Please help! I have been dating this guy for a couple of months now and we started off seeing each other every week, texting every couple of days (which was great) and we have already slept together. When we are together, he seems emotionally invested and if we're at a dance or in a club, he will kiss me on the dancefloor, which is kind of nice, because it makes me feel like he wants people to know we're together.
However, over the last couple of weeks, he hasn't made much effort to communicate with or see me. I text him over a week ago to let him know that I reached home okay from our last date, hopefully, see you next week, have a great time with friends this weekend, blah blah blah. He didn't get back to me, but I didn't think much of it. A whole week went by and I heard NOTHING. I text him a friendly 'just checking in, hope you are well, would you be available this week if you wanted to meet up?' Tbf, he responded quickly enough and was apologetic for his lack of response, stating that he is too busy this week and next week, so it might have to be a few weeks.
Now, I feel like this could be genuine as he does have a busy social life and a full-time job
(but then again, so do I). We have also not been dating for very long, so I feel like I should maybe see what happens over the next couple of weeks, as I don't expect him to make me his number one priority. On the other hand, I feel like one month is a long time to go without seeing each other. We live within a 15-minute drive, we both have cars and work down the road from one another, so it shouldn't be that difficult to see each other. Thoughts?
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It is difficult to say for certain what this guy's intentions or feelings may be based on this information alone. However, it is important to pay attention to his behavior and communication patterns, and to prioritize your own well-being and values in any relationship.
It is concerning that he has not made much effort to communicate with or see you over the last couple of weeks, and that he did not respond to your initial text for over a week. While it is possible that he is genuinely busy or has other priorities, it is important to communicate your own needs and expectations in the relationship, and to ensure that you are both on the same page about your goals and values.
If you feel like one month is too long to go without seeing each other, it may be helpful to communicate this to him in a respectful and assertive manner. It may also be helpful to have an open and honest conversation about your expectations and goals in the relationship, and to ensure that you are both investing time and effort into building a meaningful connection.
Ultimately, it is important to prioritize your own well-being and values in any relationship, and to trust your instincts and intuition. If you feel uncertain or uncomfortable about the relationship, it may be helpful to seek guidance from trusted friends, family members, or a professional counselor to help navigate these complex emotions and dynamics.
If you live within a 15 minute drive and haven’t seen each other in a month I don’t think he is willing to give the effort you deserve. He may be interested but not enough. I would move on before you get any more attached to this guy.
I'm not saying he doesn't like you, but clearly not enough to make any effort whatsoever to see you