Your thoughts about Stonewalling?

[kclark30]

When my husband doesn’t get his way, he stonewalls me. It happens often and it’s so hurtful. I have talked to him about my feelings and he doesn’t listen. We have gone to marriage counseling and it doesn’t work because he isn’t willing to change. The relationship we have together really sucks.

The stonewalling usually stops when he needs something and I say yes. I can’t give in to him anymore. I feel as though I should stonewall him back and focus on myself and my life. What should I do?

[lilyanony1]

Have you been to talk to your therapist on your own about this?
Its all well and good people saying leave but it's probably not as straightforward as just walking away.
Im not a therapist and I fear sometimes that the blanket advice we give here isn't really a solution to your specific needs and without the real knowledge the impact it could have on your mental and just overall well being.

I know you're using us as a sounding board but I'm going to pose the question back to you.
What do you think you should do in this situation?

Now you've thought about it I will suggest seeing that therapist again before you do anything else.

I really hope this helps you come to the right decision for you.

[Slithers]

You should make plans to leave immediately. You tried couple's counseling and trust me that's the end of the road. There's nothing further to be done here. If he's not willing to communicate even with the help of a professional he's already checked out.

Your life is finite. If you waste it with someone who doesn't love you, you will have nothing but regrets.

[DaveJord]

Not good, sound like you both aren't taking care of each others emotional needs.

I can't really give any good advice... I did marriage counseling and all that. But divorce solved my problems.