The guy I've been seeing for almost 3 months and made things official with hasn't texted me in 4 days. Should I move on and talk to other people?

[Anonymous]

We made things official a couple weeks ago and it's been four days since he texted me last. He still seemed interested and asked me questions about my life in the last text he sent and during our last date he told me before how much he likes me and we had a really fun time but now it's been four days since my last conversation with him and I'm confused and don't know what to do.

[MrOracle]

No, you should act like an adult and call him. Maybe he's sick. Maybe something happened. Quit thinking of yourself first and think about the whole situation. What exactly do you think a commitment even is?

If you have a problem with your relationship, you talk it out. That's what it means to be in a committed relationship. And if you discover that there is a deal-breaker, then you break up, face to face.

How it's supposed to work is that you vet each other BEFORE you decide to commit to each other, and the things you vet are the things that will matter the most in a relationship - your morals, values, and life goals. No matter how attractive you think he is, if those things aren't compatible - and if you don't verify that before you commit - then your relationship will be doomed from the start.

[Asker]

Thanks for your advice, I'll contact him again and see if he's alright.

[boggboss]

And when did u last message him?

[Asker]

Four days ago

[boggboss]

So u both haven't messaged eachother so if he moved on u would say that's fine

[sheikalana]

Have you called or tried to contact him?

[Asker]

No, but I will since you mentioned it. I just didn't want to come off as crazy.