Is it bad that I am rejecting my step-brother?

[Anonymous]

I found out a month ago that I have a step-brother from my dad. I am 18 and he’s 22, because my dad impregnated a woman before meeting my mom. Even my father didn’t knew that he had a son. His mother died, and beside my dad he doesn’t have any family, but I feel that he’s too nice. When he came here to meet us, he claimed that he just wanted to meet his father, and to be honest even before the paternity test he was obviously my father’s son, since he look like me and my dad like crazy. My mom greeted him gently, and she think that it’s awesome because I have a brother since I since I was always complaining to be an only child. He’s sooo nice that he even bought us some presents, he have a well paying job, he’s also handsome and very cheerful and all my girl friends think that, but I feel bad because I see him like a burden who changed my routines. I felt so ashamed when my friends saw him and then he hugged me In front of them before kissing my cheek, by telling that I was his cute little sister, but I rejected him by yelling that he’s not my brother and he will never be! My friends told me that I was very bitchy and mean for rejecting such an awesome brother. He is nice and awesome but I can’t accepte him in my life. Why is he even trying to creat a connexion with me? Is it bad if I just want him to leave and to never come back?

[Mark_C]

I think you're dealing with some really difficult emotions from this dramatic change in life. If the only problem about him being in your life now is that it feels like he's disrupting the status quo, then it's kind of mean to shoot him away like that. It sounds like he's really excited that he's found out about family that he never knew about and just wants to be able to get along with them. If there's nothing wrong with him like it sounds like you're saying, then try to step back from the situation and think about the positives that this brings. There's definitely some adjusting that will have to happen and it can take time but he is family so try to get along and build a new relationship.

Good luck!

[GoodEnoughThen]

I think it's actually kind off sad that you are rejecting your half-brother. With ll the jerks out there what's wrong with having a kind person in your life? Like it or not he is your blood relation and deserves at least a chance to get to know you and tour Mom. My guess is the reason you reject him is not bec he is sooo nice but bec of your insecurities. Think about that and see if you can come up with anything. You are probly a very ice person too, no?

[Izumiblu]

Half brother not step brother. You don’t have to create a relationship with him, but I think if you don’t recognize why he wants to create one with you then you are blind. Again, that doesn’t mean you have to want a relationship with him but if you are angry that he wants one with you that’s just silliness.

It’s ok to say, yah you know, I hope you have a good life and I wish you the best but I really don’t want a relationship. It’s not his fault , he didn’t make the choice to be your half brother. He is doing what any number of people in his situation might do and you are doing what an number of people in your situation might do.

[Fitness-Fanatic]

It's obviously a shock to you , but It's not nice to be rude and mean to him. It's not his fault he's your half-brother. It's your fathers and his mothers fault. It's understable that he'd want a relationship with his father and with his fathers family. He's never had that. And most people want to be raised in a family unit

Although I understand why you'd feel the way you do, i actually feel sorry for him.

Just be patient , and try to get to know him before judging him, and before making a hasty decision by rejecting him

Try to put yourself in his shoes.

[SongBird3]

Ok before I start who here though this post was gonna be about something sexual? 🤚
Anyways. First of all he’s not your stepbrother he is your half brother meaning he is your blood! Second of all it is perfectly understandable that you would be upset that the routine has changed. Up until now you were getting all the attention and now this new person comes in and he’s getting attention to. Third, unless this guy was being a douche bag to you I really don’t see a reason for why you should reject him. At the end of the day this guy is your family, he’s always going to be there whether you like it or not. I think you just need to get to know him better and try to form a bond

[Poppymarie]

It’s totally normal to have strong feelings about things changing so drastically. It sounds like you don’t want to reject him, just the change. Try talking to your parents about how you feel. Maybe they can provide some reassurance. And gradually try to give your half brother a chance, a little at a time. It must be very hard for him, too. He very well could feel like the rejected child that his father didn’t want. You don’t have to be best friends with him, but try to accept him.

[Tylord92]

Yeah that was kind of a bitchy thing to do to be honest. He's clearly just trying to be nice to you and you blew up at him. I can maybe understand not being comfortable with it at first and it taking some time to get used to the fact that you have a half brother that you never knew about, but you should probably apologize to him.

[TacocaT6969]

He’s not your step brother, he’s your half brother.

A step brother would be if his mother and another man made him, his mother broke up with that man and married your father.

You and him share DNA, you’re actually related, so not rejecting him would be incest.

[Máiiréad]

He didn't pursue her romantically, he just wanted to have her and her father in his life like any normal person would want once they finally found a missing part of their life. Doesn't look like you read it thoroughly.

[TacocaT6969]

Whoops.

Only skimmed it.

Thanks.

[quenmosq]

wtf is wrong with you, you sound like a little girl who wants mommy and daddys and their money to yourself he is a human who obviously showed empathy towards you, you get what you serve, don't forget that my friend, as a wise man once told me you can give people two things in life you can give the pepper and get pepper back or you can give them sugar and get sugar back. chose your words wisely

[Ámayas_20]

Technically he's your half brother not your step brother, but that's not important.

You don't have to act as if he is your brother if you don't want to but yes you're being a bitch about it, you need to talk to him and explain how you feel. He's not going to leave, he is your father's son as much as you're his daughter so you need to learn to be civil with him at least.

[Nik1hil]

You don't hate him..

Things are going just too fast. I mean.
For you it would take you 18 years right now to completely adjust to having a elder brother...
Tell him..

You are just confused..
And need time to adjust to this change like 1 yr.
Just give it time sweetie

[skeetskeetskeet]

You sound like a little spoiled bitch... so my dad was adopted and both his adopted parents died before he was 19... no other family on That side until about 20 years ago he looked up his real mom and found out he's got 5 brothers and 4 sisters that have all been living within 50 miles of him and he never knew... none of them wondered why he looked them up and they never heard a word about him to that point... But its cool because he went from only child no family to a fucking brady bunch

[skeetskeetskeet]

Wether or not if you knew him or didn't he's still your real deal family... just hope you never need a kidney donor with your attitude

[Drumlin2001]

Your life is adjusting from you being the centre of attention as an only child to you having to share the limelight. Give it time, you'll figure things out.

[Secret6620]

I'm curious how old are you. The behavior in this makes me believe you're like 12. Hopefully you will get over it. 🤷

[MlleCake]

He's your half brother, not your step-brouther.

Just give it time.

[PrincessGrail]

I felt the same way about my half brother, but I had my reasons.

[LuWe22]

Maybe It's not him it is you. Ask yourself why did you reacted so strongly and aweful. Why do you think he is not your half brother? Everyone want to have someone he belongs to someone to connect with

[WhoDatGuy]

He's getting some of your precious attention and your bitter.
Jealousy isn't attractive

[Gedaria]

He could leave but will not change the fact of who he is and find out why you want him to leave...

[Anonymous]

your half brother is nice and you yelled at him in dishonor in return.
you are a crazy, bitchy girl! hope he will find someone better.

[Sambelfast34]

You should kick him right in the balls and tell him to find someone else.

[HereIbe]

Yes, it is bad. You're just selfish and self-centered.

[ivanhunterjo]

just give it time. You're adjusting from being the centre of attention to having to share the spotlight. You'll figure things out

[Anonymous]

He's your half brother. Not your step brother. Yes, you're a bitch for rejecting him.