My husband has not spoken to me for 3 days! It’s so frustrating. I can’t deal with it anymore. Please tell me what to do?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

LMAO I love know everyone is a professional at what is going on and what she should do. She never even told us why he isn't speaking. She told us NOTHING! Most of you gave advice on how to get revenge... I have my opinion of what you should have done but it won't help with this problem now. I don't have many good examples of good marriages around me but I do know they work due to habits. When you are both naturally the type of people that don't ruin relationships. If he isn't talking to you then that reveals something about his habitual thinking and that thinking is not good for your marriage. Want marriage to last? Be the type of people that don't ruin your marriage. You have to brainstorm how all the characteristics and habits that that person has and then practice those. Practice hold handing situations a certain way so it becomes habit. Can't go into marriage blindly with no vision. Same with life. As for your issue no one on here can help you. We don't even know what is going on.

spuitkaas · Accepted Answer

I had an ex like that. It destroyed me. I developed anxiety and got panic attacks. Had to go into trauma therapy because I was walking on eggshells for too long afraid of making him mad at me and ignoring me.
I would say, once he stops ignoring, talk to him and get into couple's therapy. He is either doing this to punish you or he can't deal with his own feelings and therefore can't communicate them to you. First one is very toxic and he might has to figure out why he wants to punish you so badly, other one is more for him to get through trauma he probably has and learning how to communicate emotions. This is for the therapist to find out though.
Don't sleep on this behaviour though! It can destroy you. If he doesn't want to collaborate on solving this issue like going to therapy, consider leaving him. You can't live like this and deserve better.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Guys don't tend to mind when they get the cold shoulder. Women tend to.
For some reason he was teasing you or being passive aggressive. And you lost it. Sounds like this has been coming for some time.
If you really can't stand it, you'll need to reach out the olive branch. Even though it sounds like you gave as good as you got.

all_hayl · Accepted Answer

You could always, you know, talk to him and ask him what’s up. If he flat out won’t talk then he’s being a man-child and maybe you could stay with friends for a couple days while he grows up a bit. If it continues then perhaps counseling is in order (though it sounds like it already is in order).

AmandaYVR · Answer

Need more info. The specifics matter.

PrettyPriya · Answer

Geez, that is a long time to give the cold shoulder. Maybe time to say "Hey, listen. We need to sit down and talk about (whatever it is that happened)".

If he can't do that, you have some real issues to sort.

SnakeBoop · Answer

get a divorce from a man child who thinks ignoring you is what solves problems.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Men like to give silent treatments that make them feel good, When I gave some girl the silent treatment for treating me like shit then she started crying, So who is worst, I feel bad for what I did and this girl wouldn't act a certain way, I wanted her to act, like an ass to that girl, I even put her hand in the door, I should went somewhere and got my balls cut off for allowing my mental illness to take over but see when I came to GAG
this website taught me to become a Man

Finchie40 · Answer

3 days is a long time and pretty much Showing signs that you are In a Toxic marriage , my ex use to pull that shit on me to find out she was having an affair , if someone loves you they won’t go that long without communicating with you and sorting it out , when someone can go days that just shows they only care about themselves and you are just a convenience to them

ohshee · Answer

Well you need to tell him to grow up and ask him what the hell's going on that's ridiculous asking if you did something wrong happy if he just lost his voice asking if he lost his eyes you can't see me no more what is the Dill he has to have a reason any should let you know about it no matter what it is that would be pretty hard not talking to anybody why do you think that he is doing it

midnightmoon05 · Answer

There is a lot more (issues) going on before him not talking to you for days.  this is your call… no one can or should tell you what to do from an online form.

TrueConfection · Answer

My husband likes to pull that and sometimes without explanation or even an argument. Over time, I made the decision to be joyful with or without his participation and sometimes I even welcome the silence.

All you can do is change your mindset. You can't fix his childish behavior.

Mangospacho · Answer

It depends. If he’s done this before then he really has a problem with handling conflict. If he’s never done this before then you need to confront him about what’s wrong.

oobidee · Answer

I'd just give it to him right back. Drive him crazy by getting ready and randomly leaving only to hang out with friends of course. He'll want to know your wearabouts right away and have to address you once it eats at him long enough.

