Do you think you'll ever have a family of your own? And do you want kids? What are your views on marriage vs living with a boyfriend/girlfriend?

[Uptowngirl88]

[menina]

Wow! There are so many things I could say to answer this question but I'm going to try to give a concise reply.

No, I don't think I'll ever have a family of my own. I'm 29 and I've never been in a relationship so if it didn't happen before, it's not going to happen now.

I'm not sure if I want to have kids for 4 simple reasons:
1) I'm almost 100% sure that I can't get pregnant
2) Kids are a huge responsibility
3) The world is getting even more dangerous and scary
4) I don't want to bring more black people into this world to deal with all the s**t that I have to deal with everyday

Marriage is something I don't want for myself but I don't judge people who want this for themselves. If I was in a serious and long relationship I would rather live with my boyfriend instead of getting married. That way, when we decide to break up I could just leaving him without being worried about the money we would spend with the divorce process and everything that comes with it.
Also, marriage is not for everyone, some couples are happy just for being together.

[IcedLemonade]

"I would make it as easy as possible for me to leave" OK even if you aren't planning on getting married, that says a lot about your mindset. Toxic.

[menina]

@IcedLemonade I've never said that. You're quoting someone else, not me.

[IcedLemonade]

That way, when we decide to break up I could just leave him without being worried about inconveniences

See, marriage is supposed to be an agreement between two families and publicly shamed when they divorce.

[menina]

@IcedLemonade "See, marriage is supposed to be an agreement between two families and publicly shamed when they divorce. " - That's your opinion, not mine.
I don't understand why are you commenting on my post instead of posting your own opinion.

[IcedLemonade]

Because you were wrong.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

I'm childfree and sterile.

I will have a family of myself, my partner, several pets, and a host of friends. To me, this is ideal.

I've known since I was a child I don't want kids and every year that sentiment grows stronger. I'll spoil my niblings and friends' kids, and take em out to play if I feel "maternal" (which has never happened).

My partner is also childfree and sterile and we've been loving our life together.

Living your truth - whether parent or childfree - is the best way to live.

[darkcloud1945]

At 75 I married had kid watch them start their live s. Watch their stages of life and first love , marriage and birth of grandkids , the death of my wife of 35 years from cancer. Yes I would do it again with her no questions asked , I think it all depends on the couple themselves there is no one size fits all, I will tell you this marriage is not a 50-50 deal in most cases it is more like 90 - 10 the woman giving the most and I will catch a lot of shit for saying it, but I lived it ,

[Smoothing]

I think I will have a family of my own one day and yes, I don’t see a family without kids so kids are part of the marriage. I think marriage is great but not really necessary depending on the couple. I would personally prefer marriage though.

[Apple1996]

I'm already have a family! Two boys and a baby on the way. Also have been married for 6 years 😊

[DizzyDesii]

I would love to have a family of my own. I used to want 12 kids but now I’d be fine with 1 or 2 since i’ve gotten up there in age and dont intend to birth after age 30. I’m not for shacking up and would only live with a fiance for 6 months at most. My views on marriage are iffy at this point. I’m all for marrying but i want a prenup. If no prenup, then no legal marriage, just a commitment ceremony and some type of nonlegal binding certificate ig

[Uptowngirl88]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 yass

[DizzyDesii]

Haha thanks

[DianaWest]

yes. i want 3-4 babies. i hope that i meet the one by 24 or 25 (am 22 now). i want to get married by 27 or 28. have 1 baby by 28 or 29, another by 31, and another by 34. but looking at the guy's responses, the future doesn't look so bright. maybe i'll get some cats?

[yourbabygirl921]

I want to get married and have family by means having a spouse I'm not really sure about kids since im not good at kids and I also is not fond with kids and I don't think i can handle a life with kids i feel like i just wanna grow old with my spouse travelling and enjoying the world then stressing over kids ngl

[Dinklex3]

I don't want kids. I'll probably get married though.
I'm fine with either. I'd be fine living with my boyfriend without marriage. I think the only time I'd feel the need for us to marry is if we were military.

[Uptowngirl88]

Why if you were in the military?

[Dinklex3]

Both get benefits. If one of us moves, the other gets to come with. If one of us gets deployed the other still gets money coming in for housing and stuff. If we aren't married, it makes it harder.

[JBlade]

I doubt I'll have a family because I don't want kids. I'm also opposed to marriage because of the risk involved and there's little to gain from it. I would prefer to just live monogamously with my girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

I dont think I will be able to have a family due to being unable to attract a female and keep her. As an average-looking white dude (well, Im fit and tall, but in the face I suppose Im average), I would need to be making seven figures a year before I could even trust myself to be able to keep a female.

[EmmaMary]

Lived with boyfriend for five years, before marrying him almost three years ago.

We now have a 18 mth old little boy, and will hopefully start trying next year for our second and last child.

[Anonymous]

Probably no to family and kids...

I would like to, but all this feminazi politics ruined it, so now I do not know is she there for real or just scamming me for my resources and just want big pay-out after divorce and I will never see my kids again...

[Cherry234]

I don't plan on having a family of my own because I'm not interested in having children. I would be okay with living with a boyfriend or a spouse though. I support marriage

[Bluemax]

I want children so bad it's heartbreaking.

However, I don't have them. I will have to live with the heartache. :(

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

I've wanted kids since I was a teenager lol. That's never going to go away until I have them. Only thing that has changed is the whole family dynamic. I'm going to have kids whatever way I can.

[frissyfrish]

I want kids and a family. I'm not hung up on getting married, but I want a man who cares about raising kids as a family so our kids have both a feminine role model and a masculine role model, and a man who loves them as much as I do and plays an active role in their lives.

[JennBITx]

I do not think I will have a family of my own. A partner yes. I will not be having kids, because of my seizures. It has already been confirmed that it will pass to them and this work today is horrible.

[JennBITx]

World. Not work

[Adam1978]

No I don't think I will. I wouldn't mind having one but finding a woman for it is so unlikely that it's basically doomed from the start.

[FunkyMonkee]

It's not looking like it! I sure WISH I did!!! I'm the last one alive to carry on my family name!!
I've never been married and have only had 3 girlfriend's so, I can't answer.

[SlightlyEccentric]

Very unlikely. If there are good women out there, they are either taken already or just not around. Now left with the scum that make life miserable for the rest of us.

[Dchrls78104]

Well said.

[Jlegacy]

I have a family of mine now and yes I want kids... twelve tribes of Israel☺️. Never been a fan of a girl moving in with me before marriage. It is against my religion.

[genericname85]

probaby no... i'm in the middle of my 30s and no partner in sight. also i don't even want to put a child in this world we're living in right now with the global corruption around this "pandemic".

[Slartybartfast]

Wanted kids, gave up dating entirely once I hit 30. Such is life.

[LonewolfMeme]

Adopt then