Guys if you are on a first date and you are paying would you also pay for food she ordered to take home to her kids?

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For the guys who don't pay you don't need to comment that men shouldn't be paying. That is your choice. I am speaking to the traditional men out there who pay on first dates.

APrettyLittleLady87 · Accepted Answer

First date?

Only sort of guy who'll be buying for some unknown woman's kids on first date is someone looking to leave a great impression & hopefully get lucky with 1st date sex.

Get real. No other reason.

Most people when they're dating don't want to be saddled with someone else's kids - not their responsibility, finanical burden that isn't theirs, etc. - it's why single parents typically have it harder to find a decent / respectable long-term partner than most.

musicbrain5 · Accepted Answer

What? lol. Feeding her kids is her responsibility, not the guy she is just getting to know.

If the guy is actually offering to do this - well I guess that's his prerogative. He can do what he wants with his money. But if the woman is asking for it, LMAO. That's just acting entitled.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

I can afford to pay for the food she takes her children. The cost is not an issue.

If she is a self-reliant woman, she may feel that me offering to pay is an insult to her. If she is a woman who struggles financially, she may be grateful for me to make such an offer. But it might also create some ongoing expectations about taking care of her financally in the future.

Avicenna · Accepted Answer

Hell no. Imagine what other bills this gold digging single mom will try to stick you with it what money she’d borrow without repaying. And nothing screams simp more than you paying for someone else’s kids instead of having your own.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Not a first date, but any additional dates I would consider it. Small price to pay to let her know your not just in the relationship for her and you realize she has children.

Eventually, it would be nice to include the children on certain dates so they could get used to me being in the picture, however, that would be at her discretion.

UmbrusNightshade · Answer

If I know going in she has kids then I’d be willing/expecting to pay. The one partial exception is if she like a ton of kids and it’d be hella expensive. I’d offer to pay hers and put a set amount towards the kids but unless we were getting really serious I wouldn’t pay all in that case.

Unusualq26 · Answer

Depends, 1 finicial situation. If I want expecting that and wasn't prepared then no. Not compromising myself on a first date for your kids.

2 if she asked under any circumstances it's a no. That's just rude and I'll feel taken advantage of.

3 the only way is if I really wanted to impress her and we where somewhere nice. I may offer. Would look super sweet and I would seem like a baller

TrueConfection · Answer

Say what? 😂 My husband is a traditional man and always paid for our dates. I can imagine he'd have paid for food for a date's kids, but that's just being a doormat.

Iron_Man · Answer

I would find it kind of weird and and put on the spot but yeah, I will go ahead and do that. I don’t really like dating women with children because I don’t want to be held responsible I’d rather have my own personal children with a woman that doesn’t have kids

MenGuru · Answer

Men stop doing this Bs . just to get some cat. Then your make questions like this arrise bc people actually think we are supposed to do things like this for women. It's sickening.

nawtee_me · Answer

Before it comes to paying for her kids meals which I have no problem with. She should mention it before she orders the food for them so no one is caught off guard. If she mentions that she needs to bring home something for them to eat too than I am willing to offer to pay for it as well. If she catches me off guard and expects me to pay I will willingly but it will also be our last date.

horatiohornblower · Answer

Most circumstances would be a no. There could be an exception. If I was something like a friend of the family beforehand and already knew the kid well. But just some random first date where I didn't know the child, no.

AimeeKyle · Answer

Maybe. It depends on how the date went, do I feel she could use the help / is she strapped for cash, do I think she would be offended that I pay for her kids, etc.

RavVid · Answer

I would regard that as rude and exploitative. It would like her having invited her friends on the dinner date and them all expecting me to pay. I would ok with it if I had her taken to MacDonald's.

Phoenix98 · Answer

No because that's not my responsibility, I don't know those kids I have no connection nor relationship with them and no responsibility to them.

If we had been dating for a while then I'd pitch in and help with stuff like that now and again because at point what I stated above would not be the case anymore. But as far as a first date is concerned no I would not.

adventurous-1 · Answer

If I'm interested in her, then her kids are a part of the package, Its an all or nothing deal.

mobiusforniner · Answer

If i know she has kids, and im serious about leaving a good impression, yes ill get something for her kids. Maybe not food but a little thing to show her i will make a good dad.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I'd offer to pay for her kids dinner. I'm generous and caring like that

Miristheiss · Answer

No, but if she had kids I wouldn't be on a date with her to begin with.

Orion76 · Answer

I would offer first if I can take care of that as well, I’ll be worried I might offend her if I took the liberty and just did.

BJP21 · Answer

It would depend if I knew ahead of time if she had kids. Kids dont eat that much depending on the age. I really wouldn't mind.

slatyb · Answer

No, I wouldn't. That's not part of usual dating customs. Besides, if I'm on a dinner date, it will be too late for her children to eat when she gets home. Just asking would be a deal-breaker.

cth96190 · Answer

Hell no! The sister would be a Chad making a late-night booty call.

lottiebannotie · Answer

They shouldn't and I would neither ask or expect them to do so

LiamJHayden · Answer

No. Her children are her responsibility, not mine.

Anonymous · Answer

If I'm on a date then I'm a simp so of course I would be paying and I would also pay for food for her kids, uncle, aunt and Grandma. I'd adopt them too.

Surely · Answer

I would hope that if she was able to pay. She would at least offer to pay for the take home portion.  I would pay for it the first few times. But if the relationship wasn’t going anywhere. See Ya!

DrillBeats · Answer

First date? No. Dating in general, no. If we are in a relationship, yes.

admles · Answer

I saw the video where the woman tried to do that, hell no. This is a first date, I'm not paying for her kids, if she can't take care of her kids herself, what kind of mother is she?

Anonymous · Answer

It's already a red flag that she is a simgle mother. If she wants me to feed her family on a first date, I'll be escorting her to the exit and kicking the door closed behind her.

Eudemonia · Answer

Definitely should not even be discussed on the first date. Full stop. On the second date you should offer to pay for the child meal (s). If he doesn't object to that idea and pay... no third.

Anonymous · Answer

I’d ask her for a blowjob in the parking lot first lol fuck no I wouldn’t pay for her kids food, they have a father unless he’s dead.

Fryday_Knight · Answer

That is ridiculous. This is a date, the goal is to date, not to feed. I owe her kids nothing.

Sasha0426 · Answer

Why would guys do that on the first date?

michol1 · Answer

I wouldn’t have a second date with a woman who asks this of me.

Anonymous · Answer

No that seems completely unreasonable and surely sets the tone for future interaction.

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

Absolutely not

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Only once. She won't see me again.

Anonymous · Answer

No, but they can have my leftovers.😆😆😆

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Definitely not

exitseven · Answer

I would not mind.

Anonymous · Answer

If she has kids it is the last date.

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn’t allow it.

LemiaOfThunder · Answer

Yes i would

Tyrael · Answer

Fuck no.

Pete671 · Answer

Yes I would,

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