My boyfriend spends a lot of time with his friends. It annoys me. What do I do?

[ktttt]

I know it's stupid, but i'm insanely jealous of my boyfriend's friends with whom he watches basketball. I have a good relationship with his friends, i can't say anything bad about them. I just want my boyfriend to spend more time with me. How can i tell him about this?

[Jlegacy]

Become one of the boys. I prefer to advice if he is your husband though because boyfriend relationships end 99% of the time.

Best approach though is to become one of the boys. Don't nag about it. Find your own pack. Have a hobby or a passion or a business. Those times he is watching sport, find out how to get your money doubled legally.

You won't feel it.

[ktttt]

I’m unlikely to succeed, and my boyfriend will not want it. He probably needs time to take a break from me :)

[Jlegacy]

Okay. Then I'd recommend my second advice. Use that time to build yourself financially and to be useful to the globe. Chances are he may not be your husband eventually. If you invest that time in yourself and in acwuiri skills, if the relationship goes south, you would have fewer regrets.

[Jlegacy]

Acquiring skills*

[ktttt]

You are probably right. I can't remake my boyfriend. I guess i'm just selfish.

[Jlegacy]

You can remake him but after all that investment, you may lose him to someone else. Watching sport is not a bad hobby to have. Best thing is to take an interest once in a while and just focus on building yourself.

[ktttt]

I'm not against sports, i just think it means too much to my boyfriend. I just want to be in the first place for him.

[Jlegacy]

Personally, no girlfriend would ever be first place for me. The only woman who would be first is my wife.

Don't seek wife privileges when you are not yet one.
Even my wife would be second to God. And I would be second to God in her life and I love it that way.

[Jlegacy]

Thanks for the MHO.

[Dude_777]

Just playfully tell him "if you don't spend more time with me and make me happy, someone else will" 😂.

[ktttt]

ha ha, i can't say that. i have a soft character 🙂

[Dude_777]

There is always a nicer way of saying. Rather than complaining, use a smarter way and tell him that how much you miss him and want to spend more time with him and then see how he reacts / blushes to it or not.

Always communicate your concerns with your SO, but in a smarter and positive way.

[slatyb]

How often are you seeing him? How often is he with them instead of you? Don't criticize, just tell him how you feel. "I feel like I hardly ever see you / I feel like I'm not important to you..." Do you have friends? You can't expect him to be your everything.

[HighValue]

Don't. You'll just make him think you are too clingy and it may push him further away. If he wanted to spend more time together he would be doing it already. Plus if he does spend more time with you and then his friendships end up feeling strained or not as close he may blame you for it later on.

[humpbackjack]

You need to have a conversation with yourself first do some self reflection and figure out why you feel this way and do you have a reason to feel this jealousy. You need to let him have his things same as you need your things. I mean a big red flag for a woman is if a man is trying to isolate her so just what are you up to

[Hairylegs222]

Does he bring you hanging out with his friends? If not than he should bring you and that's not cool of him. I'd recommend having a discussion saying you want to go too.

If he does bring you than I don't see an issue here. You're both having quality time together hanging with friends.

[Anonymous]

2 things, simply tell him first. Don't mention his friends, just that you would like to spend more time with him in general. Second, when he is with his friends, distract yourself, go out with your friends or just "you" time, whatever. Enjoy the time, don't sit around thinking and obsessing over it.

[Lionman95]

Give him the space he needs because if you want to have all for yourself you´ll loose him. I wouldn´t say it´s a good idea to try to become one of his mates because he might feel intimated and break up with you.

[SofiSin667]

You don’t. You give him his space to do his own thing. His time with his friends and family members is separate from the time he spends with you.

[lovelyleo]

Don't tell him about it. Go do stuff with your friends. If you don't have any go do stuff by yourself until you make some friends. You shouldn't be jealous of his friends. You should have friends of your own to do stuff with or enjoy your alone time.

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[jackderby_01]

Balance is key. Spend time daily and when he hangs out with his bros (which is absolutely necessary), you can go hang out with your friends or do something else

[Cryptoanonne]

Just tell him how you feel. Any guy would be lucky to have a girlfriend who wants to spendmore time together. If your serious about maybe try to be open to enjoy stuff that he's into?

[zaharuh]

Like spending way more time with them than you? I guess it depends how close of friends they are and you can always hang out with your friends too!

[Woke51]

You should learn to be fine on your own. What would you do if you were happily single?

[Daniela1982]

Invite your girlfriends over and make it a party. why should the guys have all the fun?

[Anonymous]

You’re young, this happens. But I might also worry if he’s actually totally into you like you are into him.

[Anonymous]

lol he doesn't care about you. There's no cure because you can't make someone care about you.

[Wise4myage]

Just be honest with your feelings, but don't come across in a complaining way.

[Nazgol]

Maybe suggest to him that he can make Guys night once or twice a week, no more than that

[David_Bayer]

Don't worry about it too much. It may be his only chance to be himself.

[Anonymous]

You appear to be an attractive blonde chick. I'm SURE you have ways of persuading a man!

[Anonymous]

Just go and tell him about it. He shouldn’t be judgmental about it.