My brothers fiance is bossy and says things about him. What can we do about this?

[Anonymous]

My brothers fiance bosses him to do things for her while she watches him do them. An example would be when they went to the shop they used my mams shopping bags snd when they came home, his fiance told him get her bags out of her car and put the shopping in them. She supervised him doing this while she talked to my mam. She told him where to put different bits of shopping and he had to bring her bags out to her car.

She says things about him but doesn't care if she says them in front of the family. For example whe was saying different things she thinks he can't do. I stood up for my brother and backed him up. She wasn't happy with this.

She doesn't like my brother messing around having a laugh. She always takes it serious. I find my brother funny and would have a laugh with him.

Recently she wasn't happy because my brother couldn't go to her brothers wedding because he was sick. At first she was angry because of how much was spent on the meals and that she came to our uncles wedding when she was sick. But she wasn't as sick as my brother was.

Updates

+1 y

He always defends her. If she does something or says something about him and we say about it to him, he just defends her. To him she can't do anything wrong.

[OfMiceandMen]

I think you need to speak with him. If her bossy attitude is changing his personality like you say it is, then you need to make him realize what is going on.

Alternatively, you could leave it alone, most guys will break someday after she gets on his final nerve and he will let her know himself.

[Asker]

I try talking to him about it but it is like talking to a brick wall. He won't listen to me

[OfMiceandMen]

Then he needs to suffer through it long enough to realize it isn't healthy. Meanwhile, you and your family will have to suffer through it too. There will come a tipping-point day.

[Asker]

They had a fight oncd whdn he was staying in her house and he came home. I tried to cheer him up cause he was upset. He just was on his phone texting her the whole time. Their relationship nearly finished because of that

[OfMiceandMen]

Re Update: Then you have to let things play out, unfortunately it may take the better part of his life to figure it out. Some people have to learn the hard way.

[Billlewis]

I know you're probably concerned about your brother, but he may actually enjoy being bossed around by his fiancée... lots of guys enjoy that.

[laraWM]

Unfortunately there is not much you can do. You could try to make him realize what is happening and see how he'll react?

[Asker]

I've tried making him see sense before but he will just say that she is messing around or joking.

[laraWM]

Maybe he's fine with it, have you tried to talk to someone else, if they feel the same way?

[Asker]

I've tried talking to my mam about but she just gives out to me about it. My mam wasn't happy when his fiance was saying all those things about him in front of the family

[laraWM]

Yes that's hard if he really likes her, you can't make the choice for him

[Asker]

My mam can try talk to him about and he will get angry about it

[Asker]

He gets angry at me if i say anything.

[laraWM]

Yes give it some time

[Anonymous]

Tell your brother everything.

[Asker]

He doesn't listen. It's like talking to a brick wall. He stays at her house 4 days a week.

[Opinion Owner]

That's sad, but what else can you do? Let him live his life and whatever happens, happens.

[Asker]

It's sad how she is treating him. It's not right. He doesn't deserve it. She iignores me and talks to everyone else. She is always on her phone if i am in the room. She is like this since she got got engaged. Because my brother is having our youngest brother as best man and not her brother. Cause of that i'm not allowed be bridesmaid

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, I hear you.