDavis]

What are you doing that's wrong.

[Rocknerd2]

I always get a different answer, one was i didn't have a bigger purpose, one said I wasn't funny enough, the latest said I didn't say fuck it enough. The list goes on. I can't find a pattern.

[NathanDavis]

I would guess that maybe you have it difficult to actually engage in the relationship... or actually spend that much time with the other, could it be that? and is this in person or online.

[Rocknerd2]

I'm spending time with them, and I make sure they know I'm interested. In my last relationship I gave a lot of attention and communicated a lot to try and not let this happen again still they went out and found someone else.