Why Do Some People Forget There's Two Sides To Every Story?

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Lliam · Accepted Answer

The memes are 100% true.
I've fallen for that before. For example, a person tells me how badly they were treated and what a horrible person was who did it. I empathize and get angry at the person who was mean. But then I hear their side and it's completely different. I've learned that, in cases like that, it's hard to know who is being the most accurate or truthful. It's usually best to listen and empathize, but not to make a judgement or take sides. In fact, it was bad for the first person to triangulate and say bad things about the other in an attempt to hurt them.

The same goes for things in the news. For example, every single outlet repeats that Assad gassed his own people in Syria. You initially think "That doesn't make sense. He must be crazy." Then you find out that the UN inspectors found absolutely no evidence and, in fact, found evidence that the gassings were staged by the terrorists. There are endless examples like that. The media is monolithic in repeating government lies and great effort goes into covering up actual facts.
"Kim jong un is a madman." "Iran is on the verge of building a nuke." "Russia is the imperialistic aggressor in Crimea and Donbas." "911 was committed by a few radical Muslim terrorists with box cutters." "Ammon Budy was stealing public resources and threatened government forces." "Lavoy Finicum was killed while trying to resist authorities." "The experimental gene 'therapies' are safe, effective and necessary to protect the population against covid." "Information that differs from the official narrative is 'fake news', that those who question the official narrative are conspiracy theorists." On and on. There are endless examples of complete, disgusting propaganda. Goebbels and Bernays would be envious.

ohshee · Accepted Answer

You are so very right, And This is why , I love when people get in to other people's business, that is none of there business, Because most of the time they get it wrong , lol so no , matter the story , before you pick a side you better know both sides, or maybe just stay out of it ,, and let them figure it out.
And once again we are all blessed to be able to answer your Question.
Because you Allow us to open our minds
Because no matter what story it maybe, and how you see things in this world there seems to always be two sides and we are all given the same choices on how we each choose to see it , if you have ever noticed when it comes to people that we elect it's always somewhere around a 50/50 divide we have God devil
Right wrong
Yes no
Hello goodbye
Positive negative
Love hate
Truth lie
And then in sports we have one team against the other team.
And then we have
Man women
Girl boy
Dog cat
But then we have my biggest pet peeve that we have through out time have been brainwashed to believe we have to pick a side and is the BIGGEST CROCK OF BULLSHIT I HAVE EVER HEARD , AND SHOULD HAVE NEVER BEEN EVEN PUT ON THE TABLE
Just for the fact there are not two sides to it, and that is
Black and white
there's only 1 Side to this story and it
Equals= HUMAN
SO 1 SIDE = 1 PEOPLE MADE BY 1 GOD
I ALWAYS THANK YOU FOR YOUR QUESTION
HAPPY MOTHERS DAY TO YOU AND ALL THE MOTHERS ON OUR PLANET

FATHERS DAY IS COMING SOON
WTF
See what I mean there's always 1 jack ass that can't be happy and let people have there day.
HAPPY MOTHERS DAY WOMENS DAY FOR THE LAST 100 YEARS YOU HAVE ALL IN ONE WAY OR ANOTHER MADE OUR PLANET BETTER

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

They don't forget- they just choose to hear what they WANT to hear.
Subconsciously, we (as a whole) always want to believe those we care for, like, deem appealing, etc. The flaw with that logic is you're only hearing or seeing their side of the story; not the other person's. You have to get ALL perspectives on a situation before judging someone!

It's like wearing blinders: sometimes we don't want to see both sides, because we might not like what we hear or see... you know, like the truth.

Basically people are ignorant to logic and common sense at times.

That's exactly why I don't listen to gossip: it's nothing but hearsay started by someone that probably didn't get all the facts.
So now one rumor can impact someone's reputation because people don't know how to go to the source and get their side of the story first... they go by what sounds good, or bad depending on the circumstance.

JosyJosy · Accepted Answer

We just looooooooooove jumping to conclusions, picking sides and cause drama, but what if both try to twist the story? Honestly, we need a third side, a witness, a camera or something

Sonorous · Answer

Because, for whatever the reason, we all have our biases. And they can get in the way of us wanting to know the actual truth of a situation because the truth could potentially not fit our narrative. A lot of times, we don't wanna be wrong. And it's easier not to feel wrong when you act as if the world isn't as complex as it is.

So I think we basically let our egos, biases, and naivety push away our pursuit of the truth. It then turns into the pursuit of whatever makes us feel good.

