Is it normal that I’m kind of pushing away (through text) because I feel like he doesn’t miss me the same way that I do?

[pink_and_inlove]

I also feel like I’m annoying him because of how he told me good night and he just stayed awake watching the movie and posting which he didn’t do before. And I guess because I feel sad that he doesn’t seem to miss me the way that I miss him and because I feel like I’m annoying him I’m taking maybe a few hours to respond instead of one even though I miss him. I think I do feel that I love him more too I guess.

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I don’t understand why it’s always at night that I feel the worst where I feel so sad and alone or just sad

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

You are entitled to feel the way you do, I believe guys are simply bad texters
Hey I almost had a girlfriend, we told each other we loved one another over
text message but she lives in the State of Cali and I live in Pennsylvania she
was age 24 and I'm age 53, Yes I blame myself and I feel bad I hurt her
but how in hell would she be able to come to me and I sure can't go to her
cause the cost of traveling and I never traveled in my life and I have mental
health disabilities, She also had a 2-year-old son with heart problems and
I know what you are going through it's a rough road and you want him to
open more communication with you and yes text messaging more
would be great I would tell him

[pink_and_inlove]

It’s not texting that is the problem I guess it’s just that I miss him and I feel like he doesn’t feel the same

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@pink_and_inlove That is what I worried about with this girl, could we start having more feelings for each other and she living clear on the West Coast

[nachosaresexy]

Try to give the relationship room to breathe.

A dude saying goodnight and then ending the day watching a movie is about as far from a *warning* sign as it gets.

If you're feeling anxiety or sadness or whatever during those types of situation, there might be a bigger underlying issue. Not trying to be overly critical, I just think you need to take a step back and take a few deep breaths, literally & figuratively.

[pink_and_inlove]

Yeah I’m trying to give myself space and watch kdramas that I really like but sometimes it doesn’t make me feel better since I do get sad and alone

[pink_and_inlove]

It’s just different because he has never done that before. I started distancing myself a bit more through text after I asked him if he ever missed me and he responded with not that much and then took it back. That made me feel sad that night. Now I just feel like I’m annoying since the movie incident

[Iron_Man]

Talk to him about it talking is key. But you guys seem to be doing pretty well and have been together for quite a while

[pink_and_inlove]

Yeah we are doing well. It’s going to be 2 years soon

[Iron_Man]

That’s awesome congratulations 😊

[pink_and_inlove]

Thank u

[Iron_Man]

You are so welcome

[jasco]

I think you need to get boyfriend who lives with you instead of distance. That would solve this night problem of yours

[pink_and_inlove]

He only lives 5-10 minutes away lol

[pink_and_inlove]

Since the beginning it was always me asking when we should get to see each other again and when i asked him why it was only me asking to hang out he said that that’s just his personality

[jasco]

than go stay with him, theirfore you can be with him all the time instead of feeling so sad that he's no longer paying you any attention

[jasco]

oh mm no most guys usually do the asking, their are some who are like what you said but its not the case most of the time

[pink_and_inlove]

But now it’s different because he works and I could only see him twice a week. I feel like I’m the only time having a hard time with this he was fine with just once a week of seeing me

[jasco]

who knows

[Jamie05rhs]

Uh, oh. Don't do that, hon. That's not going to help anything. It can only end badly.

[pink_and_inlove]

He works now so i figured that he’s busy and shouldn’t bother him as much. I text him sometimes 3 hours later, 1 hour later, or sooner sometimes but I’m just trying to give him space

[Jamie05rhs]

@pink_and_inlove No, you're not trying to give him space. You shouldn't lie to us and you shouldn't lie to yourself. You're acting out in anger and retribution for the way that you have perceived that he treated you. You're playing games. It's passive-aggressive behavior. It's not mature.

[pink_and_inlove]

I haven’t been angry just sad. Since he worked i felt like i should give him space

[pink_and_inlove]

I just know that I’m too attached to him and that that is what is leading to my sadness so I’m trying to give myself some space and him too. But I still text normally most of the time I only take a few hours to respond sometimes

[Jamie05rhs]

You should only ever respond late accidentally. Don't ever respond late on purpose. It's just rude.

[pink_and_inlove]

I don’t do it as much anymore. I just needed space

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay. That's good.

[BeachLuvR97]

So why are you telling us strangers and not talking to him?

[pink_and_inlove]

But how? And seem needy? Guys don’t like needy. I’ve just asked him before if he ever missed me and he said not that much then he pretended that he didn’t say that that made me really sad

[Hotboy_booblover]

Just give him some space or u will lose ur value..
Refrain texting for some time.. I know it's difficult but u will see him chasing u soon

[pink_and_inlove]

I already do that but not because I want him to chase me but because i feel a bit sad

[Hotboy_booblover]

Stop feeling sad.. u r going in wrong direction

[pink_and_inlove]

I also feel like I’m bothering him so I’m trying to give him space

[Hotboy_booblover]

Yes.. I m sure he will appreciate that.. but let him know u r doing it on purpose as u respect his space

[jimmy2]

Well that is what you two meed to work out your quirks

[pink_and_inlove]

What do you mean? I also don’t want to be needy

[pink_and_inlove]

But I often do feel sad and alone at night it’s when it really hits me

[jimmy2]

I understand what i mean both of you have little things like fart, bite nails, and such to day to each other i font like this and both will change somewhat for each other

[pink_and_inlove]

What? Lol

[jimmy2]

Lol each person becomes of personality little things , qurks, habits that have to be smooth over so that 2 people will love blindly

[Rob17792]

you don't know what you want

[pink_and_inlove]

No I do know. I want to live with him

[Gwenhwyfar]

That’s normal