She likes me but something doesn't feel right?

[Cobstermon]

Hello everyone,

I met this girl late last year, just intended to be friends at first and didn't want a relationship, but it didn't take long for her to impress me enough that I knew I had to have her.

We started dating early March this year, she's very independent but things were really working. We are both very busy people so we didn't get loads of alone time but got about half a day a week.

Anyway, out of the blue she said that something didn't feel right about 7 weeks ago and we broke up after a long talk.

3 Weeks ago we had a chat to try and sort out what it was, she said that she finds me attractive, likes my company (as more than a friend, her words when I asked if she just liked me as a friend) and misses us as a couple, but that something didn't feel right. She doesn't know what, it's also what she told our mutual friends and I don't think she's lying.

I personally think that she's over-thought the relationship, we made a great couple, no disagreements, I can always make her laugh and she makes me smile. Even when we had the breakup and the talk after it only took me five minutes to make her laugh again. Some friends have said that the relationship meant more to her than she lets on.

I've never argued the breakup with her, but I did let her know that I like her too much to be friends. I respect her decision, but I'd rather have tried to see if it was a passing feeling on her behalf, or if it was something we could work through.

A female viewpoint on what she may be thinking would be nice please. And is there any chance of her coming back? I've been focussing on having fun with my mates rather than chasing her, trying to be the person she fell for and just being relaxed.

Thanks for reading, I know I didn't make it very clear. :)

[bassman]

I think she wanted more excitement in the relationship...and maybe a little mystery from you. Need to surprise her from time to time...don't be predictable. This might not be the case at all...but from what you said she said..it sounds like she likes you..but the relationship may have gotten a little boring for her. Bad news is...most of the time when women get to the point of leaving...they're typically gone if it was their choice to end it. It depends how old she is...how long its been...and how much she had fallen for you before she left. Whatever you do...don't get your hopes up. Two options...ONE You tell her (in person) that you messed up the relationship...and that you've figured out what is wrong, and would like to give it a 2nd try. Option TWO...hang back...keep doing what you're doing now...maybe even date other girls...and possibly she will have a change of heart, and contact you.

[Cobstermon]

Nah, I did keep it exciting. I would buy her random gifts from time to time and we both kept very busy so we did what we both could really. In fact it's the first relationship when I can look back and genuinely know that I didn't do anything big to mess it up, there were some little things I could have done different but there's no way they caused this.

I hope she has a change of heart, cheers for the good advice though :)

[johnny12]

hi my advice is there is a chance of her comming back but be patient in every relationship people have there up and downs I just hope things work out for the best

[Cobstermon]

Thanks man, I will try this. Looking into new hobbies and things to do in the meantime

[Nijababe99]

Awww you sounds so sweet and sincere...I think she just got tired of the same routine ...we all do at some point ..and for a girl to admit that they find their ex attractive that means she still harbors feelings for you .. =)

[Cobstermon]

Thank you for your answer, I hope she does still have some feelings :)

We didn't have a samey routine at all though really, we share a good group of friends and we always keep suggesting new things to do.

[Nijababe99]

Your Welcome hope I helped ! Remember A girls mind can get bored still even if you do different things each week ..maybe because she's with the same group or its always done on the same day ...Think Spontaneous =)

[Cobstermon]

I see what you mean, however it was her choice entirely on what she did, if she didn't want to do something or wanted to do something else I couldn't convince her otherwise, and I liked that. :)

In fact it was me who suggested the new stuff to do :)

[Nijababe99]

Well Keep it Up then =)

[rivflo89]

So how long did you guys date exactly?

[Cobstermon]

It was only 3 months officially, things were starting for about 2-3 months before that.

I know it's not long and I've had longer relationships, but something about this one felt right.

[rivflo89]

It probably felt right because you got to know her more as a friend before you dived into the relationship. You mentioned she was "independent" so she actually can still be a little lost on what she wants when she is with someones else. Because once an independent person shares themselves we have to step back and see if this is actually right for us

[Anonymous]

Did she ever come back?