I have been seeing this guy for a couple of months and we really get along. we have great communication and just really enjoy being with each other. He told me how much he likes me and shows me by seeing me every day, making me a priority, supporting me while I'm upset, and being so mindful of me and my feelings.
The issue is that I want to do my master's degree out of the country and work in a field that could take me all over the world on a consistent basis. In the beginning, we didn't talk too far about logistics bc neither of us wanted anything too serious and agreed that we would end things once I left for my masters. That has since changed once he said that he loved me and didn't want to lose me.
I thought this was perfect bc traveling all over seemed to be what he wanted to do as well. When I graduate undergrad, he will still have a year left of undergrad. I figured we would work it out where we do long distance for a year IF we make it that far, and he comes and visits me overseas until he graduates his undergrad the same year I finish my masters and we see where it goes.
Recently, some things have developed with his mother and he has now told me that he wants to stay where his family is rather than travel. nd if he did travel, which he still wants to do, it would be after his parents pass, which isn't anytime soon nor would I ever want that to happen.
When I bring up labels, he says he doesn't want to add one until we know for sure about my master's program, which would not be until the end of 2023 at the earliest.
I just don't know what to do. I guess labels don't matter, but we do everything a couple does and it just doesn't feel right. Labels bring a sense of stability to me and I don't want to wait almost a year for the potential of that stability while doing those couple-like things. I also don't want to make him do something he doesn't want to do.
Any suggestions on how to figure this out would be greatly appreciated.
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It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and there are a few things you can do to try to figure things out. Here are some suggestions:
Have an honest conversation with him: It sounds like you have already had some conversations about this, but it may be helpful to have a more in-depth conversation about how you both feel and what you want in the future. It's important to be clear about your own feelings and what you want, but also to listen to his perspective and concerns.
Consider your own priorities: It's important to think about what you want for your future and what your priorities are. If traveling and pursuing your career is a top priority, then you may need to be willing to make sacrifices in your personal life. However, if having a stable relationship is important to you, you may need to consider other options.
Take things slow: It's understandable that you want a sense of stability and security, but it may be helpful to take things slow and see where things go. Enjoy the time you have together, but don't put too much pressure on the future.
Consider long-distance: If you do decide to pursue your master's degree overseas, you may need to consider a long-distance relationship. It can be challenging, but it is possible to make it work if both parties are committed and willing to put in the effort.
Ultimately, the decision is yours and it's important to do what feels right for you. It's okay to take time to figure things out and make decisions that are best for your future.
Thank you so much!