Is this a manipulative tactic that abusers often use?

[Anonymous]

Like say your boyfriend or girlfriend is abusive toward you, rather that’s physically, mentally, emotionally, verbally or all of the above, but they go around preaching to others and giving advice. Telling other people to “Grow up” and “Learn how to be a man (woman).” Telling people what they’re doing wrong in their life and they’re always the loudest in the room when something goes wrong and a debate happens between a group of people, just so they can be heard, they try to use big words and say things that seem “out of the box” or “intelligent”. They want to come off as the smartest in the room when really they just said a bunch of nothing or something that everyone already knows. When you try to disagree with the things they say that they swear by it’s always them making you feel like you’re the dumb one and they say things like “It’s not like I’m telling you anything wrong.” Or “I wouldn’t steer you in the wrong direction.” “I wouldn’t be saying this if I didn’t care about you.”

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

It’s emotion abuse — according to psychologists and relationship counselors

[mark000h]

It's bullying tactics. People like that get off and feel superior for hurting others.

[slatyb]

Very common. It call comes from deep feelings of inferiority.

[Asker]

It’s throws me off. My friend is with a guy who abuses her in many ways, everyone knows and of course we have told her to leave but we’ve learned she’s gonna leave when she’s fed up. I’ve been around him and he is exactly the way I described in the post. Even if she has a theory on something that the four of us, me my boyfriend, her and her boyfriend, are watching on Netflix or something he’ll say something like “No you have to start putting yourself outside of your body and thinking more clearly.” In other words saying her theory is dumb and makes no sense. He always wants to be the one who knows everything. Once he was telling us how he has to give his older siblings advice because he knows more than them but he feels it should be other way around and they should be showing him the way but he believes he’s doing that job for them. I never met or heard someone so arrogant when it comes to themselves.

[SkipPerk]

This person simply sounds like a blow hard. Is she/he that beautiful to be worth it?

[IMuser]

It's ether abusive behaviour or plain stupidity.