Have you ever told someone you do not have romantic feelings for them even though you did?

[Anonymous]

And if so, why? Who was that person? Do you regret it?

[Dojaphat456]

Yes, long story short I got scared maybe I was going to get rejected for my personality. I was too shy. Who is he... doesn't matter he's long gone now😢

[Asker]

Damn! Did you claim you do not have feelings for them in response to them telling you they don't?

[Dojaphat456]

It's sort of complicated. I THINK we both liked eachother. But when it came down to confessing we both denied. Also, dude was a player so I was chasing false hope. What's going on in your situation? You can ask me any questions I'm an open book

[Asker]

Lol, I like how you assume I am in a similar boat haha.

Well, I am! My best friend and I few months ago claimed we did not have feelings for each other. Till this moment we believe that. Speaking for myself, I do. But I am afraid to confess for two reasons:

1. Maybe she doesn't feel the same, and our friendship will probably never be the same again
2. Maybe she doesn't feel the same AND will use that to her advantage (to feel superior etc)

I don't know. It's a hit or miss. Sometimes I feel she might have feelings (even though one day she said.. she doesn't), and other times I am like "dude, wake up, there is no way she has feelings for you".

Tough stuff. If it wasn't my best friend I wouldn't care.

[Asker]

Why did you deny having feelings for them by the way?

[Dojaphat456]

Tricky tricky situation. Hows the touch barrier with you guys? Does she pull away or does she let you touch her. Arms, back, ... to test this out maybe place your hand on her lower back to see how she will react. Some may be shocked but if she secretly likes you she'll wish youd never let go

[Dojaphat456]

I denied because I was totally scared and unprepared. Also, he seemed to start not liking me back I don't know but he had his girl best friend ask me who I like while he was standing behind me? I don't know what that was about

[Asker]

Can't really talk much about the touching barrier because as I mentioned in my post we currently live far away from each other. We only meet a few times a year in our hometown (we are originally from the same city but study in different Unis).

So yeah, I can't comment much on any physical part. Mainly texts/voice messages/phone calls.

[Dojaphat456]

Ah okay well dont regret nothing. Try your best