I feel like crying, she likes someone?

[Anonymous]

She rejected me long ago, but because I now see her almost everyday it's unavoidable that my feelings for her still linger in one way or another. She cut our freindship (if there was any in the first place. And now we barely talk. I was fine with that, but it would hurt sometimes because I really just don't know why I was rejected. Was it my looks? (It makes me think of my insecurities) My personality? I thought she just didn't want any relationships. But that apparently wasn't it. She just didn't want ME.
Now, it seems like she likes someone. I don't even know who. And it is not only such a shock to me, but a rush of sadness and despair ran through me that I feel like crying! How do I deal with this when I see her almost everyday? Any help is appreciated! I feel so broken right now 😭😭

[Anonymous]

You have to love yourself. Sounds cliche but for real. This takes time to learn. Why would you want to be interested in someone who is not interested in you? If you have insecurities, work on them, so you can appreciate your attributes so when someone does reject you, you don’t take it as meaning there is anything wrong with you. Because there isn’t. Unless you were abusive or crazy, that’s a different story but it doesn’t sound like that here. It sounds like you have some inner issues to work on and this isn’t about her at all. You can think someone is super great and it will hurt that they won’t want to be with you, but you look at yourself and feel love and say there will be someone else because you are a great person and have a lot to offer the right person.
i just learned this because I went through a situation just like this. For months I was devastated. And then it hit me. I worked out my insecurities, did good for myself and worked on myself and now I don’t give a hoot if he doesn’t want to be with me. It just means we aren’t a match. It isn’t personal. Everyone just wants someone else who feels like home. Just because you didn’t feel that way doesn’t mean there is a thing wrong with you. You just need to find another person who thinks and feels you as a home too.

[Asker]

Thank you and I do hear about self-love a lot when it comes to topics like these, but right now, my world feels dark and so clouded that I can't even see what's in front of me. Honestly this whole thing even the possibility that she might like someone else, would make my heart drop to the floor. Now that it seems like my worst fears has come true, I can't feel anything, see anything in front of me but hopelessness and sadness. It's so hard that I feel like I don't want to even do anything right now. It's really that much and it pains me that I'm that weak that I fall so much for a girl who didn't even like me nor care about me. 😭😭
My heart is broken

[meetkitty123]

I'm sorry but you need to get over it you're obsessed with this one person and that's not healthy there are plenty of people in the world and for you to be showing such an obsession for someone who doesn't even want to be with you never even showed you any indications that they wanted to be with you shows that you are not healthy mentally you need to seek treatment. This is an obsession and that's not good. In fact this sort of behavior is what makes women step away it's not attractive in fact it wreaks of danger and it sends the back of our hair standing on edge we're taught to avoid people with this sort of personality. It is never healthy to get obsessed with somebody. It's healthier less too if you are showing this obsession for someone who has clearly shown you they are not interested you need to move on get over it you're blindsided and you're way too clingy.

[Asker]

Well, I think one of the reasons that I became so attached to her is because I'm quite picky when it comes to girls a lot of them don't attract me and she just has the qualities I want in a girl. Another thing is that this isn't a stranger for me, this is someone that I believe knew me. And also, while I am really sad and broken because of that, I'm not acting on it. Like I'm not gonna run after her and beg. It's just that I'm conveying how I really am feeling at the moment. I've met other girls, but none of them fit the criteria enough for me to make any moves.

[meetkitty123]

Trust me let her go no point pining over someone who won't love you. You shouldn't idolize this girl she's not the perfect girl the first clue is that she's not interested in you which makes her not the perfect girl for you

[Asker]

I guess admittedly, the other thing is that it makes me think less of myself and I don't know how to deal with that. Like I get thoughts like I'm not good enough or attractive enough, etc. So my ego took a hit when that happened. I mean her liking someone else. At first I honestly attributed it to her not interested in any relationship, but apparently that doesn't seem to be the case.
I wish that I would meet someone new!!

[meetkitty123]

You can't see where you are going or what you might be passing up if you are constantly looking backwards. Moving forwards means staying in tune to find the girl who may be out there looking for a guy like you.

[Asker]

Update: If what I thought is correct, she wants to marry him. I can't express the shock and the pain I'm going through. I know I'm just a weak person who should've moved on from this long ago, but the truth is, I haven't found anyone for that period and when she was back into my sight, it brought the feelings back along with it. I was barely processing how I shouldn't communicate with her anymore and now this? I'll admit how pathetic and weak I am for loving a girl like that who doesn't like me. For being depressed because of her... It sucks even more that I can't find a girl to get along with... I'm not like talking to her or anything, quite the opposite... My situation just feels like a dead end because the only way to get over her is to find someone and I can't. So I just want to deal with how I'm feeling internally...

[Jayplays900]

Aye look man, you just gotta ignore that sad force. Cry if you need it, it is a great reliever of stress.

You gotta just walk away, use all your force and turn your head the other direction. It's hard, but ya gotta do it. I made the mistake of not looking the other way, and now I'm stuck. Ya gotta just ignore, turn around, and walk away. Go meet someone better, cause she's long gone.

