If that's all you've ever experienced and you've never tried it how do you know?But he who dares not grasp the thornShould never crave the rose.In some persuits rich are those who dared
That's my point.I have tried many, many times.And I guess it's just need to quit while I'm behind.
I don't mean this in a rude way but maybe your selection and filteration criteria was wrong?
Yeah, I've wondered that.Also I kinda feel "warped" (for lack of a better term) cuz I've never known for myself what a functional nontoxic relationship is supposed to look/feel like.So yeah, I realize I've got plenty of self-reflection and inner work cut out for me to unlearn and retrain, a most daunting task indeed.
Is it because you've never experienced a non toxic healthy friendship too?"A person who thinks all the timeHas nothing to think about except thoughtsSo, he loses touch with realityAnd lives in a world of illusionsBy thoughts I mean specifically, chatter in the skullPerpetual and compulsive repetition of wordsOf reckoning and calculatingI'm not saying that thinking is badLike everything else, It's useful in moderationA good servant, but a bad masterAnd all so called civilized peoplesHave increasingly become crazy and self destructiveBecause, through excessive thinkingThe have lost touch with realityThat's to sayWe confuse signsWith the real worldThis is the beginning of meditationMost of us would haveRather money than tangible wealthAnd a great occasion is somehow spoiled for us unless photographedAnd to read about it the next day in the newspaperIs oddly more fun for us than the original event...This is a disasterFor as a result of confusing the real world of nature with mere signsWe are destroying natureWe are so tied up in our minds that we've lost our senses Time to wake upWhat is reality?Obviously no one can sayBecause it isn't wordsIt isn't material, that's just an ideaReality isThe point cannot be explained in wordsI'm not trying to put you downIt's an expression of you as you areOne must liveWe need to survive, to go onWe must go on"
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But isn’t being a woman always gonna make you mentally unstable?
LOL I’d like to think that’s not the case
*like to think * Wishful thinking never got anyone anywhere. You decide who you are and you choose to be… “mentally unstable”. Your not mentally unstable. A crazy person cannot see their psychosis they think their sane and the rest of the world is insane. You know what your are. You recognize your faults. Your just too lazy to do anything about it. It’s like me deciding to do the dishes and keep them clean from now on. I’ll do a round of dishes when I wanna fix it but everyone knows in a few days the damn dishes will be stacked up again. You’ll work on it but everyone knows in a few days, weeks, months you’ll be back to being unstable… sorry let’s call it what it is. You’ll be back to being a selfish bitch whom don’t care about the people that SHOULD matter and is too narcissistic to think she should improve for herself and others.If I’m wrong I apologize but the fact is that’s most God damn people these days.
Yeah, you’re incredibly wrong so apology accepted. You can be mentally unstable and be aware of it. And just because you’re aware of it, doesn’t mean you can automatically “fix” yourself. It’s a process which I’m in but being in recovery/learning management of it doesn’t automatically make you not mentally unstable anymore.
I can’t even imagine being insane… I’m too damn busy trying to show the world how insane it is.
And there lies your mistake. Stop wasting your time telling “insane” your rude and frankly, uneducated opinions
I think you missed the point of my comment“A crazy person cannot see their psychosis they think their sane and the rest of the world is insane.”“I can’t even imagine being insane… I’m too damn busy trying to show the world how insane it is.”
Stop wasting your time telling “insane” PEOPLE* is what I meantOk so you’re implying that you yourself is mentally unstable / “insane” ? 🤨 But if you’re implying it (which suggests you have awareness of it) it means you’re not actually “insane” according to your opinions so what is your logic here
Not necessarily. Just because a crazy person would see themselves as sane and the rest of the world as insane does not necessarily mean that everyone that thinks that the world is insane is also insane.
OkayI don’t get how it all stemmed off from being a woman makes you “insane” though, unless that was a joke
Was it a joke yes is it a joke no… women are actually insane we set beside a man lol.
Be my girlfriend hun i won't control you i don't mind if you have sex with other guys even im actually fine if you do just have fun with them but lets build love with each other while you do
She’s a whole 15 year old. Also build love while she’s having sex with other guys for fun? 🤨
this guys is fucking weird, i blocked him as well.
Nah! Not girls on tik tok do such kind of stuff. But I understand we all have are reasons.
No one said all.. but go look at Tiktok, tell me the extremely high percentage of function humanity?
In my country India, tik tok is banned 😂
Oh nice! I always wanted to sleep with couple Indian curved fit girls.
You believe in marriage?
Just asking out of curiosity
@Asker And unrelated to you too Asker, but like some other user female said, I as a nerdy man for example also, I like the rare kind of nerdy girls 🤓🤓 like they're not oblivious type of nerds nor gothic either... they're just shy but still very with the times 😈😈😋 they're a rare breed. God love 'em 🤪😜
Yeah they say men are intimidated by that
@Grubhub only the men who are themselves not hot, intelligent or successful are intimidated by it (which, unfortunately, is a lot).
