Is this guy really into me or was it just the heat of the moment and the club that made him act the way he did?

[Anonymous]

I like this guy, I’ve liked him on and off for a while now. We know each other because we used to go to the same school before graduating and were in the same class, plus we’re friends and we talk often (not that much anymore though). Yesterday, I met with my friends and some guys from my school at a club and he was there. We would not stop taking glances at each other for the whole night but we wouldn’t do anything, maybe because we were both with other people (dancing or making out for a short while in his case).

After we started to get looser he went up to me and we danced together, then we kissed, then we made out. We made out for a WHILE, he asked me if I had a boyfriend and i said no, to his surprise cause he could’ve sworn my new friend from college i posted in my stories was my boyfriend (and that was his reasoning behind not talking to me that often anymore). He told me he liked me (maybe jokingly I don't know i don’t trust people) and we spent the whole night talking, cuddling, drinking and making out.

Well it’s the night of the day after and he hasn’t texted, he hasn’t said anything to me. His friends started following me on social media so that’s something, but I need some confirmation to see if he wants to continue what happened yesterday or if it was just a moment of heat for him.

I don’t know what to do about this. Should I text him? Should I wait? Should I indirectly try to find out? Or am i just getting way too ahead of myself and should knock it off? We’re in the same uni and have similar classes by the way but don’t share the same schedule if that helps.

Please give me some advice other than just the generic shit and i hope you have a nice day/afternoon/evening wherever you are, thanks!

[humpbackjack]

He’s probably just trying to play it cool he might even be doing the old school wait 3 days thing or he could be busy but you should know if he was into you or not at the end of the night just kick back and at least give him until tomorrow then hit him up if you want just don’t be pushy or bitchy or come off desperate you can be honest just say something like had a good time hanging out with you the other night let me know if you want to get some coffee or something and leave it at that

[Jamie05rhs]

I think he's shy. I think he actually does like you. The "heat of the moment" was just what caused his true emotions to come out. Now that the moment has passed, he's acting shy again, because that's his nature.

[Asker]

I finally worked up the courage to talk to him and his answer basically led me to conclude this

[Jamie05rhs]

What did he say?

[Asker]

I asked him what he meant by the “i stopped talking to you because i thought you had a boyfriend” comment and he told me he felt jealous cause we were talking daily and he thought my friend was my boyfriend. He also said he can’t really say he likes me yet just because we don’t know each other fully and that it’s easier to say he likes me a lot physically. So his feelings might not be totally “innocent” but I knew they were there. Now we just have to get to know each other more so we’ll start liking each other more profoundly.

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay. It sounds like you had an important and meaningful conversation. And the signs that I'm seeing here are good! Don't despair.

[Asker]

Thank you! I just don’t know what to think about him only fully admitting to liking me physically. Does he want us to get to know each other or does he want to leave it at that and/or start a friends with benefits relationship? Either way I’m ok with it but I wanna clear things up without it being too much, do you have any ideas?

[Jamie05rhs]

Are you words you told me that he said... actual quotes? Or were you paraphrasing?

[Asker]

They were actually what he said. He told me that saying he likes me is too much for now, since he and I don’t know each other fully, and he said that he finds me very pretty physically. When I asked if he likes me physically then, he said yes.

[Jamie05rhs]

"He also said he can’t really say he likes me yet just because we don’t know each other fully and that it’s easier to say he likes me a lot physically."

"He told me that saying he likes me is too much for now, since he and I don’t know each other fully, and he said that he finds me very pretty physically. When I asked if he likes me physically then, he said yes."

Those two statements are not the same. Therefore one of them is not a quote.

[Jamie05rhs]

I'm not trying to give you a hard time here. It's just that it's vitally important to know exactly what he said in order to interpret the true meaning.

[Asker]

The first is more or less (in some degree) how i interpreted it, the second is exactly what he said.

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay. So here's what I think: I think he's being 100% honest with you. I think you should take him at his word. Give him a chance to get to know you better. But don't let him have your body yet. Let him fall in love with who you are as an entire person.

[ZS007]

was he making out with someone else before he made out with you?
Wait for him to send something, If he doesn't you could either send something or not do anything at all. He is either a playboy or interested I don't think you should chase him right away.

[Asker]

yes, he made out with his friend before me😩

[Hangry06]

Both probably. But it's the clubbing mostly

[spartan55]

Maybe he thinks you aren't into him? You could send him a message too. I don't see how his friends following you on social media is 'something' at all, but whatever.

[Asker]

ok sassy, thanks for your opinion?

[spartan55]

Look, the questions you are asking could be asked by him as well. He is just as unsure as you are. There is no harm in sending a short message letting him know you had fun blah blah blah... if he doesn't respond then you know it was just a club grab. If he does respond GREAT, then move it forward. Take some ownership and don't put it all on him.

[Asker]

it’s too late to say that by now though :( you’re right though, I’m gonna do something about it, that’s for sure

[spartan55]

Why is it too late? What is your plan?

[Vikkrram]

Maybe he was still sleeping or he is buisy in some urgent works maybe he is waiting for ur mesaage... If u wanna go just send him hi... how u doin? Let's see when and what he replies?

[cookiecrusher]

So he made out with somebody else and then you?

And your first thought is that he might want to be serious with you, while drunk at a club.
Can't make this shit up people 😅

Sounds like a typical player. Pick better men 😗

[Gwenhwyfar]

That’s a tough one. Try texting him just say hi I had a good time last night and see how he reacts.

[Iron_Man]

Only time will tell wait it out
if nothing then move on not a big deal If it’s not meant to be it’s not meant to be

[DWornock]

If you have to ask, obviously, he is not into you. You never have any doubt about guys you are not attracted to.

[LegendaryIcon]

What causes you to be "turned on and off to him"

Why not just stay on? I don't get it

[noohair]

Some people don't remember what they did while drinking.

[JCrockett]

He certainly seems into you.

[emperor90]

I think it was the heat of the moment

[PeterSmith1983]

He is really in to you