How do you define "loyalty" in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Is it just about not having sexual relationships outside marriage or is there something more to it?

[MrOracle]

When I'm in a relationship, I treat it light being on a team. Team members can criticize each other or the team in private, but in public, the team is to be supported and defended always. And decisions are to be made in the best interests of the team. Like any other team, the two of you are working together to achieve goals, and that becomes the focus of your lives. Some goals will be short term, and some will be longer-term, but you agree on what they are and then you work towards them.

"Loyalty" means that you do your best to avoid any situations or behavior that will bring harm to the team - even if it means "missing out" on things occasionally. The team comes first. Maybe the guy doesn't take the camping/fishing trip with the guys, or the girl doesn't go shopping in the city with her friends - but this helps them buy a new car together, or save enough for a nice vacation, or maybe just get medical insurance that they really need. Ultimately, both team members benefit more overall when the team is made the priority.

[ohshee]

No matter what type of relationship is friendship brother sister coworker lover f w b even friends on the internet even on here loyalty is a bond it is a way to show who you really are and how much that person really cares there have been many people that confide in me in a lot of different ways in a lot of different things and they are giving that trust to me that I won't say anything that's why I'm very loyal to them if something happens and if they're in the right and if they're telling the truth I'm very loyal to them I will back there play if you needed to move Monday and you called me yet and we were friends I would help you we're 20 people would say that they would help you but you know you can count on me to be there there's also a different type of loyalty did I don't really care for and that is let's say you and somebody went and did something you and I are really good friends and you both came to me to ask me a question and you wanted me to pick whose side that I am on loyalty would beat to you because I'm your friend and I'm going to back your play but that's the Loyalty that I don't like because if you're wrong on something that you did it would be hard for me to say you know what I'm picking you because you that's what I am loyal to you I would have to pick the person who's right because I have to be loyal to myself first loyalty is a beautiful thing though there's not too many people that are loyal they state that they are but they're not so when you find somebody that is loyal with you it's usually a pretty good

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Loyalty =/= Sexual Exclusivity. Not to me.

I used to think it did, but what really bothered me about my ex cheating wasn't the sex. It was the lies, omissions, and gaslighting I hated.

It was like living with my mother and I don't need that.

To me, loyalty is communication, returning to each other after cooling down from a fight, supporting the other person, being truthful, and being transparent.

Loyalty isn't just blind obedience to me. Or blind commitment. It is seeing the flaws, seeing the shortcomings, and choosing to stick with the other person because you love them and you see their best self. And want to help them attain that.

[jenfin87]

yes if ur questioning or not considering ur partners opinion or asking would they approve or do this to me then you can bet your ass it's probably cheating or not loyal especially if u have to hide it

[Alonelyf]

In a relationship, loyalty means “you’ll take time for me and I’ll take time for you.” It means giving freely of yourself to fulfill needs the other may never know they have or may never even voice.
It means “I give myself to you” in an act not merely of faith, but very much grounded in acts: the proof of loyalty is the quality of treatment received because loyalty as a word falls quickly and easily from a lot of people who hope to use it as a distraction from their deficiencies. This is so hard to find these days. I often try to do my best but another person disappoints eventually lol. I feel it's almost impossible to meet someone loyal when it comes to relationships or dating by the way. re-state://background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft, p

[Finchie40]

Wearing your partners shoes like they should be wearing yours , making each other your number 1 priority, removing selfishness , If you have to hide things from your partner then you aren’t being loyal , to make love grow it’s always best to think how would your partner feel before making any decisions on your own , just because we might think to ourselves that what we are choosing to do is innocent, it might not be innocent to your partner , Most people can’t do this and that’s why their relationships don’t last , You shouldn’t get into a relationship to be single

[DaveToo]

I can only relate my experience with my wife. I was so taken by her appearance when we first met, then by her incredible intelligence as we began dating. When you find someone like that, no one else even comes close.

Oh sure, there are more beautiful women in the world and it's nice to admire that beauty for what it is. What it's NOT is someone I would have ditched my wife for. I guess it's why I have a difficult time dating.

There have been others that I have dated but they weren't the same as Stephanie. I have to be able to converse with someone when we are intimately involved. Day to day conversation is easy for most of us.

So, in answer to your question, when you meet THE ONE, you tend to stay loyal to them, as I did with Stephanie until the day she died.

[Asker]

Thanks for sharing, and I'm sorry for your loss. Hope you're doing good.

