Do you believe that some people are just meant to be single forever?

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

I believe that everyone is dealt a hand and that love just isn't in the cards for some people.

#single
#whatislove
#ShaTTeredQuestions

Yes

No

[t-8900]

I've got the ability to find a girl. Like I know there are girls interested in me. But long term is what I'm after. I feel like a lot of modern women, this whole society of hook ups, etc is taking it's toll on me. I'm gonna try my hand at the local churches tbh if the way life is going continues much longer. I need a girl who's chill and pretty much always been and not a party girl. I want us to share similar views on key issues but we don't need to in everything. I want her to believe in true monogamy and devotion and think about things carefully before making her decisions. I would never hole a girl to a higher standard than myself. I'm not a hypocrite like that. I'd ask the same of her in regards to myself. What I have learned is you don't compromise who you are or your values for someone else for the sake of not being alone. It's worst when you do that and becomes hard to live with yourself. Eventually you will despise yourself and what you've become! Don't do that!

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Well said.

[GingerGuy]

Not "meant to be", but I believe a lot of people never find "the one" for them. They say there's someone out there for everyone, which I believe to be true, but whether you ever met them and get together is the question? And maybe you met them but other things happen, such as they aren't available, etc.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Interesting

[Cherry234]

I think some people are because some people don't want to be in a relationship or don't want to put in the effort that a relationship requires. I think some people are also too picky which is why they stay single for a very long time. I can think of at least one person who's like this. I'm not saying those types of people will never be able to find a partner. It just takes them a lot longer because of their high expectations and standards.

[DizzyDesii]

Nope. I refuse. I believe there's someone for everyone 🙏 But if that person ever passes away then God has greater plans for you outside of a relationship. Other than that, nawl getcha relationship and getcha freak on

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Yeah I never really believed the whole "someone for everyone" thing.

[DizzyDesii]

I dont always believe in soulmates but i do beiieve its someone for everyone. But a lot of the someones may not be your type so i can see where it gets crossed

[MCheetah]

Yup. I'm one of them. I didn't have the benefit of being tall, or handsome, or any other good genetics out there. I also abhor ego and I don't want to act like a piece of crap just to get a woman. So my options for a kind-hearted heterosexual monogamous woman are non-existent.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Yeah I can relate.

[mk200195]

It’s simply a fact that some people are single. Whether that is a matter of fate or choice, I don’t know. I know how hard it is when you feel like you are supposed to be with someone, and you look and look, but you can’t find them. That hurts. I also know that not having a partner at one point in your life does not mean you will never have a partner. If you are getting discouraged, stop thinking about it for a while. Focus on the things that bring you joy. Be open and friendly to people you meet. Get really good at making friends. When you are ready to resume dating, consider what it would be like to date people you might not have been willing to date before. The more types of people you are open to, the more likely you will find someone.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Yeah, I believe so.
You don't have to be in a relationship to be happy or satisfied in life.

There's not a higher power that makes sure everyone becomes a couple.
We just live in a society where living as a couple is praised.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

That is true.

[kyleelyn199723]

Absolutely because some people don’t have the right attitude for relationships. That can come from many different things such as traumas/family traumas. People with negative opinions about relationships tend to not do well with them.

[Whislelowblow]

You pretty much said what I was going to say. And also the people that feel like they’re entitled to a relationship.

[Whislelowblow]

But I still believe some people can become aware of those things and turn it around.

[kyleelyn199723]

@Whistlelowblow absolutely! Some people aren’t self aware and can’t ever admit when they are wrong. They also think relationships require zero effort and zero character change. You have girls on only fans calling men incels for making it known that they aren’t attracted to girls that participate in those things and it’s like? If you like this man, why wouldn’t you do away with something like that for him?

[Whislelowblow]

I mean that’s unfortunate side effect of society. Music, tv and social media act like everyone is having sex if you’re not than there is something wrong with you. And it’s effective because once those men start believing the bs that they can’t get a date they’re are an incel girls only like chad they’re easier to exploit and easy for those women to only fans money. Or dating guru selling their 10k seminar and all they say is how women only like assholes when isn’t true at all. People not just women don’t like when someone is being nice to them to try and get something out them. Women like when the guy shows them genuine empathy and compassion for them.

[kyleelyn199723]

Agreed 100%. Also social media. Jesus Christ people don’t understand how insecure they make their partner feel with their social media accounts. My insta and Facebook are gone. It was crazy how 3-4 years ago I said I would never get rid of my social media for a better relationship, but my perspective changed because social media and relationships do not mix at all. You are literally allowing an entire population to keep track of your life and stay in your life. Relationships do not work like that.

[Whislelowblow]

Yeah, I stopped it because I hated seeing people get into relationship and have kids for self gratification. They just have kids just to take cute pictures. That’s not the kind of woman I want. I want someone who wants to start because she wants to something down the road. Not for selfish reasons like that. Social media can be very toxic. I was lucky to be born before the smart phone where you had to work on your personality to get people to like. Social media is good, but It can be very addictive and bad for your mental health.

[kyleelyn199723]

I just can’t stand the people that take cute couples pics and try to play off like their relationship is perfect meanwhile it’s filled with mental abuse , lies and even physical abuse. It’s to the point where couples are killing each other because they would rather paint a lie about their relationship than run the hell away from someone abusing them. Social media is all false reality. Its quite sad that people won’t give up false reality for a reality of someone that can give them kids, a good future, etc. but it all comes down to people thinking there’s “no way they can change anything about themselves for someone else” if you can’t grow, neither can a relationship 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Whislelowblow]

I couldn’t agree more. But I understand that a lot of women sucked up into that kind of stuff. So I try to spread some of my wisdom to let them now they’re not bad for feeling the way they do. Like when a woman calls herself a “slut” it really breaks my heart because she's doesn’t feel comfortable with sexuality. I hate that word and I thinks wrong to put labels on yourself like that because when you do, you’ve lost. The only time I use that word is in a sexual way to talk dirty and if it turns her on. I don’t like that a lot of women think of themselves like that. They’ve deal with a lot of abuse from men through out history and I think they’re very strong for surviving all that abuse. I like them to feel happy to express their sexuality. In the past women didn’t have much of a choice but to deal with the abuse because being pregnant for nines months left them unable to protect themselves. I always feel the need to let a woman know how wonderful she is.