Anonymous · Answer

I had 2 exes like that. Both didn't changed neither agreed they're wrong.
The first used to ghosted for 1 ~ 2 weeks.
The second would do it for 3 days or 4 but then did it 2 times with more than 1 month of ghosting.
You should rethink seriously this relationship.
It's abusive.
It destroyed a lot of my confidence and self-esteem

sheikalana · Answer

this is a very immature and passive aggressive attitude. regardless if you had a fight or a disagreement this isn’t the way to deal with it. I’d suggest doing the same don’t talk to him either and do not attempt to talk to him. do your life as if he wasn’t there. when he decides to finally talk you both should have a serious conversation and make sure this won’t happen again in the future.

nice-girl · Answer

Act as if you’re single. This means more time alone to do your own activities.

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds like he's stonewalling you. Stonewalling is very bad for a relationship. If he can't communicate like an adult, even when he's upset, it will be very difficult to ever overcome any challenges and will leave you feeling sad and neglected. You can try to explain this to him, and maybe even look up stonewalling so he understands that it's a real thing. You can try to suggest couple's counseling. But in my experience, people like this are not very receptive to changing their ways.

scentoflavender · Answer

Well i dont know the situation, or the cause. I dont know where the blame lies. So i can't advise on that. All i can go off of is that he's not talking and you want him to. So if you want a fool proof method, try blowing him.

AviatorTom · Answer

Don't wait for him to talk with you. Go and talk with him, ask him why the cold shoulder.

kyliesz · Answer

Giving the silence treatment is unfair and unnecessary you can't read his mind and know whats wrong? unless you know what u did to make him react this way

Anonymous · Answer

I like reading the comments from the women. There first option is always... LEAVE... DIVORCE... GO FIND SOMEONE BETTER... YOU CAN DO BAD ALL BY YOURSELF... this is why relationships don't last anymore. Lol. But seriously... talk to him and see if you can figure it out. Communication is key.

Wonderer12 · Answer

I think you have to try to sit him down and talk to him and just let him know again how it made you feel. Let him know that even though he may have been kidding you didn't like it

Daniela1982 · Answer

All right, what did you do? Guys don't stop talking for no reason. Sometimes you have to be the bigger one and apologize even if you were not in the wrong just to make peace.

quarkstar63 · Answer

Contact his parents and explain to them that he is not talking to you. Ask them if they will talk to your husband. That should at least get a response.

loveslongnails · Answer

Pack up your stuff and go stay with your girlfriend. WHY isn't he talking to you?

Shamalien · Answer

You said you lashed out at him. That means you need to come forward with an apology before you two can resume discourse

Heartache0405 · Answer

Neither you nor your husband would have to worry about this if you both didn't get married 🤷🏻‍♂️

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

What's the context lol? give us something then only can we suggest an idea

Anonymous · Answer

Couples counselling or divorce. Its not healthy for either of you to stay in this abusive relationship.

cmarrott · Answer

Ignoring your spouse is a form of emotional abuse. Leave him and move on. Anyone willing to do that for 3 days is certifiably crazy.

Subarugirl · Answer

Talk to your husband, go to couples counseling, you have to work out your issues, or call it quits

SilverRain92 · Answer

Do you know the reason why he is acting like that and doesn't want to talk to you? There should be some reason behind such kind of behaviour

Sarmed · Answer

Men like to give silent treatment if they have to punish you. Try to find out what he got to know about you or something wrong with his professional life.

noohair · Answer

What did you do? If you told him his dick is too small, it is over.

hahahmm · Answer

Depends what you did...

Miristheiss · Answer

What happened? What is the argument or rift about?

Somegirl678 · Answer

lol i didn't actually know people did this

Neosporin · Answer

Sounds like a temperamental brat

worldscolide · Answer

Need more details on what happened.

Iron_Man · Answer

Give it one more day and then call him

PeterSmith1983 · Answer

Enjoy it while it last!

OddBeMe · Answer

Tell him he’s a pussy.

Anonymous · Answer

enjoy the peace and quiet

imfreeze95 · Answer

Foolproof method demand sex that’s all I got sorry

TallAnon · Answer

Ask him what's up or throw him an ultimatum.

jimmy2 · Answer

He no talk for 3 days leave for 3 days lol

nawtee_me · Answer

Why did he stop talking to you to begin with?

emperor90 · Answer

Ask him whats up maybe he is having a bad day

Anonymous · Answer

What exactly happened between you two?

Yellovv · Answer

Why he is upset to you?

Mericorock · Answer

What actually display on weathy relationship

Anonymous · Answer

Get on your knees and open your mouth for him

Anonymous · Answer

Tell him silent treatment isn't the answer

Seangreen · Answer

what did you do

Browneye57 · Answer

Get a new husband.

Anonymous · Answer

He’s mad because you been cheating

Babygirl_S · Answer

Talk to him.

Abdulwahh · Answer

Sort the problem out

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