[DaveToo]

I'm 76 and ladyless. The VA doctors tell me I'm doing okay for an old guy.

[Hanrej]

There's more to it. The most loyal girl I've ever had had sex outside of our relationship. I don't feel sex determines ones loyalty but honesty, willing to stay togeather and work through the hard times are factors that play a more significant role. We were togeather 7 years and during a time I was unemployed. She then took on most of our financial burden, what woman does that? She's the only one I've ever felt like I could depend on if things get rough. Naturally I got me a job and did my fair share doing everything to keep her happy.

[ChrisMaster69]

For me loyalty is standing by, adhering to the following pillars.

Trust
Respect
Honesty
Communication

each is important in a relationship, being loyal means you understand this and how a break of any single one will impact the rest.

[dezzman98]

To define loyalty you really have to define cheating also, and in my eyes cheating is anything that you feel you have to hide from your partner. Cheating is physical connections with other people as well as emotional connections (that are non platonic of course). Even if you don't act on a feeling, the feeling of wanting someone else is still cheating because it is being unfaithful (unloyal) to your partner emotionally even if not physically.

[dudesearchformeaning]

Respect for another human person. If you have respect for the other person then you don't cheat, if you do you tell them and let them know your true thoughts. If you really respect you let them go if they cheat or they don't want to be with you. If you respect them you care for them, you don't hurt them. Loyalty is like trust, once crumbled up it takes ages to be like the same again. Respect their soul like you respect yours. Sex doesn't matter. It's everywhere. It's the care, understanding and respect that counts. The truth sets us free like a bird. If you are respected you respect too. Make efforts for each other to be better! Make sure to be someone that they'll remember forever!

[Question_091]

Being a companion to your, companion. You don't want to destroy your partner, but want to better him. You value his advice, and he values yours, as well as doing what it takes to keep the fire burning.

In addition, loyalty means supporting each other in times of weakness, and strengthening one another to be the best versions of yourselves.

[Lliam]

It's when two people have each other's backs. They value each other above all others. They want each other's welbeing and happiness. They can confide honestly with each other. They trust each other completely.

[ChiTown33]

As far as I'm concerned love and loyalty are basically synonymous. People throw around the word love so easily. They say "I love her" or "I love him" just based on the feelings they get. But I ask why? Do you know their hopes and dreams, their aspirations? Do you encourage them to be a better person? Do you sacrifice of yourself for them. Because this is real love and loyalty. Because you love them. When they win you win.

[dragoblack]

Being there when your SO needs you, not trying to sleep with other people, talking about issues in the relationship instead of throwing a tantrum like a child, understanding the boundaries each other has a respecting them, compromising when there are differences in decisions. Trusting each other and showing trust in return.

[Anonymous]

not interacting with others emotionally sexually out of consent and acting accordingly to people who try to interact with you emotionally sexually.
Emotionally refers to romantic emotions not in a sense my mother died and I need to talk.
Sexually refers to anything lusty. From intercourse to flash, from flash to lusty look. All counts.
As long as consent (without forcing or threatening) is given for the case or for that kind of situation generally, it cannot be classified as not being loyalty.

[hamzaelll]

Loyalty, for me, is making them a priority, committing to their needs, not wanting anyone else no matter how attractive they are, supporting them and encouraging them, standing up for them, and reassuring them…

[Stoner710]

Loyalty in a relationship: eyes wonder if we’re talking eye candy men will look. Girls we expect the same thing. If you want to look at a guy and soak in the six pack abs and muscular frame that Eye candy. Cheating is different when you start try and get his number. It’s the same thing like we saw a hot girl where going to look but trying get in the pussy is Entirely different thing though bs actions that type of thing

[weysally]

loyalty? don't know whether that is the right word, but backing each other in any sort of conflict, and if either is wrong then tell them in private, that is one

[Alejandro3000]

Loyalty isn't just sex, it's the idea that once you know someone you dont act as if you don't want to know them anymore. Being cold just because you broke up or had to move is hurtful. That's called being fake.

[Agape93]

You don’t betray the trust your partner has in you.

[Arivor]

Not a bad interpretation... kinda it in a nutshell. Ya wicked little thing, you.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Loyalty goes with trust. if you want to build trust in a relationship, loyalty is key.

[stateman]

LOYALTY an umbrella term I guess can not be defined by a single definition it covers a lot of things and varies from person to person.

[aqua0101]

Loyalty is about having empathy for your partner. When. she has a issue that needs to talk to you about, , don't ignore her. Listen to her.