What's your opinion about polygamy? Is it possible?

[Anonymous]

[MCheetah]

I think it's for immature, horrible people who are too selfish to work on bettering themselves, but too afraid to be single, not that an "open relationship" is "an actual relationship," to begin with. Most people can barely make a relationship with one person work; what makes these people think the shallow hedonism they have is "a relationship?"

I missed the days when people just admitted they were sluts or man-shores, rather than trying to do mental gymnastics to justify their terrible behavior and lifestyle choices. Not to mention, how badly they ruin the already horrible dating scene (as if transpeople and the lesbians who call themselves that term "bisexual" wasn't already ruining the dating world).

So they no only make horrible decisions for their own lives, but they end up ruining things for everyone else, too.

[ludorock]

As with anything in love - it all depends. I believe that we put a lot of weird rules on love and on sex that aren't needed or helpful. If people love more than one person and all people within the relationship consent to what's going on and get joy and fulfillment then, great. Problems happen when you start talking about one man and many women in a relationship based on religious norms of a religious minority (that religious minority of Mormons who believe in this practice, is what comes to mind for me). When those kinds of power dynamics come into play I get iffy about if those women actually love that arrangement and if they're really getting everything they need from it. Not to say they don't and they're lying, it just makes me wonder.

But in and of itself polyamory is perfectly fine, as long as everything is with people of age, consensual and there are plenty of conversations about trust and boundaries and all that.

[natured]

IT is possible but to me it's sick... i would never agree to have 3 husbands or be a third wife or whatever... I mean i can barely handle one man if i had other 2 i'd probably just run away lol.

[Qdbrown]

It sounds good until it falls apart. It's complex with two people, much less three or more. And to be clear, Poly is not open relationship. Poly is where all partners know each other, sometimes live under the same roof.

Guys, think about a triad between two ofher women. You have kids between the two. Do you have any idea what child support and alimony is going to look like? Can you imagine dragging that into family court? It's not just about hitting two women at the same time. Also some triads are two guys to one girl. Do you want to have sex with your girl while the other guy lays naked in the bed waiting for you, so he can jump on? Or vice-versa? Or will you just wait for your turn later or the next evening?

Girls, are you going to like sharing everything? You would essentially become sister-wives?

[Wester1967]

Stats show poly people have less relationship satisfaction than monogamous. Plus it basically obliterates the ability to pair bond. Leading to depression and loneliness in later life when everyone is no longer a horny teenager. Hahah Yeah. Try telling that telling that to my college girlfriend who burnt me to the ground for some CC action. Now she’s a single mom on third husband. She’s not the only Gen X story like that either.


Plus poly people usually constantly carry on like they’re some kind of special hot sh*t and monogamous people are deficient child-like losers or something. Yeah. Karma is still a bitch even if you deny it.

[Coulis]

You're talkng about polyamory which is different.

[Wester1967]

Nope. Sorry.

[AmeerX]

There are different types of poly people

[Wester1967]

We know who the whores are now at least

[VDrago14]

My wife and I are poly, and it's only strengthened our marriage. We know how to make it work and not negatively one another. Like anything else it's all about trust, communication, and understanding. It's true there are a number of people who get into the lifestyle that have a lot of issues, but that's not always the case. If both parties are comfortable with it, than it can be an amazing thing.

[FreshOutaIdeas]

As much as I may fantasize about boning two or more women at once, I know for a fact if I made that happen one would get jealous. And there is NO FUCKING WAY ON EARTH you'd ever see me dead sharing a women with another guy, that thought is incomprehensible to me.

In other words, in all seriousness, no.

[DarkWinterNights]

People are more than welcome to do whatever they like as long as it doesn’t involve me. If my partner even hinted at bringing someone else in I’d be making my exit strategy. That’s the kiss of death for any relationship in my experience. Polygamy is mostly either for people who are bored with their current partner but too cowardly to break it off, or people who can’t make up their minds and are never satisfied.

[slatyb]

Of course it's possible. Why wouldn't it be? I'm not opposed if everyone involved is an adult. By the way, that's photo depicts polyandry.

I'm very opposed to polygamous societies like the FLDS because they force underage girls to marry old men.

