What traits do you consider "high maintenance" in women?

[TrueConfection]

(Examples) Is it always needing to drive a new car and wear fine jewelry? Is it needing cosmetic injections? Is it needing you to carry her emotional baggage? Is it wearing makeup and nice clothes? Is it a shopping addiction?

What does "high maintenance" mean to you?

[humpbackjack]

I would say the one that bothers me the most is when a woman takes hourssss to get ready to leave the house just to the corner store and if you’re actually going out out it takes her half the day. I’ve actually known women that spend 2 hours doing their makeup to go to bed. Yes part of that regiment was lotion and hair stuff but come on. I asked one of them one time why and she said in case the fire department or police or a burglar comes in. No lie now she did explain if a burglar come the police will be soon to follow (they had money so the police actually show up when called) and she was married. Too much

[TrueConfection]

Wow!

[humpbackjack]

Thank you

[normalice]

Insecurity. The need for constant reassurance. Or the demand to get me involved in their thoughts. I enjoy being inaccessible when I choose to be and if anyone wants to impede that, I consider it "maintenance." And if it happens a lot it is high maintenance.

[TrueConfection]

Thank you for the excellent explanation!

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I'd say that those traits can really vary.
For example, my wife loves to talk about how she feels or just random stuff that goes through her head, and I overall enjoy listening to her because it's almost something interesting or something I can help her with.
Meanwhile, I had a friend who would just whine, complain and get upset about pretty much everything, and would come to me because her husband was always away (guess why)... that I would call high maintenance.
I also have another friend who really likes to put on make up and last mode clothes, but she does everything by herself and fuels her own passions with her money, so I wouldn't call that high maintenance!
I think that overall, it depends more on the attitude than the single quality.

[TrueConfection]

"Attitude" I like that definition.

[MannMitAntworten]

For me, their necessitating a high level of attention that impacts other areas of my life up to and including work.


I do not care how she spends her money. Granted if her expectation is that I am to afford her the image of a luxurious existence, well, I live on a mountain where one gets a bit shamed for being flashy in the above examples. Hell, I get called “bougie” up here just for my own small refinements. Since I HATE cities, I will put up with these nuance individuals versus the hell and hastened pace of city life. In other words, I would not attract this type of women in the first place to remotely concern myself with this image triviality. Now, if she wants me to buy her an expensive mountain bike or a TRD Pro… my arm could potentially be twisted. Diamonds and a yearly new car lease? HA! No. Not even if I had a ten figure net worth.

[jshm2]

None. It's just women being women.

Some have different needs and others have demands. You should have a grip on these BEFORE you get into a relationship.

[es20490446e]

Anything that takes effort, and provides negligible benefit.

[TrueConfection]

Shaving her legs? jk

[es20490446e]

That everyone does it doesn't mean it's something well pondered.

[MotorcycleMan]

It's all of those things. The need for a lot of things and/or a lot of attention. It's a lot of work to be with them because it's all about them.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Very materialistic.
Egocentric.
Short fuse.
Vindictive.
Can't admit to be wrong.
Shitty attitude.

[888theGreat]

If she has 366 pair of shoes (leap year ) and or 366 purses.

[Anonymous]

Well, wearing makeup and wearing high heels or sandals are NOT among them, nor the lack thereof. But it includes showering, wearing decent clothes, but it doesn’t matter if long or short. It doesn’t matter if it’s dress, slacks, or short slacks.

[Peggy94]

Nothing ever done right. She never satisfied.

[TrueConfection]

That sounds pretty high maintenance to me!

[Peggy94]

My mom like that haven’t spoken to her almost 10 years her choice.

[Hulk30]

basically bein mean emotional and controllin

[Anonymous]

Terrible attitude
Generally narcissistic