My brothers fiance doesn't treat him right. What should he do?

[Balletlover98]

His fiance gives out to him if he is out having a drink with his friends, if he is late to meet her and if he messes around having a laugh.

She can be very bossy and gives out if he does something wrong. He always defends her if i say something.

I met them for lunch one day and she wouldn't come to the house to pick me up. When i said to my brother about me getting home cause i have a bad back, he says to me don't say anything about it in front of her. That he didn't want an argument with her.

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He was invited to her brothers wedding where she is bridesmaid. He became sick a few days before the wedding. He told her he might not be going cause he's sick. She got mad and said how much her brother spent on the food and that she came to our uncles wedding when she was sick. She was able to walk about, my brother was sick in bed. She eventually became worried whdn she heard how sick he was.

[Anonymous]

One thing about being a woman is you naturally understand other women better than men will ever understand women do (and vice versa is true). So you can see through her crap

Anyway are in a very difficult conundrum of accurately judging women we are attracted to when they are being difficult. We have figure out if she is just a typical girl who sometimes doesn’t fight fair/acts selfish & self centered vs. determining if she actually has little or no respect for us which is a dealbreaker for any self respecting man. You can tell the difference easier from the outside because again you are female and also you got no feeling involved. However it’s much harder for him to think that clearly.

Also society is increasingly telling men that women are very “special” and we have to tolerate their bs/abuse to please them. So what happens is some men let women walk all over them. Not because they are necessarily weak but because they have been brainwashed into believing that’s normal. Few men can really tell the difference (typical female difficult behavior vs lack of respect)

Also dating, ultimately finding love and someone who you think who will commit to marriage is only getter harder for men in western society. More and more women have this attitude that they are “free” without men. These women ultimately make themselves miserable but few are admitting it

However at the end of the day it’s still his choice. Stupid choice and if what you say is true it’s only going to get worse for him. Much worse. Does anyone see her growing in respect for him after they get married? Highly doubt it. But again it’s his own stupid choice. He will have to live with it and learn the hard way.

Also it’s sounds like he is scared about being alone. Can’t say I blame him for that feeling. Single hood is sky rocketing among men. However I determined a few years ago that I rather be alone and have self-respect than to be some bitchy girl’s doormat. Women like that usually don’t stay with guys they don’t respect anyway (or be faithful to them).

[Anonymous]

It's important for your brother to communicate openly and honestly with his fiance about how her behavior is making him feel. If he feels like he's walking on eggshells around her or constantly having to defend her, it may be a sign that their relationship is not healthy or balanced.

It's possible that his fiance may not even realize how her behavior is affecting him, and it's important for him to express his concerns and boundaries clearly. If she is unwilling to listen or make changes to her behavior, it may be worth reconsidering the future of their relationship.

It's also important for your brother to prioritize his own well-being and to not sacrifice his own happiness or mental health for the sake of his relationship. Encourage him to seek support from friends or family members who can offer him a listening ear or a different perspective.

Ultimately, it's up to your brother to decide what is best for him and his future. It's important for him to feel respected, valued, and supported in his relationship, and to not settle for anything less.

[Justmeagain1]

There are bigger things brewing you know nothing about in this example you have given. Unrealistic expectations, unresolved issues and possible lack of communication. They need to get back to basic’s possibly and you should leave this be. Be his ear if need be but that’s where it stops unless there are signs of abuse of which you report to authorities and let them do their job.

[Paris13]

Control freak and a Straw Boss. Unless your Bro enjoyed Being Pussy Whipped by this Girl, He needs to Set her Straight. Talk to him. xxoo

[Paris13]

Thanks to Gag. Welcome to Gag Town and best of Luck!!! xxoo

[Pinay_ako]

He’s a grown man and he should take it upon himself to decide if this is the woman he wants to be with for the rest of his life.

[Finchie40]

Your brother needs to have a talk with her and find out why she is being so bossy , he shouldn’t just assume she is being a bitch , things that he might be doing might make her feel insecure and upset , Going out to bars with his friends and drinking can be a reason she is getting upset , , going to places like that , without her might make her feel like he is up to no good and flirting with other Girls’s etc. How would your brother feel if she was going out to bars and drinking with her friends , without him? I am pretty sure he wouldn’t be to fond of it , For a relationship to work both partners have to wear each other’s shoes before making decisions, , and that’s where a lot of relationships fail because people just assume what they are doing is ok but it really might not be ok to their partner , she is probably worried sick about him when he is out with his friends drinking but she isn’t going to say anything because she doesn’t want to come off as being insecure , But deep inside she is worried about him because alcohol makes people
Do stupid shit , If your brother loves her he is going to pretty Much distance himself from places like that or start including her , You have to remember he isn’t single anymore , when you commit
To someone you are now a package deal , your partner should be your number 1 priority over everyone , if they aren’t their number 1 priority then that relationship will not last because resentments will set in , your brother needs to start choosing his girlfriend over his friends or they my as well not be together cuz eventually she is going to meet a guy that doesn’t want to exclude her from things , mark my word , if your brother wants to save his relationship he is going to have to start making her his priority

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Your brother needs to learn the art of the silent scowl.

When a woman starts being a bitch, guys don't have to yell or say something clever to get her to stop.
All he has to do is get a mean look on his face and say nothing.

Women can pick up on this right away, and they usually shut the fuck up. Because she knows if she keeps running her mouth, he's gonna go off like a fucking cannon and she's gonna lose.

If he does it right, it will help him regain his power and earn her respect

[WanderingLoveWizard]

He may even have to blow up on her a time or two to show he's not bluffing. But that's worst case scenario

[andreasderjuengere]

I assume that your brother is an adult (by age, at least).

I also assume that you mean it well.

... BUT:

he has the right to make own decisions - even if they are ''wrong''.

Just be on stand-by if he 'needs' you :)

[sheikalana]

Whatever happens between the two of them is none of your business and you don't have a say. Stay out of it. If you don't like the way she treats/talks to you avoid being around her at all costs.

[Uenvy694u]

He needs 2 man up and tell her how he feels about the way she treats him. Next tell her if dont stop. Then it would be best for the 2 of them 2 break up.

[exitseven]

This situation will only get worse once they are married. He should bail out now.

[mommymommymommy]

Men are usually told that we're supposed to always support our S. O. even if that means going against our own family. So, we're stuck

[Ben487]

Nothing. He has to live with his decisions, he’s a grown man

[TheIrishWolf]

Yeah. She said it, and that's that. Let him learn.

[TheIrishWolf]

But then again, it's his/ger brother.

[Anonymous]

It not your relationship. Sorry but if your bro. Is OK with it then that's all that truly matters.

[In_Trance]

That's none of your business. Focus on your own relationship

[FunkyMonkee]

Refuse to marry her!!

[slatyb]

End it.