Guys, If your girlfriend or fiancé offered to pay part of your rent or mortgage, would you let her?

[Cheechee4me]

Yes

No

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+1 y

This is in the scenario that you both have your own place.

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+1 y

Alright thank you gentlemen. This makes me question why some men get so upset when women accept handouts from them. It appears you’re just as likely, if not more likely to accept money than women are. Very interesting. Thank you!

[Shizunk]

You mean if we live together? Lol I thought that is the default situation. Until a child is born, the girl is expected to contribute. I never asked for half, but a significant part, definitely.
Only very recently did I start being open to the idea of her not paying, but friends suggested that is crazy, even that it sounds desperate, letting her use me.
I am genuinely confused by the number of men who complain how unfair it is for them to pay for dates, but then almost half wants to avoid splitting rent? Are houses cheap where you live or something? I don't understand why anyone would accept such financial burden, unless we they 100% want a stay at home wife. But that doesn't seem to be that common. This is really odd to me.

[Drumlin2001]

I'd be wary as it may give them a legal claim against house of we split. I'd rather they paid utilities/council tax/shopping etc

[AviatorTom]

Unless their name is on the rental agreement, mortgage or deed, they have no legal claim to the place. You're concerned about something that has no legal basis.

[TruthBringer]

I would appreciate the generosity (as long as she genuinely wants to help). However, I would let her invest that money into something else that would benefit us as I have no issues financially as well as it being my own place. A woman loves a man who can still provide for the both without needing her to chime in.

Besides, there are women who would use that as an excuse to try and gain authority, despite them not wanting it deep inside. And as the man of the house who has the last say, I will never allow that.

[TheSpaceGnome]

If we are living together, she would need to pay her half of the rent, utilities, etc. I opt for roommate rules when it comes to relationships in rental places, I'm a "duel income couple" type of person.

I wouldn't want to split the cost of a house though, because thats my property, and I don't do mortgages.

I'd rather we have 2 houses, One I buy outright, and one she pays for however she likes, and so long as we are together, we can live in either house together, but this way if it doesn't work out, no one loses anything they put time and money into, and we both still have a home.

[MTC29]

Rent... fine.

Mortgage... hell no. That could be used in court to show that she owns a portion of the house. I have a friend who found that out when he caught his girlfriend cheating on him and then dumped her ass. She got a shark lawyer, took him to court, and he got the surprise of his life.

Guys, if you take money to pay the mortgage, give her a receipt clearly marked as payment for RENT. Then declare that rental income on your taxes.

[BCA6010]

She'd have to also let me pay her back when possible. I HATE feeling like I owe people something and they refuse.

If we were already living together then I can't imagine we weren't already splitting bills...

[Esten]

I expect that my partner would pay half of (or the amount that is ok for the pay she gets) the rent if we were living together. Mortgage only if we were married. But no, if we do not live together, that is kinda dumb.

[AviatorTom]

Why wouldn't I? I'm assuming we're living together, so we have a partnership... and partners share things, including expenses.

Now, if we're not living together and she's offering t help me out with my rent. I'd have to think about that.

[t-8900]

mostly no. but if you moved somewhere far away to be with her and needed a place and couldnt stay with her but moved for her then maybe she can cushion until you are on your feet but I mean preferably not.

[Browneye57]

Yes of course. You can get a place twice as nice that way. In some locales, it's the only way to afford a home. But more on the lines of 'wife', rather than girlfriend or fiancé. Those are not confirmed permanence yet.

[Browneye57]

On update...
Who's upset, exactly?

[Cheechee4me]

Oh several guys are. Trust me. They don’t even want to pay bare minimum child support to their own kids.

[Browneye57]

You have children from several guys?
Then that's on YOU then. You chose them, you fucked them.

[Iknowbestgirls]

@Cheechee4me offered? It's expected! I'm not going to pay for everything myself. All relationships are supposed to be equal partnerships. It's expected that she should pay half!

