Sit down with me and tell him calmly and nicely that you love him and that the relationship has been wonderful in the past where you’ve treated me so well I was grateful and still am because we’re still together. However lately, whenever I go out with my friends you get upset with me because I don’t spend enough time with you, but I need you to understand that we need to be free to be ourselves outside of this relationship which is healthy and that means respecting there are days where I need to spend it with friends. If you really love me you would trust me and not get jealous, if you wanted to spend one day with your friends, I would give you the space and time to do this. Relationships are about being balanced and respectful of each other’s time needs to be divided equally with you and other friends I care about. I hope you see my point and appreciate what I’m saying?
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It sounds like a control issue, possibly mixed with jealousy. You have the right idea, to sit down and talk with him when feelings are not raw, and to discuss this with him. Try to stick with the 'I feel like' comments, rather than you this or that, or you always this or that. Understand, that he may not be used to having an honest conversation, and may not know how to handle it at first. But this is an important issue, as you not only have a right to personal freedom, but have a need for personal freedom. Going out once or twice a month with the girls is not a lot of time away. It would help is you don't go to places where guys are drooling over you, and trying to pick you up, or you go dancing with other guys.
He sounds like a control freak. You probably want to have a discussion with him about doing your own thing every now and then with your friends. If he’s going to flip out whenever you do things without him, is that something you really want in your life?
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Start with the last part you write here.. Tell him the good things and that it will only be him... But you feel sad and upset when he acts like that
That's a problem. My girlfriend and I are integral parts of each others lives, but we make sure we have other social lives. It can be hard because we have mostly the same social circle
Are your friends bunch of guys? If so, that's the reason why. If not, it's jealousy and control problems.
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