[Asker]

It's been really HARD man. I'm trying to cry to let it out... so far I couldn't

[boggboss]

You understand that fundamental of dating right no matter what you do or change some women simply won't find u attractive either romanticly or personality wise for a relationship there is nothing u can do about it you can make someone attracted to you with that just understand she was not attracted and move on its got nothing to do with you she just wanted somthing else

[Asker]

Thank you for your opinion I honestly can't express how sad and desperate I'm feeling. Honestly, I don't understand the part where it's said that "It has nothing to do with you" what does that mean? Of course it's about me because she doesn't find me attractive it means I'm not attractive. It means that AT LEAST for the girls I like, I'm not attractive. Which ultimately what matters. :(

[Asker]

I have known her for long, yet she doesn't even seem to consider me a friend at the very least.

[boggboss]

Lol no thats the mistake many people make it dont mean u are unattractive it mean to her you are unattractive in some way thats what I'm trying to get u to see its impossible to be attractive to all women unfortunately she falls into that group yes it hurts but It dont mean you are not attractive overall just to her and thats not somthing u are capable of changing so dont get hung up on it and more likely then not the friendship ended because your feelings where made clear and now the friendship is awkward

[Asker]

It's not how I view it when I look at my history with women. I only liked three girls. The first one didn't even seem into me enough to at least know me. The second one had a boyfriend and this is the thrid one and hardest because with this one we worked together and I've known her long enough to think I can't find someone like her. I'm not the kind to just go find random girls and see. Which is why I think I'm gonna be alone... because girls rarely attract me. 😭😭 I fell so hard for her and working and seeing her almost everyday has made it hell for me.

[Asker]

I think she hates me. I don't know...

[boggboss]

Thats because u view it wrong mate u have been attracted to 4 women and 2 where not intrested whilst one had a partner this happens to most people u understand there and millions of people that won't be attracted to your its a normal thing u don't need to be attractive to them just the one person u find when your both attracted to eachother

[Asker]

I've seen many girls in the past and only those 3 have attracted me. Never been attracted to any other girl since. I really just can't believe that she has feelings for someone!! I just CAN'T! 😭😭😭
I know man there's probably not much advice you can give me really cause all I feel and think about is how I'm not good enough for her... 😭

[boggboss]

Has nothing to do with how good u are but meh

[Asker]

I really want at least a SLIGHT piece of evidence that could suggest otherwise 😭

[boggboss]

Evidence of what

[Asker]

That I'm desirable to any woman I find attractive. :(

[boggboss]

Thats somthing that will come in time when u find a girl that u find attractive as by what u said u sound a little picky

[Asker]

I want to cry to let out the pain, but I couldn't...

[boggboss]

So stop being a clown and cry if that's what u need to do to express your pain do it

[Asker]

I'm trying...

[Asker]

Update: if what I'm thinking is true, then she is officially looking into marrying that guy... given how picky I am with girls, I know this is probably pathetic, but really, I'm in serious pain right now...

[boggboss]

As soon as u worked out she is not intrested why are u still follong her life

[Asker]

I'm not, I'm forced to, because she's there almost everyday man 😭😭

[boggboss]

But you don't have to ask her about her life

[Asker]

I haven't asked her about her life and I rarely talk to her. I just heard her talking about it... 😭😭

[KrakenAttackin]

Anon... this is just women. She is probably pining for a Chad Thundercock. There really isn't anything you can (or want) to do. If you try to stay in her life you will end up as an emotional tampon and permanent bench warmer in her friend zone.

Go fuck one of her cute friends and forget about her, this is what Chad Thundercock does and he is as happy as can be.

[Asker]

I'd love to meet new cute girls! Girls who are better than her!

[Alyssa11]

I'm so sorry boo! There's nothing wrong with you, sometimes people just like/don't like someone and it's just nature. You will meet someone else I am sure.

[Asker]

I really so wish that I could meet someone new!!!

[Alyssa11]

You will!! I promise.

[Asker]

Thank you!!!

[kevinhb]

I really dont have too much for you to go on... Im in the same boat again and knew it as I boarded. She doesn't have to like me, you or the color blue. thats it. thats all i got. put your self in her shoes and imagine dating hard core aq girl you did not feel atracted to AT ALL!! Feel better? Me either

[Asker]

What's really destroying me are two thoughts: the first is that I'm not attractive and the second is that I'm gonna remain single because of that. I'm so saaad right now and I just keep overthinking what is it that the guy she likes has that I don't. And it's driving me into all sorts of negative thoughts; depression, sadness, etc.

[Asker]

I wanna cry so bad!

[Browneye57]

Change your situation so you DON'T see her every day. And quit be a beta simp. Find a girl that is as much into you as you are to them. It's way more fun that way.

[Asker]

I wish I could change the situation. If I find that girl, she's gonna be so lucky.

[noohair]

You need to move forward. I have found that women will find one thing and that one thing will turn them off. It might be something or it might be irrational. Either way, you can't fix it.

[Asker]

The worst part of it I think is that I don't know what it is. Which means my mind will do the conclusions for me and this is not good.