[kyleelyn199723]

@Whistlelowblow I agree but I think it’s also mens nature to want a woman that doesn’t have a promiscuous background. I think it’s ridiculous to slut shame, but I think both genders have faults that keep them from carrying any kind of romantic relationship. Posting booty pics and attention seeking pics while having is man is awful and is slutty. You shouldn’t carry yourself like your man doesn’t give you that kind of attention.

[Whislelowblow]

Yes but I under they’re doing it because of the insecurities from the pressure put on them by society. Like I remember an article where a girl removed her ribs for tik tok followers I think. I don't know if it was fake, but stuff like that really gets to me because women are so much more than just a thing that gets men’s dick hard. I really hate women a woman thinks she’s only good for sex and reproduction. And she has to be a super model. It always breaks my heart when women think of themselves like that.

[Whislelowblow]

I don't know of that story was real though. It might’ve been fake but I wouldn’t be surprised if it was real.

[kyleelyn199723]

You can thank the Kardashians for that. They started that trend. If you look at their photos, they STILL have tons of filters on them even after all the plastic surgery. It’s very sad.

[kyleelyn199723]

But you are right! There’s a girl in my town that is Instagram famous literally only because of her big ass that she paid for. She then followed it by getting a nose job. It’s a very vain concept and it goes away when you are old.

[Whislelowblow]

Yes, it’s truly awful. And the powers that be are not going to playing women and men’s insecurities because it gets them money. Same thing with the incel. If look at the YouTube videos with incel it’s always the same thing, I’m not tall enough, I’m not good looking enough, I don’t have enough money. When in reality if just get a job workout a little bit they can get one easily. Most of the people that make those videos the main stream incels probably have had girls and are just pretending to be an incel to get money off of those men’s insecurities. Men have that same insecurity, but it’s mostly about being successful not really the body image thing that women have. A lot of the alt right guys that make videos don’t even believe in the stuff they’re saying they’re just people that’ll do anything to get money.

[TheCloud2]

@kyleelyn199723 What about people with micro penis, are they meant to be single?

[kyleelyn199723]

@TheCloud2 sounds like a personal problem 🤷🏻‍♀️

[TheCloud2]

@kyleelyn199723 No not me, I mean in general
Would you date someone with this size?

[kyleelyn199723]

@TheCloud2 depends on our sex. Anyone can make sex great.

[TheCloud2]

@kyleelyn199723 I like your opinion !

[KieranByrne]

This all depends on the effort, time, or willingness put into a 'Relationship'

I am 'Selfish' is a way of putting it, I cannot travel to find anyone! I am willing to put 100% effort, yet I have to find the person attractive, and she must have a personality!

Having someone come to the front door is using my imagination, I certainly do not want to meet anyone who goes out drinking, and smoking is a no!

So I sit at home, we are responsible adults!

[Still-alive]

i mean if they are truly reprehensible people with abhorrent views it would make it difficult for me to see how they could get with anyone. like say racists or bigots.

Then again it can still even happen for those people

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Oh definitely.

[Shark_61695]

I was dealt a 2-7 mixed hand, not much chance for anything but a fold.

It's not just single forever, alone as well.

Being optimistic (life is shit... but it might get better), I might get a pair on the river.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Lol you're the only one that answered using the cards reference.

[MrPlentiful]

Everyones life is shit. Thats the trick of "success".

[Assi2k]

Yeah nothing wrong with that. As long as you have family and friends which love you, a relationship isn’t a must. But then again a relationship isn’t just for romance. There are other benefits to marriage than just love.

[RobT312]

No. I think there are people that are single due to behavior or bad luck/bad timing, but I don’t think people are meant to be alone.

[NathanDavis]

no... if I believed anything like this, I would be locked within cushioned walls

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

[NathanDavis]

😸😹😺😻😼😽😾😿🙀🐱

[sufys12]

Yes asexual people exist.
Also some are unattractive to the point where nobody wants to be with them.

[Dchrls78104]

I'm beginning to think that I am. I consider myself unfortunate with women.

[JohnE_69]

Same here ShaTTered, being 63 years old now, I think the boat has sailed.

[noohair]

No, but love is like friendship. Sometimes it fades away.

[LiLaLydia]

No everyone can find the right person if they want to. Of course is someone prefers to stay alone that's a different story

[SalvatoreCordileone]

I choose to be single, just dont have a interest to be with someone right now.

Maybe down the road things might change, but right now I'm content with being single

[Anonymous]

Yes because nature or the world cruelly sometimes requires more of certain men to work more on themselves to make them desirable to the opposite sex and it's too overwhelming for them

[Ekke118]

Yes, but only very few people.

[TheCloud2]

I think I meant to be single forever, and that's not just a thought, there is a reason for that if you want to know it

[douride2]

I believe some like myself are meant to be single.

[TheCloud2]

@douride2 Why are you meant to be single? You don't look good or something?

[douride2]

@TheCloud2 At 44 it is just the way life played out. As for looks I'm like most just average. Nothing special.

[TheCloud2]

@douride2 Well, for me, the problem is that I have a very small penis😥