Jjpayne · Answer

Phil Collins! Nice!
I think thats an important prospective!
My roommate has been teaching me the value to see the business side of things. I think many people can see how many times big business screws them over but how many times do they see things from their prospective? It's the difference between being a rebellious worker to finally becoming the manager that has to manage the rebellious worker. To take things further to the view of gender it gets to a really interesting divide that few people if any has fully grasped the difference of prospective. To walk one path as a male and walk that same path as a female it's quite a different experience. It's really having the humility and understanding to place yourself in someone's shoes as much as you can. Because something simple as just life experience apart from the body, then adding life experience as that gender then adding experiencing the bodies natural biological experience, then take the biological things unqine to each human body... It's mind blowing layers, to come at it from a woman's prospective, let's say you are anti social loner, that has difficulty relating to people, you have trouble relating to guys as you did not know your dad as much but had almost not social time with guys, you have complex emotions that make you want to be with guys to have a connection with them, yet have too much anixety to get out of the house, then add a preexisting family trait of chronic pain... You have only a glimpse of that person yet so many complex layers and even women of the same gender would have a tough time understanding them completely. Just one person has so many complexities to them so there is very much two sides to every story

The_Maphio · Answer

A rather widely used saying in my country "you need to sticks to make a cross".
Fault is rarely ever one sided only. Then it depends who owns up to it for the sake of the couple, and who stands their ground stubbornly causing the couple to break.

DJB72 · Answer

It complicates things. It turns black-and-white into shades of grey. Suddenly the other person is a real person who has their own pathological behaviour. It's easier to just take one side.

I've even come across marriage guidance counsellors who've got that badly wrong so the one spouse becomes responsible for all the problems.

You need to know both sides.

Shaggy_KW · Answer

People want to believe the first thing they hear or the most dramatic thing. Nobody wants to sit there and listen to two people tell you what happened because now you don't know who to side with. I personally love hearing about people's conflicts because I like helping people, which is why I like this app. Basically, people just want to believe what they want.

DemonDobby420 · Answer

There's actually three sides to every story. Because either opinion from either party is going to be bias. Think of the situation as a coin. Heads or tails cover the same surface area symbolizing both parties, equal, both could be full of crap OR telling equivalent truths, however, the third side of the coin is the rim, its that tiny sliver that divides and joins both parties. Thats the part of the story I'm interested in because its theoretically the raw truth. Hope this helped?

AndrewMG · Answer

I mean I learnt this early doors when I was read Goldilocks and the three bears as a youngster... I mean this house breaker has stolen the food out of the mouth of a youngster and then rather than apologise she's broke his chair and made a mess of his bed!

Floppy2112 · Answer

I don't think they do. I think most people just don't care. And yes, there is two sides to a story and very many times, both sides are fairly compatible. But just occasionally, there is only one true side to a story and the other side is a complete lie. It's rare, but it happens.

Massageman · Answer

At least. My counselor wife- when she is working with couples - just scratches her head and observes (when confronted by two SO. DIFFERENT. stories, "It just does  not  seem like these two are even talking about the  same thing ."

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Court of opinion would be my guess. Half the time, many people side with a friend or loved one without a doubt.
One reason would be lies of omission, like when someone plays victim, but leaves out details of what they did.
Another reason would be, people remember things differently from other people.

Waldoe · Answer

everyone wants us to "Choose sides" no one can be neutral, we must take sides in everything, even if we don't really care about "Their Issues". So when 2 people are fighting or arguing it's almost impossible to Not take someone's side... I try to say "That sounds terrible, I hope you guys can work it out" and I "STAY out of it"

legalboxers · Answer

because people pick sides. And if you dont pick their side, they will bully you and harass you. and others will see you bullying that person, so they will go along with that. And that is how fucking bullying in school and cyberbullying happens..

down rate in 3...2.. and go!!

(wondering which tool who is downrating me at the Church of Christ or Fox/OAN/NewsMax

DocJones · Answer

Two sides, my side and the right side lol. Yes I know I am not always right and my opinion isn't the only opinion. Sure is fun to debate however and sometimes it is a good thing to express your opinion with confidence and if it turns out to be wrong then I will admit it.

But no need to be all soft and get run over by those that think they can shame people into doubting themselves. Again, just my opinion.

JackSmy · Answer

@brainsbeforebeauty Double, EXTRA points, SQUARED, for posting Phil, and also, one of the most meaningful, personally, songs, he has ever sang! So sad, that we never hear both sides! The Media, whatever channel, is biased, to their audience, and party-oriented, for many.

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

I have NO idea, I guess asking only the people who DO forget that there are two sides to every story would be more help… bur then again if they are THAT kind of person, I don’t think that they would care!

Dragonpurple · Answer

I will often say, even though there is two sides. Don't assume one is right or wrong. It is entirely possible both could be right or both could be wrong.

Yet people get so focused on what they believe in they are blinded to the rest.

eatingyou247 · Answer

There is 3 sides , there is your side, then there is my side , and then there is the truth... typically this is the case when there is any question as to why people disagree on the facts to begin with

exitseven · Answer

Everyone has a predetermined response to a situation based on their own set of beliefs. These give them an opinion of which side is right and which side is wrong.

loveslongnails · Answer

Incorrect darlin' ... there are way more than 2 sides to every story. There's...
1) Your side
2) The other person's side
3) What other people saw or heard (and that could be a lot of different versions)
4) What ACTUALLY happened, which may or may not coincide with #1 or #2

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

Rationalization is the second strongest human drive. You are more apt to believe something is true if you want it to be true. They think with their emotions. Have been Brsinwashed to think with them and not use critical thinking skills.

dreamstar72 · Answer

It is the side that has the most hits thats wins. After all its the best story on the Internet that wins. As the old saying goes the Internet never lies. lol

Drumlin2001 · Answer

I'd say there's at least 3 sides to any story. Individulal 1's perception of events, individual 2's perception of events and the truth of what happened.