[noohair]

It does not matter what it was. Move foward.

[Asker]

How does one know what to improve upon then? Why is it said to learn from rejection?

[Anonymous]

First off calm down, how do you know she likes someone else? I’m sorry you going through this.

[Asker]

Thank you. Well, I can't exactly say how, not publicly anyway, but it's really painful because it just makes me feel so inferior and sad. :(
I just don't know what to do to make this stop!

[Asker]

Every time I remember what had happened, my heart just sinks :(

[Opinion Owner]

What happened

[Asker]

I know it sounds pathetic, but I couldn't sleep today. I woke up feeling really low and I cried.

[Opinion Owner]

What happened?

[Asker]

Nothing it's about the fact that she likes someone else. I still can't believe that...

[Opinion Owner]

.. ok so why you haven’t been trying to get with her? Texts/calls?

[Asker]

Cause she wanted to distance herself from me. She was acting a little distant with me and when I kept asking her about it, she finally said that she didn't want this whole liking her thing to happen again, and that she didn't feel comfortable and that it was better this way. So I thought I'd respect her wishes. :(

[Opinion Owner]

Was she with someone this entire time you know of? What was her character like that made you fall in love

[Asker]

And let's say I did try. Tell her what? That I've been crying my ass off for you because you like someone now?

[Opinion Owner]

What about her that made her special is what I’m asking

[Asker]

Okay, so no. She was single when I liked her and when I confessed as well. I honestly don't know who or exactly when this happened I just heard her talking about how she has feelings for someone. I don't know the details. The reason why I liked her is because of how feminine she looks and sounds among many other things of course.

[Asker]

Like she's just the girl that defined what I want in a girl you know what I mean?

[Opinion Owner]

You should have went after her and got your chance. Messages her or text her ya know. She probably like guys older than her who knows

[Asker]

She rejected me. That was long ago, I confessed that I liked her and she rejected me wanting to stay "friends" and even that didn't happen. And I Brought it up not long ago and she still doesn't even want it brought up. She doesn't like me. Period. I think the reason it stings and still hurts so much to know that she likes someone else now is because this wasn't like some random girl that rejected me. This is a girl who actually knew me you know? Which is why it hurts so much. It's when someone actually knows you yet they still reject you and even worse, what I actually feared, to find out that they like someone.

[Opinion Owner]

Well you will find someone else. Maybe the guy met what she looking for. You know him?

[Asker]

You mean do I know the guy that she likes? No. I can speculate, but he could be someone I don't even know.

[Opinion Owner]

Well she made her choice ya know

[Asker]

I feel like I want to cry more... The fact that she knew me is what hurts so much!

[Asker]

I did my best to try with her... :(

[Opinion Owner]

Why she didn’t know you?

[Asker]

I said she KNEW me which is why it hurts so much :(

[Opinion Owner]

well maybe she was talking to this guy already :(

[Asker]

I confessed to her three years ago and back then there was no suspicion that she liked someone. I think it was after all that that she met him.

[Opinion Owner]

It sound like her life was private

[Asker]

Not really. I mean she would talk a lot. But all there is to it is that she rejected me. Whatever the reason might've been, even after knowing me, she did. And she now likes someone else. :(
This is really destroying me I gotta distract myself. The only issue is that we work in the same place. So I'm forced to see her almost everyday.

[Opinion Owner]

It will work out

[Asker]

I hope so!

[Opinion Owner]

She just in love with someone who captured her heart. Probably a lot of men wanted to date her and she had her eyes set on one

[Asker]

I don't know anything about that honestly. I don't know who, how and when... 😭😭

[Opinion Owner]

Ok……

[Wise4myage]

You should seek counseling, because you should have gotten over this a long time ago.

[Asker]

I know! I wish I could get help 😭😭

[Wise4myage]

You can, you just have to make an effort.

[Asker]

😭😭

[Randalama]

She's probably banging him right now. Squirting. Self help is the key. But it's difficult. Lot of guys have a tendency to bitch out.

[Relux47]

Keep your head up g

[Relux47]

I was rejected by a girl 2 years ago that I never asked out. Like how does that work? 2 years ago I got to hangout with my coworkers in June which was the first that I did. I tend to be myself a lot so that night I was walking around by myself and coincidentally a girl that I work somehow found me, she was also by herself. I don’t exist to her at work so I was confused. We hung out twice in August and the 3rd time she showed up with a guy. Apparently about everyone else knew about him but me of course. I seen them together and I just wanted to leave. I was thinking about a lot that night. Like are they dating? I just shut down completely but she was trying to get me to talk to her. Whenever we’re at work together I don’t exist. I don’t do drugs or anything so I knew that I couldn’t be tripping smh.

[Asker]

Well, you can't get rejected by someone if you've never confessed to them...

[Asker]

Or asked them out...

[Relux47]

Did you ask out that girl for her to reject you? Did you confess your feelings for her? How’d you do it? Where?

[Relux47]

3rd option: I told someone that I liked her and that’s how she found out. Isn’t that crazy?

[Asker]

I see... well, yes, I did directly confess to her and she rejected me.