Not taking anyone in my life after divorce with my ex, for nearly 12 years make me stupid in ex's eyes?

[happywomanhappy]

He is my ex husband. we have twins at the age of 11. He had many girlfriends all these times. One who were from Brazil and online chatting with my ex only and living Brazil ( My ex and I live in Europe.) even wrote me by messenger and told " he doesn't like you anymore" .. I left him alone after her. But in 3 months he came and appologized me, he even gave her nude pictures to me.
After this event, i never had sx with him. He wanted but i didn't let him.
But i dont take anyone in my life. Because basicly i just dont want. I am very busy with my twins and taking care of them.
My ex sometimes says, date someone. I asked why he said this. He doesn't reply me.. When i been silent, she start to send me love songs.
He didn't get anyone in his life formerly and introduced to his family.

[SphynxUK]

He probably thinks you still want him back because you are still single 🙄
Keep doing what you’re doing. Enjoy your life with your children. Don’t let him in your life, but maybe you will let someone else in somewhere in the future.

[happywomanhappy]

I had bad childhood unfortunatelly. very bad memories... Thats why I have a scare about step dads issue. Not all stepdads are like my own step dad, but this been a tauma for me... Handling everything is not easy for sure. But because of that trauma, only man who enters my house is him, and i know it will be like this. He knows this very well. But when kids been 16 or something, maybe i can date someone. I don't know.

[SphynxUK]

Thanks for the insight.
I’m sorry to hear this. You are doing an amazing job on your own despite the situation.

[happywomanhappy]

thank you🙏🏻