My husband’s brother harasses me, should I tell him?

[Anonymous]

The title sums it up. My brother in law was friendly at first, then he started throwing weird comments left and right. Then it was plain harassment. He would say weird things to me and he even physically attacked me. That was the most disgusting thing i ever had to face. The problem is we live in their family house and its divided but i never feel safe when he is around. My husband has absolutely no clue and it gets weird when he asks him to pick me up or something cause i never want to be alone with him. Now i feel like i need to tell my husband but that absolutely terrifies me, there are a lot of factors in this. They are brothers and i don’t want to feel like i am separating brothers even if its on him. I don’t want to make my husband sad. And second i am actually scared for him, my husband will absolutely not take this news well and i am afraid of the actions he might take. I don’t want to ever experience his anger even if not at me it just terrifies me; I don’t want him in jail and that’s not a sight i want to see. I have been asking him to move out but its not easy and i don’t know what else i can do to end this without wrecking havoc in the house.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry to hear about the difficult situation you’re in. It’s important that you prioritize your safety and well-being.

Talk to a trusted friend, family member, or counselor about what you’re experiencing. Having someone to support you emotionally can be very helpful.

If you decide to tell your husband, plan how you will approach the conversation. Choose a time when you’re both calm and not likely to be interrupted. Be clear and factual about what has happened, and express your feelings and concerns.

Make a safety plan for yourself in case your brother-in-law becomes more aggressive or your husband reacts violently. This might include having a safe place to go, knowing who to call, and having important documents and essentials ready.

[osmanthus]

I think you ought to tell your husband, especially if he's harming you, physically and verbally harrassing you unnecessarily.

[adityaa10]

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[Desi_Butcher]

You gotta speak up. This shouldn't go unnoticed and there's no reason you suffer it in silence