I have watched so many guys I know get married and lose. Most got divorced, none of them were treated fairly in the process and the ones who had children did not get a fair deal in child custody, visitation or alimony and child support. Marriage seems to be a losing proposition for men these days. And relationships seem to just lead to marriage so I would rather just avoid them. I have a good job and plenty of friends, and I can date and get sex when I want it. No need to put myself at risk.
This is a good question. This never happened to me but one year I dated several different girls. They were all disasters although I was probably at fault at times. After one bad relationship I decided to give up on women for a while or maybe forever. The next day I met my future wife.
Though I always dreamt of having a quality relationship, I've never experienced more than a slight tease of my ideal. In fact, some of my degrees were triggered by my desire to learn all I could about what makes for a healthy relationship. I don't believe my expectations are too high, as I don't seek more than I bring to the relationship. I find the opposite is true in women, though. Just take a look at the profiles women post on dating sites. They seem to be more interested in a provider of a lifestyle than an equal partner. They expect world travel, fine dining and entertainment, fancy things to show off, alcohol and drugs, and doing all the things they didn't do while raising their family. They tend to be quick to criticize and demand. My ex-wife complained when I wouldn't live beyond my means. She and her next ex-husband went bankrupt.
I'm not saying I put forth no effort to find someone to connect with, as I know the type of woman I value does exist, but I no longer put forth as much energy in that area. Marriage is out, as this close to retirement I couldn't afford to pay for another divorce. What are the chances of finding a tranquil woman, who isn't larger than me, who truly enjoys simple life on a farm? Is it too much to ask for someone who cares about more than just herself (not doing for others conditionally to get what she wants in return or being inconsiderate of how her choices impact others), values clear, open, honest communication, teamwork, equality in all areas, and a love of nature, who seeks no more than she brings to the relationship? I won't hold my breath. I'll just continue to savor the beauty that surrounds me, as I transition out of my career, while continuing to propagate new plants and sharing my harvest. I get more unconditional love from my dogs than I've ever gotten from a woman.
You're really 67 huh
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