I got angry after an argument and ruined everything. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

All this happened two and a half weeks ago.

Me and the I girl I'm in love with (both 16) had an argument about something silly, but neither of us were disrespectful until I got angry and blocked her. In response, she deleted my number, but then I unblocked her and asked her to add me back. Anyway, the discussion continued and she said she doesn't want to be my friend anymore, I insisted and, in the end, said:

"I am tired of you."
"After everything we've been through, so many conversations and good times, you just break up with me? Have you forgotten what happened between us? How disappointing"

She blocked me and then changed her number. So, at school, one week ago, I gave her a chocolate with a note inside saying sorry. Well, so far she hasn't unblocked me (she has my number written down). I can't be at peace until I correct my mistakes. She said she likes me and I really don't want her to hold any grudge against me, even if she hates me for now. What is my next step? Wait for her?

[GaGirls]

First, you lost her. You're not getting her back and tbh forget about her anyway. You won't care in 6 months. I promise.

2. Go get some goals and become self-discipline. Go figure out what you want to do in life and start working toward being the person you want to be. Not just career but as a man. Start building habits. The only "make right" you're going to get is to be a success at being the person you wish to be. Everyone who ever did you wrong or you did wrong will have to change they way they look at you. Doesn't mean you get them back but you do change what is in their head. Most importantly you change what is in YOUR head. It's worth it trust me. That's an under statement.

3. Forget her. I promise she isn't all that. Go ask 6 girls out. I don't care if you like them or not. I don't care if you flake on them or not. The point is to simply ask them out, talk to them, make your intentions known that you are interest romantically. These girls don't have to be from your school nor do they have to be under 18. This is give you the understanding EMOTIONALLY that there are plenty of fish in the sea. You cannot know it solely mentally. You do not know it. It must be emotionally. Don't go sitting in a room by yourself thinking this chick is some gift from god. She isn't the person you built in your head... I promise that. But by far #2 is most important. Put all your heartache into changing. Not for her. Fuck her. You're over valuing her. For you. It is build the confidence you need. It will come from you instead of love and some girl. Go reread #2. Then read it again. But remember in 6 months the pain will be gone. I know it hurts. I know it hurts right now.

[OlderAndWiser]

1. "I got angry after an argument and ruined everything. What should I do?" You should learn when to keep your mouth shut. You should learn to think before you act. You should learn that, in the adult world, you can't say or do something and then say "I take it back" and expect everyone to ignore what you've done.

2. "I can't be at peace until I correct my mistakes." Then you will live a life filled with unrest because you dont always get a chance or an opportunity to correct your mistakes.

3. What should you do? Learn from your mistakes so that you don't repeat them.

4. What should you do about her? You lost your chance and bothering her will only dig this hole even deeper. Leave her alone and accept that, if it is meant to be, it will happen again. . . but it probably won't.

[Skyliner33ss]

You're wise man

[OlderAndWiser]

@skyliner33ss I appreciate your kind words.

[Skyliner33ss]

Thank you 👍🏻

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[ohshee]

The first thing you do you be honest with yourself the second thing you do is you don't try to control a woman or anybody else in this world if you don't tell people what to do especially so when you say you love you need to man up and stay away from her do she says if you want you she will come find you. There are many lessons here for you you should really think about it and acknowledge all of them. You wouldn't have to go through this if you were doing the right thing think about it and whatever you do don't start pushing yourself on her because it'll only get worse for you

[Dragonpurple]

Learn to control your anger first, and don't ever block someone you are about.

It is easier to prevent this that to fix it, you may not be able to ever fix it. Move on for now, maybe you will find someone better, maybe she will come around and forgive you.

You will not be able to make her change her mind or do anything to fix it, beyond what you have already done. It is up to her, and do not expect anything.

[AviatorTom]

You've let her know you're sorry. It's now her move. It may take a while for her to get over your "silly argument". I'm sure you still see her at school. Just let her know, with your body language, that you still like her. Don't ignore her.

[Seangreen]

Your next step is to realize you're 16 and you're going to deal with this crap all the time and just don't waste too much on this one person

[Mangospacho]

Well, if you apologize to her and she doesn’t take you back then it’s just as well because you are going to have those kinds of arguments at some point.

[macc1381]

Sounds like the best thing to do is just wait for her to come to you. But maybe she doesn't want to in the end, so I would prepare to move on. Chances are she will contact you in a week or so if she still likes you but don't chase after her.

[noohair]

My experience is that when a woman decides that it is over, it is done. You can only learn from your mistakes and be better with someone else.

[captain_voidwalker]

Your anger is justified and you did nothing wrong. If she can realize her mistake and apologize thats great if not fuck her move on.

[FictionalCharacter]

You are a manipulator

[ryuueasifa]

Look the man looking for help when he is down. He messed and he sees that so let's teach him instead of insulting him

[spartan55]

Dude, leave her alone

[Pharez]

Be sorry and apologize, it's simple

[emperor90]

Apologise to her and give her space

[Anonymous]

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