[Cheechee4me]

So you have your own house or apartment and she has her own. You think you’re entitled to her paying for part of housing expense. Okay well thank you for your feedback.

[Iknowbestgirls]

@Cheechee4me you didn't say that we have our own places. A girlfriend is very different than a Fiancé if it's just a girlfriend and you aren't living together then no she isn't obligated to pay for any of your life expenses.

Now if she is a Fiancé and you are getting married and are moving in with each other and living together then obviously she should pay half if you are going to be living together.

[Cheechee4me]

The fact that you’re getting all upset over this tells me what I needed to know. That actually doesn’t really seem like equality to me. But that’s the way people think anymore.

[Iknowbestgirls]

@Cheechee4me I'm not upset about it at all. You updated the question after I made my first initial comment. How was I supposed to know the scenario is that they were living separately?

[Cheechee4me]

Sorry too late. This discussion is over. Why would you just assume? Right….. If you don’t agree with your original assessment, I’d encourage you to think about what you’re saying and who you’re siding with.

[Iknowbestgirls]

You literally updated it minutes after I made my first comment when you didn't give any details. So how can I not assume when you say Fiancé why would you not assume they would be living together and splitting rent.

[Cheechee4me]

No again you assumed what you assumed. The. You three the word equality around like a loser. Most people understood. What’s your excuse?

[Cheechee4me]

Yikes what’s wrong with my auto text today? Threw not three the word equality.

[Iknowbestgirls]

Uhhh the fact that you used Fiancé which automatically means that they will be living together which means they will split the rent that's all I'm saying. You never said they were living separately until after I made my opinion. Well if I'm a loser that makes you a bitch because you clearly don't understand what I'm saying making your own assumptions somewhat your excuse?

[andreasderjuengere]

She can contribute whatever she wishes to. However, I'd just return the money ''I'' save into something else that benefits us together.

[hahahmm]

No. But one time with a live in girlfriend she loaned me 1 month and I paid her back the next.

[hahahmm]

Re update... "This makes me question why some men get so upset when women accept handouts from them. It appears you’re just as likely, if not more likely to accept money than women are." -- But not really. I've known lots of women in my life who shamelessly have guys paying almost all of their bills every month for years. Few guys do that kind of thing or even want to.

[CallmeTheKnight]

As long as they genuinely don't mind, but if I know they have goals they want to achieve financially or physically, I wouldn't let them.

[tytyN503]

That's hard depending on the situation , and if what your intentions are. Are you going threw a hard time and she wants to help let her she wants to but try and pay it back in other ways with a little extra

[lucas262]

Even if I own the place which I most certainly would if she's living with me. She still paying rent of some kind.

[jasco]

I mean she's gonna have to pay something, she's marrying me, we doing this together

[Ironic_Method]

If they volunteered, absolutely. But it certainly wouldn't be the expectation.

[Equi2ube]

Honey, my girlfriend is gonna pay ALL my rent. That's half what their for anyway

[Better_off_here]

as long as the woman did not expect anything i return at all and wanted to truly help me out.

[Cheechee4me]

Okay so you’re a fair weathered person. I see. There are lots of you anymore.

[Freespirit777]

Housing is so high that it takes two to pay for it considering all the other bills to live.

[Reijen]

If they were living with me, you bet they're paying for part of it.

[msc545]

Absolutely not - she will wind up owning your house.

[EaterPeter]

I had in past women are happier in general if they don't have to pay for stuff.

[David_Bayer]

Even my parents say that I've always liked the coin.

[David_Bayer]

Vždycky si byl na korunu > You've always been attracted to a crown (Czech Crown).

[Anonymous]

no i don't want any money from them never have never will

[Anonymous]

But I'm not returning it back. So don't expect it. If you still want to help I welcome it

[Cheechee4me]

Okay so you’re a fair weathered person. I see. There are lots of you anymore.

[spartan55]

You mean if we were living together?

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, if she could afford to do so

[ImRetarded]

No, she can once we are married.

[Jamie05rhs]

She doesn't live with me. That's not her problem.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the specific circumstances.