Why my brother treats my step dad differently than my fiance?

[Anonymous]

So my step dad can be a jerk. He caused a lot of problems and my brother even almost fought him. My brother treats him with more respect than my fiance. My fiance never did anything to him. We broke up in the past but got back together. My brother tells me how much he dislikes him. I'm like you don't say that about our step dad and he's been around for 3 years. My fiance has been around for 7. I guess he just has a personal dislike for him.

[caring__1]

Maybe your brother feels closer to you than his mom, so he feels a greater need to be protective of you. Rather than just accepting your brother's statement that he dislikes your fiance, ask him what specific concerns he has or what rubs him the wrong way about your fiance. Ask him to describe what he'd like to see as your ideal partner. Maybe he fears losing a close relationship with you once you get married, as he may feel you'll no longer have time for him. Only he can give you the answers you seek. Just make sure you seek specifics, seeking further clarification when he gives you vague/general responses.

[ChrisMaster69]

You are his sister, he will be very judgmental about any guy you date.

im sure the reason my sister never dates guys, is because I give them a really hard time lol (she’s bi).

There is likely a level of respect, grudgingly or otherwise between your brother and step dad.

[Espresso-Grande]

Probably because he fears your stepfather on some level. People have more respect for those they fear or people they feel intimidated by.

Or maybe he treats him with respect but has zero respect for him, because he knows your stepfather has the potential to cause problems for him if he doesn't treat him with respect

[he-takes-a-part]

All i know is i can treat you well baby