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

Thankfully! I learned this a little bit too late, but it is nice to hear both sides and no more jumping to conclusions since then

GoldenTulip · Answer

I guess because many people are BIASED? Lets say this drama is happening between your bestie girlfriend and her boyfriend.. most girls become BIAS for their bestie. Simply because they know her longer and just want to stand up for her. at least that is what i experienced. (I am not like that though).

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I'm very innocent miss brains muffins 😇 If you have doubts than i'll take you to the other side which is my side 😊

Mangospacho · Answer

This is why I keep my mouth shut until I hear both sides of the story. That being said, I will not add anything else until I hear the other side of this question.

fred_durst · Answer

you are absolutely right
so do you think this website is waste of time? because i believe on every question about relationships problems here , i am pretty sure the askers are only mention about their SO mistakes..

Anonymous · Answer

It takes time and effort to properly understand an issue with its nuances, and both sides of the story.
Typically, we are presented with a lazy, skewed or openly biased version of the story.
Do people actually care, if it's presented by the right people and in a way that they can easily digest?

purplepoppy · Answer

There's not. There's the correct version and numerous incorrect versions.

douride2 · Answer

I have found there are usually 3 sides to many stories. His side her side then there is the one about what really went on.

Chris_u006 · Answer

Same as with news from different media outlets, don't only listen to msm, get info from real people and alternative media too if you want the whole story. It's only for beneficial reasons.

Sunnybabe23 · Answer

I don't forget. However, I don't know if either side is being honest with me, so I support the one I trust more.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I agree there are two sides to everyone story , no matter what it is

Andres77 · Answer

There's three sides. What one remembered, what the other remembered and what's on video.

CaptainSmartass · Answer

I was about to say the great Phil Collins said that we need to hear both sides of the story, but you beat me to it. Simples...

cheapshotbob · Answer

i think its because everyone wants to follow the crowd so they can seem like the good guy /girl so they dont look dumb in front of their friends , though in some peoples eyes including mine there ignorant , its also why i think the gay community is so back wards they assume there is no 2and part there is just the gay part which is irrelevant

collie22 · Answer

i sometimes forget but not often i do remember the bible says we should always have two witness before we decide

Wiredone · Answer

I think it's because they are more friendlier with one side of the relationship. I always ask what the other person said.

Twalli · Answer

There are more than two. Every story had 3 sides,"yours, theirs, and the truth, which is somewhere inbetween"

Shihab91 · Answer

Sure, actually most of gagers here when they ask a question they show themselves as a victim but who knows.

summer9172 · Answer

Because lies are believed before the truth and people are just judgmental fucks and probably are liars themselves. Also BC theyre o faced and go with the more liked persons story

Wise4myage · Answer

Because lots of people love to jump to conclusions.

genericname85 · Answer

that's quite rich coming from you, after we had that discussion about cheaters and mental health issues recently xD

i mean i guess people have a hard time seeing the other side of the story, if they are already emotionally affected by the topic.

Tstrbrainer · Answer

Yup, but most of us are clouded by our emotions and limited wisdom.  It's evident in many dating stereotype questions asked here.

bulletbob555 · Answer

Usually because they are one dimmensional themselves and only think there is one answer

narc-survivor · Answer

Because I think people only want to hear the worse about another and don’t want to acknowledge there are 2 or even a 3rd side to a situation

Metalman01 · Answer

Because people are easy to judge people and easy to believe the first thing they hear or read

NoFuxGvn · Answer

They didn't forget they choose to not see the other side it's a one way mirror!

ShesAllMelanin · Answer

Because they really just don't give a hell Unless they are mentally challenged they know there is another side they choose to not see it Figure they are the type that only see their side

princeofromance · Answer

Because it is human nature to want to be right all the time.

tinnyy · Answer

because they think they are perfect 🤪!

Jaylaaa2000 · Answer

Hi momma. Did ya miss me?

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Not sure but you’re right

anghellic6942 · Answer

Thier are actually 3 sides to every story yours thiers and what really happened if you stop n pay attention ull often find your reality is different than another's

jshm2 · Answer

Because there usually isn't much to be said of the other side, or it doesn't matter.

Exterminatore · Answer

... or 2 sides to every pancake as my buddy says.

marc94 · Answer

The story (what happened, the truth) is only one and it has only one side: its identity. Reality is not the product of any consciousness.

michael1469 · Answer

No there isn't. If you want to get laid tonight - your wife or girlfriend story is the only side that will matter.

JamieLoves · Answer

There are even more than 2 !

Sillyboi98 · Answer

Plain and simple people are biased.

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