@NicoletteXO exactly it’s a lot of them so then it’s challenging. Like I really gotta be careful the circles I surround myself
@Grubhub it can also be “intimidating”/off-putting if the hot, intelligent, successful person (female or male) is full of themselves and constantly bragging about how amazing they are. (Not that anonymous here is doing that, but it is a thing)
@zeitgeist057 If they are, that would be a matter of low EQ, and yes, obviously offputting. However, I have found in general that men often get very uncomfortable if there is any suggestion whatsoever that the woman may be more intelligent or successful than them in any field. Even if they ask you direct questions, and you are simply respond to the questions, they often feel this is 'showing off'. As a result, I often keep my qualifications, knowledge and successes to myself around men because they actually can't handle it. I'll be honest, it's a social strategy - because in general, the dumber they think I am, the more amazing they think I am. I'm not even kidding. It's actually kind of heartbreaking. The thing is, I have met a small number of next-level, genuine "polymath genius" men in my life (I was engaged to one for 8 years). These men are exceptions to the rule above, because they are not threatened by my success or my mind. That said, I've encountered less than ten of these exceptional men, ever. It is the most ecstatic relief - since I don't have to pretend to be less than I am.
@NicoletteXO that was both a sad post in that the vast majority of men are so disappointing, but also heartening in that you've met what I would consider a fair number of "geniuses" :) . So I'm both sad and happy for you; I guess that's life, though, with its ups and downs. I wish you lots of luck in the future, finding people (male and female both, so you have a community) that you can be yourself around.
@zeitgeist057 Thank you, that's really sweet. I'll take that :)
@NicoletteXO it's the best we can ask for from those around us, that last part you said about "not pretending to be less than I am". It's my belief that one of the most important things in a partner, a friend, a parent, or pretty much anyone I'm going to let into my "personal kingdom", is that they are not just accepting of who you are and your potential, but that they LOVE who you are and ENCOURAGE you to be "more like yourself". Conversely, that's also what I do my best to offer all the wonderful people in my life that I love and cherish. I just want them to know I'm rooting for them and I'm their fan in life.
@zeitgeist057 Well, that is a beautiful orientation. I fully agree with you - the desire to support growth in the other is the essence of a worthwhile connection. I can't wait to feel that kind of support again in my romantic life - and to be able to give it in return.
@NicoletteXO Nicolette don’t hide your intelligence but also don’t form a whole identity around the fact you’re smart because you’re more than that. I get you, I’ve been on that boat too where i’m being less smart but my heart my soul gets depressed because your body don’t appreciate or like you doing that. After a while you feel like you’re not being your true self (not a smart, fact checker and A star student, your whole self haha) and now I’m like forget it I will shine I will be me if you’re intimidated at least you may be inspired but I’m not going to shrink because that’s not attractive either. And I think the man God has for me is a man that will see me shining and he’ll be in love because he’ll be supporting the higher me.I hope this helps because reading what you said makes me sad, and I’ve been there and I still fight it sometimes but after fighting for so long i start seeing things differently
This sounds like a mature approach, I hope you meet someone who has also taken the time
@zeitgeist057 Thanks, I hope so too :)
Good for you having healthy boundaries! What are some of the things you look for to define a heathy relationship?
Not one side giving too much (love, time, loyalty, etc) and the other just receiving or even demanding. Equal give and take then be appreciative of each other. I guess, emotional maturity matters
Thanks for the great answer, balance is so important for individuals and couples. :) I agree that sounds healthy, but I also observe there is usually an imbalance. Like there has to be a dance, constantly keeping things from falling out of balance.
Yes, I agree. Imho, it’s better for us to find a partner who has emotional maturity. If he/she can recognise, process and express emotions in healthy way, keeping the balance should be easy
I agree freedom is wonderful. It's also why I never had children.
What are you interested in, and how do you express your relationship goals when meeting someone new?
@frank_woods OP bro 😎
I was just about to comment this exact same thing word for word because that’s exactly what I’ve been going through how weird
What is the "rare kind"? Are they all the same, or all different?
Alpha men are rare.
And unrelated to you user, I like the rare kind of nerdy girls 🤓🤓 like they're not oblivious type of nerds nor gothic either... they're just shy but still very with the times 😈😈😋 they're a rare breed. God love 'em 🤪😜
Good for you.
Thank you genuinely lady, Babygirl_S 💕💕💕
Nerdy women in their 20s are the yin-yang or the peace symbol of joy to me ☮️☮️😈😈 with a little devilish 🤓🤓😋😋
You should try approach them 🙂
Maybe you should follow me then, similar problems 🙈😇
So what do you think, why you're getting rejected?
wasn't what they were looking for, already in relationships, ugly, take your pick. I've shown my picture to some ladies on different forums and they said i was cute, so i don't know.
Some girls do! I'm sorry though, I do know there is truth to what you say, but I hope you can generate some confidence anyway, as that should help you.
I’ve already given up. I can’t make myself taller.
Sure, but you can make yourself more confident, happy, kind, funny, rich, knowledgable, skilled, etc. Why focus on what you can't do, when there are so many things that you CAN?
I’ve done all of this. I make very good money, have lots of friends, a house and good family, have traveled the world and have many hobbies. None of this matters if you don’t make the physical requirements set by girls.
Yes it is scary 😅
Yep, already got hurt the last, not give another chance for that to happen