[Slartybartfast]

I once asked an anthropologist why in some cultures it's acceptable for men to have multiple wives when there are more boys born than girls.

He replied, "in those cultures the majority of men are dead before adulthood"

Like a lightbulb turning on it made so much sense!!

[mobiusforniner]

Humans are not monogamous creatures. And marriage is about commitment. That commitment requires communication and working through life problems together. If you and your spouse agree to some kind of polyamorous relationship- then great for you. However, I think most people don't possess that level of confidence or security in their relationship to allow this.

[FilmGuy93]

I'm sure there are people who can make that work, but I've never seen or heard of polygamy ending well. In fact, every person I've spoken to in that lifestyle has been really obviously working through some personal issues.

I'm not trying to make any personal judgements against these people, but it was quite obvious to me that there was some personal trauma that was making them crave the touch of multiple partners.

[Floppy2112]

Duh... the question isn't if it's possible, people are doing it so it's clearly possible. Just don't expect, outside of very few exceptions, for those relationships to last.
Such a lifestyle requires youthful vigor and good health. Youth will end eventually and health is a crapshoot. If your polygamous relationship hasn't fallen apart already, these two stressors are a sure-fire killer.

[humpbackjack]

Sure it’s possible different people have different views different beliefs and it’s happening everywhere. Hell I figure I could handle about 4 women on my own and I’m going to start accepting applications probably next month. For real though if that’s what someone is into then whatever. I do think that it takes a special kind of person someone that doesn’t get jealous and understands the dynamics of such a relationship

[Andres77]

Polyamory?
It's complicated and needs to be addressed at the very beginning of a relationship.
It's not easy to introduce it later in an established relationship without the likelihood of hurting someone.

Polyamory is about choice.
Polygamy is usually done without all parties being in agreement.

[FreeOhSeven]

It’s definitely possible, people have been doing for a million years. It’s still prevalent in the Middle East and you can find out to a lesser extent throughout the heavily Mormon populated areas of the Rocky Mountains. Have you read Jon Krakauer‘s “Under the Banner of Heaven “? All about that wackadoo Warren Jeffs and his bent for a polygamist life filled with underage wives and all sorts of other weirdness.

[VTecumseh]

I think it's pathological. It never comes with all partners loving each other.

Example: A polygamous threesome is usually one indecisive sociopath and two people who hate each other but think the sociopath is an angel.

[Changiis07]

It's wrong. God intended for marriage to be between one man and one woman. No more

[dustybiker]

When god comes and defends that statement more people would believe it. Also is there only one god and one rule? If a god was all-forgiving why would they let a situation were people fall into a love triangle to begin with?
Love is far more complicated than storybooks and unprovable fear-mongering hearsay. It’s also a lot less a problem than other things going on on earth. The business is only between the three lovers. If they bother no others then no harm done.
I’m not anti religious. But saying others can’t love the way they choose is just another form of bullying.
If there is a god it is between them.

[R4zor]

@dustybiker Cuz you've got responsibility for your husband and your kids

[R4zor]

@dustybiker I am not religious but stop arguing about some shit that's got nothing to do with morals

[dustybiker]

@R4zor I’m a grown woman whom you have zero control over and know nothing about. In case you neglected to notice, this a discussion forum. For points no less. TY for sharing your perspective. I dislike bullying and hate.

[R4zor]

@dustybiker You're a grown slut stfu

[KrisPW]

Depends on the people. But relationships seem hard enough with two people dealing with each other's crap, adding more people to the mix would certainly be difficult.

[TrueConfection]

I've been waiting years for another wife to come along and take over the cooking and cleaning.

In all seriousness though, polygamy isn't happening under my roof!

[15_Debo]

only whores and bitches do that
that's not for decent people

[R4zor]

I hope you stick to these core values as you age but good job

[15_Debo]

@R4zor yeah

[EssenceOfLight]

It's possible, however it's never like in romantic movies where a girl will be stuffed from both ends by two guys who are best friends and like each other while she benefits by being loved of them both.

[t-8900]

God, just imagine being so desperate for sex you are actively and openly sharing a woman with other dudes. lmao pathetic.

[dustybiker]

Yes. It’s possible. Why cloud it with marriage, is my only suggestion.